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within four months after the date of first
publication of this notice to the Personal
Representative at the address stated
above for the presentation of claims or
such claims may be barred. All persons
whose rights may be affected by these
proceedings may obtain additional infor-
mation from the records of the Court or
the Personal Representative, named
above. Dated and first published
06/02/22. Personal Representative:
Stephanie R. Rivera, c/o Mark M. Williams,
OSB#821404, 180 West Sixth Avenue,
Junction City, Oregon 97448
NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS NOTICE
IS HEREBY GIVEN that the undersigned
has been appointed and has qualified as
the Personal Representative of the Estate
of Ilona Mary Johnson, deceased, Lane
County Probate No. 22PB04401. All per-
sons having claims against the estate are
required to present their claims, with
proper vouchers, within four months after
the date of first publication of this notice,
as stated below, to the Personal
Representative at 188 West B Street, Bldg.
N, Springfield, Oregon 97477, or the claims
may be barred. All persons whose rights
may be affected by the proceedings in this
Estate may obtain additional information
from the records of the Court, the
Personal Representative, or the attorney
for the Personal Representative. Dated
and first published 05/19/22. Eric L.
Johnson, Personal Representative. Alex E.
Gavriilidis, Attorney for Personal
Representative, Leahy Cox, LLP, 188 W. B
Street, Bldg. N, Springfield, Oregon 97477,
(541) 746-9621
NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS NOTICE
IS HEREBY GIVEN that the undersigned
has been appointed and has qualified as
the Personal Representative of the Estate
of Mary Anna Fredrickson, deceased, Lane
County Probate No. 22PB04443. All per-
sons having claims against the estate are
required to present their claims, with
proper vouchers, within four months after
the date of first publication of this notice,
as stated below, to the Personal
Representative at 188 West B Street, Bldg.
N, Springfield, Oregon 97477, or the claims
may be barred. All persons whose rights
may be affected by the proceedings in this
Estate may obtain additional information
from the records of the Court, the
Personal Representative, or the attorney
for the Personal Representative. Dated
and first published: 05/19/22. Martin
Maher, Personal Representative. Kay
Hyde-Patton, Attorney for Personal
Representative Leahy Cox, LLP, 188 W. B
Street, Bldg. N, Springfield, Oregon 97477,
(541) 746-9621
NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS NOTICE
IS HEREBY GIVEN that the undersigned
has been appointed and has qualified as
the Personal Representative of the Estate
of Wayne Albert Hahn, deceased, Lane
County Probate No. 22PB04607. All per-
sons having claims against the estate are
required to present their claims, with
proper vouchers, within four months after
the date of first publication of this notice,
as stated below, to the Personal
Representative at 188 West B Street, Bldg.
N, Springfield, Oregon 97477, or the claims
may be barred. All persons whose rights
may be affected by the proceedings in this
Estate may obtain additional information
from the records of the Court, the
Personal Representative, or the attorney
for the Personal Representative. Dated
and first published: 06/02/22. Steven W.
Hahn, Personal Representative. Alex E.
Gavriilidis, Attorney for Personal
Representative, Leahy Cox, LLP, 188 W. B
Street, Bldg. N, Springfield, Oregon 97477,
(541) 746-9621
PUBLIC AUCTION Notice is hereby given
that the following vehicle will be sold to
the highest bidder on 06-11-2022. The
silent bid auction will be from 11am to 12
pm @ 32832 East Delany, Coburg, OR
97408. A 1969 Eagle Bus. Amount due on
lien. $7,850.00 Reputed Owner (s) Robert
McDaniel.
TRUSTEE’S NOTICE OF SALE The Trustee
under the terms of the Trust Deed
described herein, at the direction of the
Beneficiary, hereby elects to sell the prop-
erty described in the Trust Deed to satisfy
the obligations secured thereby. Pursuant
to ORS 86.771, the following information is
provided: 1. PARTIES: Grantor: VIRAGOS
PARTNERS LLC. Trustee: EVERGREEN
LAND TITLE CO.. Successor Trustee:
NANCY K. CARY. Beneficiary: JONES LLC
NO. 1. 2. DESCRIPTION OF PROPERTY: The
real property is described as follows: Parcel
1, 2 and 3 of LAND PARTITION PLAT NO.
