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THE DAILY ASTORIAN • FRIDAY, FEBRUARY 13, 2015
He suspects she’s cheating on him Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: My wife and I have
been married for 19 years. I have been
faithful the entire time, and I would like
to think she has been, as well. There
have been a few times when she has
come home extremely late after going
out with “the girls,” and she some-
times comes home an hour or two later
than expected after work. She always
has an explanation, and although the
thought has crossed my mind, I have
never accused her of cheating.
I recently received an anonymous
message via Facebook saying that
my wife has been cheating on me for
years, and the message even named
the person. It’s a guy we know, and
he’s the one who came to mind on
those nights when my wife returned
home late.
Under normal circumstances, I
would dismiss the anonymous mes-
sage as a prank, but I’m not so sure.
Should I confront my wife and ask
whether something is going on?
Should I just let it be? I’m not sure
she’d tell me the truth if she were, in
fact, cheating, and more importantly,
I’m not sure I really want to know. —
Wondering in Winter
Dear Wondering: If you truly
don’t want to know and/or you trust
your wife, then ignore the anonymous
message. But it seems you already are
concerned, and the message simply
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gave voice to your worst fears. So,
we think you should speak to your
wife. Show her the message. Explain
why you are taking it seriously. Ask
whether she has anything to tell you.
Her response should be reassuring, not
defensive.
Dear Annie: I have been with
“Darrin” for two years. He is 12 years
younger than I am. His mother still
drives in from a nearby town in order
to clean his house and do his laundry.
He has three children who do nothing
unless I ask them, and then I’m the
mean one.
I try to cook food that his children
will like, but even when I supply their
requested items, there are tears or com-
plaints. I am frustrated. Darrin used to
be romantic and sweet. Now we bicker
constantly.
He wants me to give up my friends,
my family and my dog, and I don’t
want to. He has broken two cellphones
and a chair by throwing them at me. I
have been bounced off the bed, choked
and sent to the hospital for stitches.
But he always apologizes and feels
terrible afterward.
I know Darrin loves me, but I can’t
understand why he acts like this. My
family thinks I need to leave. I have
tried, but I miss him and know that I
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much as he does. We tried counseling,
but he claimed the counselor “liked
me more” and was unfair to him. Am I
crazy for staying? Should I try to make
things better by being more patient? —
Rock and a Hard Place
Dear Rock: Maybe you should
wait until Darrin slams you against the
wall and kills you. Your boyfriend is an
abuser. He doesn’t love you. He loves
controlling you. Get out now. Call the
National Domestic Violence Hotline at
1-800-799-SAFE (thehotline.org) and
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it’s too late. Please.
Dear Annie: “Eileen” said she
bought a gift card to a restaurant that
subsequently went out of business, so
now she’s stuck. She and other readers
with this problem might check with
their state treasurer. By law, the funds
in those cards belong to the holder, not
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might be able to help get their money
back. — J.W.
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ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). Thinking that
you are supposed to know something will
keep you asking the questions that will lead
you to really know it. Therefore, be fine with
not knowing and boldly express your curios-
ity.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). If you focus
too small, you’ll miss the point, and if you fo-
cus too wide, you’ll skip essential details. Find
a balance. Tonight, you’ll have the pleasure
of spending time with someone who makes
you feel important.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). Retail statistics
indicate that more people than ever will be
giving a Valentine to a pet. Today your love
encompasses people, animals and beyond
to a general appreciation for the things that
make your life run smoothly.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). You won’t
solve the problem in one day, but you’ll at
least find a temporary remedy that allows
you to be productive while you work at fixing
the issue. Tonight highlights your culinary tal-
ents.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). Whether you are
single or in a relationship, you’re in the mood
to give generously to the people around
you and show them that they make your life
sweeter just by being in it.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). In Finland,
Valentine’s Day is more about celebrating
friendship than romantic love. You might feel
inclined to celebrate similarly, as the impor-
tance of friendship will be well illustrated in
your day.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). Your imagina-
tion is a zany, beautiful place! Love fills your
dreams in unexpected ways. Well, you can’t
control everything that runs through your
head, but you don’t have to identify with all
of it, either.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). This is a spe-
cial day, but don’t worry — you’ll have many
special days and lots of chances to get things
right. Let this free you to experiment. Your love
is unique and should be uniquely expressed.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). Others
think you are courageous for speaking so
honestly, though for you it comes much more
easily than trying to say what you think other
people want to hear. Your candor will get peo-
ple communicating on deeper levels.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). Long
ago, physicians prescribed chocolate for
lovesickness, and the remedy still seems to
fit. It also works for celebrating love and will
be one of 10 ways you’ll celebrate love today.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). You are
all too aware that every rose has its thorn,
though the fancier florists sometimes remove
them for a painless presentation. You’ll do the
emotional equivalent for someone you love
today.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). Maybe
there’s no such thing as a one-and-only soul
mate. However, there are moments that feel
so right with another person that you can’t be
sure. Revel in those!
SATURDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Feb. 14).
There is not another person on the planet
who can fulfill your purpose, and this is your
year to revel in your unique position. The next
six weeks bring a well-deserved prize. March
introduces singles to new love and couples
to a deeper understanding. Changes to your
environment lead to new hobbies in May.
Cancer and Gemini people adore you. Your
lucky numbers are: 8, 27, 19, 45 and 30.