THE DAILY ASTORIAN • WEDNESDAY, MARCH 11, 2015
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Dear Annie: My wife and I are
in our early 40s and have been
married for six years. Two years
after we married, I discovered
that “Becky” was having an affair
with a co-worker. They both lost
their jobs over it.
We tried marriage counseling,
and it seemed to help. From what
I could get out of Becky, they
were intimate only once.
But I’ve never felt that the
whole truth came out. It was the
Other Man’s girlfriend, “Jenny,”
who discovered the affair. I re-
cently decided to contact Jenny
to see whether she could supply
the missing pieces.
We agreed to meet over coffee,
and I found out that she and the
Other Man broke up. Jenny in-
formed me that, contrary to what
Becky told me, the affair lasted
another 18 months after we dis-
covered what was going on.
But, Annie, here’s the new
problem: After meeting several
times, Jenny and I have devel-
oped feelings for each other and
find ourselves in a situation sim-
ilar to that of my wife and her
ex-boyfriend.
I know that two wrongs don’t
make a right. I also believe that a
marriage can be saved after an af-
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fair. But Becky’s lies are always
in the back of my head, and now
I don’t know what to do. — Need
Help in Jersey
Dear Jersey: You have found
a kindred spirit in Jenny because
you have been through a shared
experience. You also still harbor
resentment toward Becky, and
whether or not you recognize it,
this is a convenient way to get
even. Do you want to save your
marriage? If so, stop seeing Jen-
ny, get back into counseling with
Becky, tell her you know the af-
fair was more serious than she ad-
mitted, and ask her to come clean
so you can truly work through
this. If she refuses, or if you are
still convinced she is lying, you
might be better off apart. But
don’t use Jenny as an excuse to
get there.
Dear Annie: Could you influ-
ence my college-educated hus-
band to stop licking his fingers
when he counts his money? He
refuses to acknowledge how dis-
gusting this is. My stomach turns
when he opens his wallet and I
hear him lick his thumb and fore-
finger to get bills out. I also have
seen the disgusted look on the
cashier’s face when she accepts
his “licked” money. Would you
please tell him how unhealthy
this is? — Disgusted Wife
Dear Wife: In a study last
year, researchers at New York
University tested dollar bills and
found 3,000 different kinds of
bacteria, some of which can cause
gastric ulcers, pneumonia, food
poisoning, staph infections and
acne. They also found fungi and
plant pathogens, DNA from hors-
es and dogs, and minute traces of
anthrax and diphtheria.
Lots of people have already
touched the money your hus-
band licks. He is putting all of
their bacteria, not to mention his
own and whatever is brewing in
his wallet, into his mouth. As an
added incentive, you might tell
him you don’t intend to kiss that
mouth until he brushes his teeth
and gargles with an antiseptic
mouthwash. Yuck.
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Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You admire
self-control. That’s why you relate more
readily to a person who is apparently
struggling to hold back emotions and re-
main decorous than you do to someone
who displays every passing feeling.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You wish
your emotions had a volume control knob
that you could twist at your leisure. Maybe
they do! The more you practice the better
you manage your feelings.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your sense
of humor will send a message: You’ve
already risen above the petty squabbles
and whatever other unpleasantness hap-
pens to be standing in the way of a good
time.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Everyone
has insecurities about where they stand
in a group. Your sensitivity to the topic will
endear you to those who feel anxious and
unsure of their standing. They are learning
to trust you, and you are learning to lead
them.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). You lived it, and
you can’t unlive it. But you can put a new
frame on this little piece of history — one
that goes better with the new paint on the
walls of your psyche.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). You may
feel like you have to hide your true identity,
but that’s not a horrible plight. Pretending
to be less than who you are is the fate of
all superheroes.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Avoid argu-
ment. A peaceful aura is attractive. In the
evening, a loved one will impress you. Be
sure to voice your feelings and share them.
This person could use the validation.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Mistakes
will happen during practice. Actually, mis-
takes are the very essence of practice.
If there are no mistakes, it only means
you’re not stretching enough.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
don’t really need a rescue, but someone
will offer you help, and you would be wise
to take it. Not only will it make your life
easier, but the “helper” will get more from
the experience than you will.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). When
the machines won’t let you accomplish
what you need to do, it’s a sign. Instead
of calling technical support, which could
take hours, move on to the next (non-digi-
tal and ultimately rewarding) task.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Let
someone in on your driving ambition,
because help is all around you. With the
support of a team, your best qualities will
shine: a light heart, a witty tongue and a
heartwarming laugh.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). You have
more charisma than you know what to do
with. There are people out there gauging
their social status by how much attention
and affection they get from you.
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (March 12).
The biggest difference manifests because
you take time for yourself every day this
year. As your understanding of and rela-
tionship with your “self” deepens, so will
your relationships with others. Love is
a big theme starting in June, and you’ll
move and change because of this. May
and July are your biggest money months.
Leo and Scorpio people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 1, 14, 38, 22 and 19.