THE DAILY ASTORIAN • THURSDAY, JANUARY 15, 2015
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She’s still suspicious of boyfriend Tomorrow’s horoscope
By Holiday Mathis, Creators Syndicate Inc.
Dear Annie: My boyfriend and I are
in our 60s and have known each other
years ago, and for the past 18 months,
we’ve been living together.
sweet and promised all sorts of dreams for
our future. But after several months, he
changed. He became distant, sometimes
even cruel in his actions. I begged him to
tell me if there was another woman, but
he always denied it, in spite of rumors and
the fact that things just seemed off.
The problem is, even after all this
time, I still have moments when I’m
woman, and I can’t get over it. He still
denies it, and I am confused and hurt.
But when I ask, he will respond by with-
drawing from me for months.
I believe he did have an affair and
never got over her and that’s why we
have so little intimacy now. I have been
praying and am seeing a counselor, but I
can’t seem to let it go completely. Is there
something wrong with me? Or is my intu-
ition telling me that he deceived me and is
continuing to lie about it? All my friends
say either to let it go or to end it, but I don’t
want to leave him, and I have no control
over my thoughts and feelings. Please
help. — Louise in Louisville
Dear Louise: Actually, you do have
some control over those thoughts and
feelings, but it takes effort and willing-
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ness. Your intuition is telling you that
your boyfriend is not being completely
on knowing something that he proba-
bly will never tell you. And it could be
that there is nothing to tell. Because you
wish to stay with him, please talk to your
counselor about how to forgive him, and
then do the necessary work to get there.
Dear Annie: I would like to write
smell like a dirty ashtray. Always. You
try to be nice and go outside to have
your cigarette, but when you come
back in, you still smell like an ashtray.
You smoke in your car so you can have
your cigarette before you arrive at your
destination, but when you walk into the
room, you still smell. Your clothes reek
of smoke — always. No amount of per-
fume covers it up.
Just thought you’d like to know. I
know I’m tired of smelling you. — A
Nonsmoker
Dear Nonsmoker: Although what
you say is true, it is not so simple. Most
smokers are well aware of the lingering
odor, not to mention the yellowing teeth
and nails, frequent cough, and looming
lung cancer. The downside has been
well-documented and -publicized. But
smoking is highly addictive. For some,
giving it up is nearly impossible, no mat-
ter how much effort they put into trying.
Though smoking in the car or outside the
Dear Annie: I’d like to offer a more
positive response to all those mothers
who complain about their daughters-in-
law.
My son is married to a wonderful
woman. She is a great mother to their
two children and stepmother to his
daughter. I love this woman with all of
my heart. I am always welcome in their
home as they are in mine. I can have the
grandchildren whenever I want. When
their daughter was born, my daugh-
ter-in-law gave me the most wonderful
gift: She allowed me to be in the deliv-
ery room for the birth. What a precious
woman my son married.
I called her “daughter,” because to
me, that is what she is. My own moth-
er-in-law was not very kind to me, and I
vowed I would be different. Sometimes
it takes a little work, and sometimes your
son marries an angel. — Mother-in-Law
of an Angel
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WIZARD OF ID
ZITS
ROSE IS ROSE
ARIES (March 21-April 19). You’ll be giv-
ing a few directives. It’s better to tell people
what to do, and not how to do it. Everyone
has a unique method, and you’ll learn by
watching what they come up with.
TAURUS (April 20-May 20). It’s actually
good that people mostly disagree today. If
they understood each other too clearly, it
would cause grief. The communication of
civility mostly lies in body language.
GEMINI (May 21-June 21). You crave
an aesthetic experience, and yet you also
want it to fit into your life in a logical, useful
way. This is a lot to demand of your en-
vironment, but you’ll find what you seek.
CANCER (June 22-July 22). When you
largely act out of intuition, your decisions
sometimes won’t make sense to other
people. Their puzzled faces will pepper
your experience, but pay no attention to
that. Your intuition could save the day.
LEO (July 23-Aug. 22). If there is a
great deal of petty quarreling, it’s a good
indication that the job at hand isn’t big
enough. Big challenges have a way of
centering people and getting them to fo-
cus calmly on what they can do to make
things better.
VIRGO (Aug. 23-Sept. 22). When you
walk around and look at the world, you
make connections with people everywhere
you go. Even if it’s just noticing a person, it’s
a connection. The quality of minor connec-
tions will mean more to you today.
LIBRA (Sept. 23-Oct. 23). The rule to-
day is that if you can say it in fewer words,
do. People will lose interest very quickly,
especially if your focus is on something
they have a hard time relating to.
SCORPIO (Oct. 24-Nov. 21). Your re-
luctance to make new associations has to
do with the hurt of a past experience and
a vibe you are getting about a certain per-
son. You can’t put it into words yet, but it’s
real, so don’t disregard the feeling.
SAGITTARIUS (Nov. 22-Dec. 21). You
may accidentally attract people who will
take advantage of your compassionate
nature. Take a step back. Your gifts are
valuable, and you shouldn’t give them to
someone who discounts that value right
off the bat.
CAPRICORN (Dec. 22-Jan. 19). By na-
ture, you are an executive and a manager,
even though your life doesn’t always re-
flect that part of your talent. Today brings
a bit of chaos you’ll enjoy sorting out for
someone.
AQUARIUS (Jan. 20-Feb. 18). Tele-
phone addiction will cause people to lose
opportunities. You’ll be lucky when you’re
the one looking up and connecting. It’s
really not necessary to pick up every call.
PISCES (Feb. 19-March 20). The main
issues have to do with control. There’s a
line to walk. If you too often dominate, it’s
repellent. But if you never take over, it’s
even more repellent. Stay in the moment.
FRIDAY’S BIRTHDAY (Jan. 16). You’re
teetering on the edge of adventure going
into this new year. Not knowing what’s next
adds to stress. Make a plan in February,
and whether or not things follow, you’ll feel
terrific. March will feature new friends and
responsibilities. You’ll prove your strength.
A July wedding will be significant. Scorpio
and Cancer people adore you. Your lucky
numbers are: 19, 4, 12, 13 and 28.