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Day Pass to Nudity
BY DAN SAVAGE
I’m a 40-year-old straight
married guy. This past weekend,
I got a day pass to a nearby nudist
club — you know, the kind with
families, a lake, kayaks, tennis
courts, that sort of thing. I was basi-
cally on a scouting mission to see
if it was the kind of place my wife
might like to spend some time. (It
was fun!) Everyone was super nice
and welcoming, but I always made
sure to drop a reference to my wife
and kids in conversation, especially
with women — it just seemed to
make things go smoother, given
I was a single, unaccompanied
male. At one point, though, another
unaccompanied male, around age
50, approached me and started
talking. It became clear pretty
quickly that he was fl irting. Totally
fi ne, all good, people do that! But
I then dropped in a reference to
my wife, almost without thinking
about it, because that’s what I’d
been doing all day, and he ended
our conversation abruptly and
walked away.
I felt bad about it afterward.
I think he read it as me trying to
communicate my straightness to
him, which I wasn’t really trying
to do. Or at least, I wasn’t commu-
nicating anything I hadn’t been
communicating to everyone else all
day. Is there a good way to subtly
let a guy know I’m straight and
not interested without making it
sound like I’m trying to get out of
the conversation because he’s gay
and I’m not? And is that advice any
diff erent when we are both stand-
ing naked in front of each other?
— Needs Understanding
Dan’s Evaluation
You’re overthinking this. In a
mixed nudist environment — a mix of
queers and straights, old people and
young, folks there for naked tennis
and folks there for naked kayaking —
you will occasionally be approached
by men who are interested in your
dick. So, unless you get “STRAIGHT”
tattooed across your forehead (Pete
Hegseth knows a tattoo artist who
would be happy to do it), you’re gonna
have brief interactions with gay men
drawn to your dick.
Now, you only had one conver-
sation that ended abruptly, NUDE,
and unless that guy was the kind of
pushy jerk who felt entitled to your
dick because he could see it — and
pushy jerks don’t do well in (and
aren’t welcome at) nudist resorts —
I doubt he took it personally when
you mentioned the wife. He hoped
you might be gay, he realized you
weren’t, and he moved on. You most
likely talked with other men that day
you didn’t realize were gay because 1.
they were just making conversation
and weren’t trying to get into your
invisible pants (and so they kept
chatting with you even after you
dropped the “wife” bomb), or 2. they
were trying to get into your invisible
pants but stuck around after they
realized you were straight because
they were enjoying the conversation.
All that said, you don’t need a
secret handshake or subtle wink or
an appalling tattoo to let people know
who you are. All you need is a willing-
ness to make conversation and the
ability to slip relevant details about
yourself into the conversational fl ow.
This advice applies whether you’re
wearing nothing at the nudist resort,
a full gimp suit at the fetish club, or
a tux at your best friend’s wedding.
Got problems? Yes, you do! Email your
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