2000-P1372 as platted and recorded June
14, 2000, Reception No. 2000-033646,
Lane County Deeds and Records, in Lane
County, Oregon. 3. RECORDING. The Trust
Deed was recorded as follows: Date
Recorded: December 20, 2018, as
Recording No. 2018-058429 Re-Recorded
January 18, 2022, as Recording No. 2022-
002441 Official Records of Lane County,
Oregon. 4. DEFAULT. The Grantor or any
other person obligated on the Trust Deed
and Promissory Note secured thereby is in
default and the Beneficiary seeks to fore-
close the Trust Deed for failure to pay:
Monthly payments in the amount of The
entire principal balance each, due the
January 1, 2021 of each month, for the
months of; plus late charges and advances;
plus any unpaid real property taxes or liens,
plus interest. 5. AMOUNT DUE. The amount
due on the Note which is secured by the
Trust Deed referred to herein is: Principal
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balance in the amount of $250,000.00;
plus interest at the rate of 5% per annum
from December 17, 2018; plus late charges
of $1,875.00; plus advances and foreclo-
sure attorney fees and costs. 6. SALE OF
PROPERTY. The Trustee hereby states that
the property will be sold to satisfy the obli-
gations secured by the Trust Deed. A
Trustee’s Notice of Default and Election to
Sell Under Terms of Trust Deed has been
recorded in the Official Records of Lane
County, Oregon. 7. TIME OF SALE. Date: July
21, 2022. Time:11:00 a.m. Place: Lane
County Courthouse, Front Entrance, Inside
by Security, 125 E. 8th Avenue, Eugene,
Oregon 97401. 8. RIGHT TO REINSTATE.
Any person named in ORS 86.778 has the
right, at any time that is not later than five
days before the Trustee conducts the sale,
to have this foreclosure dismissed and the
Trust Deed reinstated by payment to the
Beneficiary of the entire amount then due,
other than such portion of the principal as
would not then be due had no default
occurred, by curing any other default that
is capable of being cured by tendering the
performance required under the obligation
or Trust Deed and by paying all costs and
expenses actually incurred in enforcing the
obligation and Trust Deed, together with
the trustee’s and attorney’s fees not
exceeding the amount provided in ORS
86.778. NOTICE REGARDING POTENTIAL
HAZARDS (This notice is required for notic-
es of sale sent on or after January 1, 2015.)
Without limiting the trustee’s disclaimer of
representations or warranties, Oregon law
requires the trustee to state in this notice
that some residential property sold at a
trustee’s sale may have been used in manu-
facturing methamphetamines, the chemi-
cal components of which are known to be
toxic. Prospective purchasers of residential
property should be aware of this potential
danger before deciding to place a bid for
this property at the trustee’s sale. You may
reach the Oregon State Bar’s Lawyer
Referral Service at 503-684-3763 or toll-
free in Oregon at 800-452-7636 or you may
visit its website at: www.osbar.org. Legal
assistance may be available if you have a
low income and meet federal poverty
guidelines. For more information and a
directory of legal aid programs, go to http://
www.oregonlawhelp.org. Any questions
regarding this matter should be directed to
Lisa Summers, Paralegal, (541) 686-0344
(TS #31142.5). DATED: February 16, 2022.
Nancy K. Cary, Successor Trustee,
Hershner Hunter, LLP, P.O. Box 1475,
Eugene, OR 97440.
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I’m a 31-year-old queer person living in Europe. I recently met a 46-year-old man. We
were visiting the same city for work and met on an app and went on a series of amazing
dates. We have a lot of similar interests and work in parallel fields. Now we’re planning a
trip to see each other. It’s partly a work trip for him, but we will take a vacation together
after the work part of the trip for him is over. To get to the point… he makes a lot more
money than I do. He has offered to cover as much of the costs as he needs to. I feel like I’m
out of my league here! I really like him and he seems to really like me but I’m struggling
to fight feeling like this is a “Daddy and His Boy” situation. Do I need to fight that feeling
or lean into it? It’s not a dynamic he said he wants. I don’t mind if we agree that’s what
we are doing. But I don’t want to fall into a Daddy/Boy dynamic accidentally because of
money and “status.” How do I date him like I would someone closer to my age and income?
— Knowing Economic Position Tenuous
If the Daddy/boy dynamic isn’t something you want (if it doesn’t turn you on and/or you
worry it’ll make things weird), and it isn’t something he wants (assuming he didn’t just say
that because he thought it was what you wanted to hear), then you definitely shouldn’t “lean
into it.” Instead, you should handle the expense of this trip the same way committed cou-
ples with large income disparities split the rent. If you were making $50K a year and he was
making $150K a year and you wanted to move in together but weren’t ready to merge your
finances, you should pay a quarter of the rent and he would pay three quarters of the rent.
Same should go for utilities, food, and other expenses.
But you’re not moving in together, KEPT, you’re just going on a vacation, so things can
be a little looser. If you can afford to fly coach and he wants to fly first class, he should cover
the difference between coach and first-class fares. If he wants to cover the hotel (a major
expense), you should cover meals — maybe not all of them, particularly if he wants to eat in
fancy places, but enough of them that it will be clear to you, to him, to your waiter, and to the
angels and saints watching from heaven that you aren’t a kept boy. (Nothing will make you feel
less “kept” than pulling out your own credit card.)
And the first part of the trip is for business and he would presumably be going with or
without you, KEPT, you shouldn’t feel guilty about not paying for meals or the hotel on that
leg — a hotel room he would be staying in with or without you, meals he would be putting on
his expense account with or without you — but maybe treat him to a surprise excursion on
that leg of the trip that you can afford. (Assuming either of you wants to leave your hotel
room at this stage of your relationship.)
