THE DAILY ASTORIAN • TUESDAY, JUNE 2, 2015
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Is shaming a form of abuse?
Tomorrow’s horoscope
Dear Annie: My 14-year-old
daughter attends an all-girls school.
Her stepfather initially encouraged
it, but in the past two years, my
daughter has made friends with a
few classmates who say they are
lesbian or bisexual.
My husband is extremely con-
servative (borderline homophobic),
and as a result, he is shaming my
daughter regularly for her friend-
ships. I have a good bond with my
daughter and feel torn. I know my
husband cares about her, but his
comments are hurtful. He says he
will keep it up to make sure she
doesn’t “become” a lesbian.
I’ve pleaded with him, tried to
understand him and told him to
stop, but it continues. What do I
do? — Is This Abuse?
Dear Abuse: Shaming your
daughter is a form of abuse. Your
husband sounds ignorant, ho-
mophobic and idiotic. Friendships
with bisexual or homosexual girls
will not make your daughter “be-
come” a lesbian. But we guarantee
that your husband’s bullying will
push her toward rejecting every-
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over her will diminish to nothing.
You need to stand up for your
daughter more strongly. Insist that
you and your husband get counsel-
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Even
though you’re a practical realist, in order
to motivate the people around you, you’ll
tap into your visionary powers and paint
a pretty picture of the ideal scenario with
your eloquent words.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). Asking the
same dead-end question over and over
again will never produce what you need.
Change it up. Feel around for the right
trigger. The right question is like a magic
button.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your mood:
strategic. You know just what to do to com-
mand respect and gain the freedom or au-
thority you desire. Bonus: You could even
turn your opponents into allies.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Watching
another person grow up is a great plea-
sure, even if that person happens to be
older than you. Today illustrates just how
far a friend or family member has come.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You have rules
about self-expression that are more strin-
gent than society’s rules — at least the
society you’re living in now. It’s OK to hoot,
holler, applaud, cheer and laugh out loud,
and it’s OK to cry. Go ahead.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Accept the
changes going on or reject them — they
are going to happen either way. You don’t
have to acknowledge and integrate these
developments into your experience, but
you’ll be more powerful if you do.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Forget about
the silver linings. As long as you’re look-
ing for the good in a situation, you may
as well go for the gold or platinum linings,
because they will be there, too.
graph her mother’s stone and create
a memorial that mentions the sur-
names of both husbands, their dates
of marriage, children from either
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ing immediately to work on this. If both sites. Of course, descendants
he refuses and will not curtail this need to know these online memo-
behavior, we recommend you take rials exist in order to make use of
your daughter and leave the house. them, and one never knows what
Your husband needs to understand the future holds when it comes to
the consequences of his actions, technology. But we are happy to
and more importantly, your child mention both websites and appre-
should not be subjected to such ciate being able to pass along the
emotional abuse. You are the only information to all of our readers.
one who can protect her.
Dear Annie: I read your column
Dear Annie: I read the letter about prepaid funerals and whole-
from “G,” whose mother died and heartedly recommend them. I have
the headstone uses only the sur- SUHSDLG¿YHIXQHUDOV0\ZLIHDQG
name of her second husband. “G” I started doing this back in 1997
was concerned that her children’s with our own funerals. We paid
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their grandmother’s grave because of 70 years passed away last year.
they won’t necessarily recall the Had we not paid in advance, her
second husband’s surname.
funeral would have cost $8,300. I
Please suggest to “G” that she also prepaid for my daughter’s fu-
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grave.com and www.billiongraves. what she wanted. There is too
com to see whether Grandma has a much grief to do it at the time of
memorial. If not, “G” could photo- death. — R
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ROSE IS ROSE
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). You will
rebuild yourself even better than before.
This remodel will suit your mindset better
and will create a lifestyle that highlights,
exercises and celebrates the best in you.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). No
one stumbles onto the meaning of life,
because the meaning of life is something
each person has to create. Life has no
meaning except the one you assign to it,
so make an assignment that vitalizes you.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Peo-
ple who think they are too small to make
a difference will complain instead of act.
You sense that you are bigger than the
problem, which is why you don’t think to
complain — you just handle it.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). How you
say things will make a bigger impact than
what you say. Establish a connection be-
fore you deliver your message, and you’ll
be more likely to be heard, understood
and followed.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You aspire
to do something difficult very well, and
you’ll keep on practicing until you get the
results you desire. The feedback you get
today is just one drop in the bucket.
WEDNESDAY’S BIRTHDAY (June
3). Cultivate friendships with those who
share your values. If you don’t know what
new people value, then ask. An idiosyn-
cratic person adds sparkle to your world
in the next three months. Things are al-
ways more interesting around this person.
An old flame makes things interesting in
2016. Libra and Scorpio people adore
you. Your lucky numbers are: 35, 49, 12,
28 and 19.