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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 20, 2015
She’s tired of sharing boyfriend Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: I’m in my early 50s,
single again after a long 20-year rela-
tionship that should have ended soon-
er.
A year ago, I met a guy I really like,
and we’ve been seeing each other seri-
ously since. “Bill” has about a dozen
close female friends. He does things
like buy them bras and brags that he
knows all of their sizes. It hasn’t been a
deal breaker because I’ve met most of
them, and they really are just friends.
However, it bugs me that we’ll
make plans to spend a quiet afternoon
together, and then one of these girl-
friends will text him, and instead of
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Bill will meet up with her (and often
her girlfriends), and the next thing you
know, I’m stuck sharing him with a
bunch of women.
Also, with two of these women, he
doesn’t tell me he has seen them until
after the fact. Last weekend, he got us
tickets to a golf game. I knew he want-
ed to take a male friend, so I gave up
my ticket. It turns out, he had four tick-
ets and took the friend along with two
girls. He didn’t even offer to tell me he
had extra tickets.
When Bill is out with these wom-
en, he avoids my calls. He buys them
drinks and either lies about it or just
doesn’t mention it. He says it’s not
cheating if he doesn’t sleep with them.
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He continues to do this even though
I’ve said it seems disrespectful to our
relationship.
Am I being unreasonable or just
gullible? I’m still in great shape and
have had many other offers. I’m ready
to settle down in a meaningful rela-
tionship, and this is like high school.
Thoughts? — Tired of Sharing
Dear Tired: What are you doing
with this immature man-child? Do you
seriously think he is going to give up
his little harem for you? He is not. It’s
time to move on.
Dear Annie: My husband and I are
close friends with “John and Mary.”
John continues to spend money on
“toys” he feels he “needs” without
Mary’s knowledge. We know this be-
cause he shares the information with
my husband and shows him the things
he has purchased. John has incurred a
great deal of debt, and Mary hasn’t a
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nances. Meanwhile, he gets upset with
how much she spends on groceries,
gas or household furniture.
My husband and I consider hones-
ty to be a cornerstone of our marriage.
It makes us sick that John is not being
honest with his wife. We’ve already
encouraged John to tell Mary the truth,
and he hasn’t. So do we tell her, or do
we just stay out of their business? —
Honest BFFs
Dear Honest: Hard as it may
be, you need to stay out of this, and
your husband should not be admiring
John’s “toys.” You can explain to John
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the consequences will be compounded
by his lying. He is better off working
with her than against her. She could be
a supportive partner. You also can sug-
gest he contact Debtors Anonymous
(debtorsanonymous.org) for help.
Dear Annie: This is a response to
“Frustrated,” the 67-year-old widow
who misses sex and wants to know
whether masturbation is still a mortal sin.
As one who was raised a Catholic,
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ciful God, and I believe He is, would
condemn those who commit the “sin”
of masturbation to an eternity in Hell
along with serial killers and mass mur-
derers. If that is the case, that widow
will have an awful lot of company
there. — A Believer
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ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You are feel-
ing fickle and could agitate someone with
your indecision, especially someone with
hopes for your exclusive attention. Just re-
member that you don’t owe anyone anything.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). You are
humble enough to see that you need to
work hard, yet confident enough to see
that, at your best, you can absolutely out-
shine the competition.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Your love life
will get the focus today. Singles will make
a connection with someone witty and fun.
Couples will add a new exciting element to
their routine. When your heart is happy, so
are you.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). Your view
will be obstructed, and therefore you’ll have
to take the first step in faith. This will make
it a more memorable experience. Others
have done this, too. You have nothing to
worry about.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). A loved one’s at-
tention is fixed on you. Now that you have
it, reward the behavior. Also note that your
whims may seem off course, but ultimate-
ly, if you follow them, you will find a better
route to where you’re going.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). Account-
ability is the theme. Make sure your team
knows what you want them to do. And if
you’re not sure who is on your team, this is
a fine time to sort that out.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). As for the
mundane details of life’s maintenance,
you’re not that interested right now. You’re
also not so keen on the hard facts and the
logic. You’re busy feeling your way through,
and that will work beautifully.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Everyone
wants to give advice whether or not they
really have their own thing together. Is that
help, or is it ego? Either way, there are a
few gems in what comes toward you that
are definitely worth listening to.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
are not responsible for the energy of the
world, but you definitely have the power
to influence it. Use that power today. Your
smile is one of the least expensive and
most effective things you can offer.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Don’t
make the mistake of defining yourself
based on what you do for others. They
might define you according to those terms,
and it’s egocentric (yet very human) of
them to do so, but you should not.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Thinking
out loud is fun when you have a respon-
sive audience. Don’t confuse thoughts with
facts, though. The internal dialogue is a
sea of opinions generated by an extremely
active and malleable mind.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). If they
assume they are doing you a favor by in-
structing you, they’ll get a surprise. You
prefer to seek your own instruction — or,
differently put, “Don’t tell me what to do.”
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 21).
Seize the advantage you couldn’t act on
until this year. You’ll fully maximize it in
March. April brings public praise. May fea-
tures better living through diet, exercise and
relationships. Transportation improvements
happen in August. You’ll get where you want
to go mentally and physically. Aquarius and
Scorpio people adore you. Your lucky num-
bers are: 33, 22, 41, 24 and 16.