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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, APRIL 17, 2015
Son’s girlfriend demands too much Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: Twelve years
ago, my son moved his girl-
friend into our home. “Lena”
lived with us for four years, and
we treated her like family. They
broke up, and Lena moved out.
She then married someone else
and now has an adorable 6-year-
old daughter. We have remained
such good friends with her that
my husband walked her down
the aisle at her wedding.
My son is now 30 and has
never married. Unfortunately,
his current girlfriend is de-
manding that we sever all ties
with Lena, and she is causing
problems for us with our son.
We have tried to reassure them
both that the old flame is no
threat to their new romance, but
it hasn’t helped.
We live in a very small town
where everyone knows each
other. Is it fair for us to be
treated this way? — Mom
Dear Mom: Of course not,
but that doesn’t solve the prob-
lem. The new girlfriend is terri-
bly insecure and needs to control
everyone around her, including
you. She doesn’t realize how her
attitude damages her relation-
ship with you. Your son permits
this because he wants to keep
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seeing her, and as long as he
does so, you will need to limit
your contact with Lena in order
to have a relationship with your
son. We only hope he doesn’t
marry this girl. She sounds like
a major headache.
Dear Annie: My husband
is a girl watcher. I find it very
hurtful that I can’t keep his at-
tention. He is constantly look-
ing around, and when he zeroes
in on some young blonde with
a great figure, he repeatedly
stares at her.
I have confronted him a few
times about this habit, and he
denies that he is doing it. Am I
being irrationally jealous? Do I
need to just get over it? Every-
thing else at home seems fine.
— Want Him To Look Only at
Me
Dear Want: Your husband’s
behavior is boorish, but not
threatening. Most guys look.
The problem is, he is so blatant
about it that it becomes disre-
spectful to you. If he truly does
not realize he is doing this, you
need to call his attention to it.
Behavior modification can
work. Smile and say calm-
ly, “I see you’re checking out
the blonde at that table. She is
pretty. But you are a bit obvi-
ous when you keep staring.”
He may deny it, but because he
knows you can tell, he should
be more willing to admit that
his technique needs work. It is
important not to become angry
or annoyed. Your goal is to get
him to notice his own behavior
enough to control it.
We don’t believe he means
to hurt you. As long as he isn’t
approaching these women and
attempting to get a date, please
try to be tolerant until he ma-
tures.
Dear Annie: This is for
“Stuck in the Midwest,” who
wants to convince her husband
to move to a warmer climate.
She should get on Google Maps
and show him the street view of
all the places in her “new city.”
— Tried It
FRANK AND ERNEST
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WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You like to
be around the kind of people who know
what they want, and you don’t mind if what
they want is you. But you prefer a direct
approach. You’ll be skeptical of roundabout
communication.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You want
everyone to know who you love, but you
don’t want them to talk about your love life.
That’s why you’ll keep your business pri-
vate. It will drive your nosy friends nuts.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Are your ex-
pectations realistic? If you’re frustrated, the
answer is no. But that’s not a problem! All
you have to do is adjust and then revisit the
situation until you hit that sweet spot where
expectation meets reality.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your skills
may seem arbitrary to you, and sometimes
you think they don’t matter to anyone out-
side of your little corner of the world. Not
true! The reaction you get from others will
prove the point.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You have a nose
for trouble, and you’ll use it today to steer
away from the danger, not toward it. You don’t
need the excitement. You’ve already seen
enough drama, and besides, you’re too busy.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Compli-
ments are gifts you sometimes feel awk-
ward accepting. Take them, and you feel
greedy. Turn them down, and you feel rude.
The way to go is to shift the focus back
to the graciousness of the one doing the
complimenting.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Cultivating a
content and thankful spirit can seem diamet-
rically opposed to your main ambitions, but
it’s really not. Finding something to appreci-
ate in the less than ideal will attract good luck.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). It’s weird
how the smallest things can expand your
heart as big as a hot air balloon and set
you sailing across the cloudless sky of
your mind. This all happens for one reason:
You were noticing.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). When
you lose your cellular connection with
someone, it’s not because the other per-
son isn’t there and wanting to talk to you.
It’s just outside interference. Other person-
al connections are the same. Call again.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). A con-
flict may be subtle at this point, but it’s there
all the same. You’re not imagining it. In fact,
you have witnesses. Play it cool. Show ev-
eryone watching that you’re above this fight.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). There
are interesting people out there you know
about and want to meet. Also, there are
equally interesting people you know noth-
ing about who want to meet you. Be open
to the friendliness of strangers.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The old
saying goes, “Fall down seven times, stand
up eight.” As the sign associated with feet,
you might take a more practical approach
for instance, a sturdier pair of shoes.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (April 18).
You’ll meet the people you want to know
this year. You might find that you’ve ideal-
ized them, or you’ll hit it off like a candle and
a match. May is your perspective-changer.
A new goal carries you through the follow-
ing two months. Spend on your family and
on creating special experiences. Capricorn
and Aquarius people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 3, 14, 39, 34 and 36.