The kind of disparities you describe — in ages, incomes and the stages of your respective
careers — are something almost all couples have faced — or in the case of income and career
advancement, something most couples eventually face. But don’t spend too much time think-
ing about how you’re going to make this work over the long-term; you just met, you really
liked each other, and you’re both willing to travel long distances to keep seeing each other.
That should be your focus right now, KEPT. If he wasn’t comfortable covering most of the
expenses, he wouldn’t have offered to do that. He could’ve spent his vacation time in the city
where you live instead. Of course, there’s a chance it was a trick offer — he offered to cover
the expense of the trip expecting you would turn it down — and he’s going to punish you in
some passive-aggressive way for taking him up on it. If that happens, well, you can go back
to dating boys closer to your age and tax bracket and/or well-off guys who don’t play games.
I’m a single and kinky gay man, doing mainly vanilla dating at the moment. Recently, I
got dumped by a guy because I fessed up to being kinky. I also told him I believe in God.
I realize that might appear contradictory, but I don’t see why both can’t co-exist. He
told me he can’t date anyone who’s sexually deviant who also believes in “fairies at the
bottom of the garden.” Both were equally problematic for him: my belief in God and my
kinks. I wasn’t expecting to be both kink-shamed and God-shamed in the same breath.
Are there such things as kinky Christians? Where can I find my tribe?
— Frustrated About Insultingly Terminating Hookup
One of the kinkiest guys I ever met — dungeon-in-his-basement kinky, flog-you-until-you-
are-screaming kinky — was an episcopal priest. So yeah, FAITH, there are kinky Christians
out there. But instead of sitting at home alone wondering where your tribe is, get out there
and find your tribe. Get on kinky dating apps, go to leather/fetish events, date some non-va-
nilla guy, make some non-vanilla friends. If you find a welcoming tribe and it turns out you’re
the only believer, so long as no one judges or shames you, FAITH, join that tribe. If you meet
guys who have a problem with your faith, they don’t get to be a part of your tribe.
As for the guy who called you a sexual deviant — what the hell does he think he is? With-
out deviation from the norm, there wouldn’t be “normal” gay guys for that asshole to date
at all. Some of us may deviate more than others, FAITH, but that’s as true for gay people as
it is for straight people.
A man I very casually “dated” for ONE MONTH more than 15 YEARS AGO — a man
I have maintained a friendship with ever since — tells his new girlfriends that I am
his “ex-girlfriend.” This disclosure causes a lot of unnecessary awkwardness between
whoever his current girlfriend might be and me. I’ve told him he shouldn’t do that be-
cause I was never officially his girlfriend. For 99.999% of the time I’ve known him, we’ve
been friends, compared to the .001% of the time when we were very casually dating.
He says he doesn’t want to lie?!? But it’s not a lie to say we are friends! I hate the awk-
wardness that it causes between me and the women he dates now. They never have a
chance to get to know and trust me. Help me explain this to him so he finally gets it!
— Never His Girlfriend
He gets it, NHG. The awkwardness he’s creating between you and his girlfriend-of-the-
moment — the awkwardness you see as unnecessary and avoidable — is exactly what he
wants. Introducing you as his ex makes things awkward with his current, and his current girl-
friend’s intuitive sense that he’s either intentionally or thoughtlessly making things awkward
makes him a less appealing partner. He doesn’t want a commitment or anything long-term,
and instead of being honest about that, he’s weaponizing your existence to erect barriers
between him and whoever he’s dating at the moment. He may not be doing it knowingly, but
he’s doing it just the same, and it’s a shitty thing to do to a friend.
And the next time he does it, NHG, object and object loudly: “Don’t be ridiculous! I was
NEVER your girlfriend!”
Hey, Everybody: The Southern Baptist Convention, the largest protestant denomination in the
United States, has always been terrible. It was founded in 1845 by supporters of slavery and the orga-
nization is racist to its core still. Leaders, churches and preachers in the Southern Baptist Convention
have also been the loudest anti-gay voices in the country for decades, and lately they’ve been loudly
promoting the lie that gay and trans people — by simply existing — are somehow grooming children.
Well, it turns out the groomers were in the building all along. In their buildings, in their megachurch-
es, in their leadership — and they weren’t waving rainbow flags or reading from “Heather Has Two
Mommies.” They were waving Confederate battle flags and reading from Leviticus. A blockbuster
report released last week documents decades of sexual abuse committed by pastors and leaders of
the Southern Baptist Convention. The same preachers who were accusing gays and lesbians of ‘com-
ing for your kids’ were the ones coming for your kids. And in them. As with all power-obsessed social
conservatives, as with all Trumpers (and the Southern Baptist Convention is now a Trump property),
every accusation — of corruption, of rigged elections, of sexual abuse — is an admission of guilt.
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