date of the first publication of this notice,
and referencing the above case number,
with a copy to the Claiming Successor’s
attorney at the address below, or such
claim will be barred. Dated and first pub-
lished this 28th day of May, 2020. William
R. Sharp, OSB 783745 Monks & Sharp Law
Office 1292 High Street #204 Eugene, OR
97401 Attorney for Claiming Successor
Lisa Hemp, Claiming Successor to the
Estate of Martin Azarnoff, 230 East 38th
Avenue, Eugene, OR 97405
NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS Ralph
Hill died on May 1, 2020. Daniel Hill has
accepted appointment as successor trust-
ee of the Ralph Hill Trust, established on
May 7, 2004, and amended on October 3,
2012. All persons having claims against
Ralph Hill or the Ralph Hill Trust are
required to present the same, with proper
vouchers, to the Trustee in care of his
attorneys at the address set forth below
within 4 months from the date of the first
publication of this notice or such claims
will be barred. Dated and first published
this 7th day of May, 2020. Daniel Hill,
Trustee of the Ralph Hill Trust c/o Monks &
Sharp Law Office 630 Lincoln Street
Eugene, Oregon 97401 Attorneys
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first published 05/21/20NOTICE TO
INTERESTED PERSONS Martin Azarnoff
died on December 31, 2019. Lisa Hemp,
Trustee of the Martin Azarnoff Trust, has
filed an Affidavit of Claiming Successor in
Circuit Court Case No. 20PB03277. All
persons having interest in the Estate of
Martin Azarnoff are referred to the Circuit
Court of the State of Oregon for Lane
County, Probate Department, 125 East 8th
Avenue, Eugene, OR 97401, Case No.
20PB03277. All persons having claims
against the estate of Martin Azarnoff are
required to file a claim in writing with the
above Court within 4 months from the
SAVAGE
LOVE
Power
Players
BY DAN SAVAGE
Here’s a non-COVID question for you: I’m a queer white female in a monogamish mar-
riage. I vote left, I abhor hatred and oppression, and I engage in activism when I can.
I’m also turned on by power differentials: authority figures, uniforms, hot guys doing
each other. Much to my horror this thing for power differentials plus too many WW2
movies as a kid has always meant that for my brain (or for my pussy) Nazis are hot.
Fuck me, right? Other maybe relevant bits of info: I’m not interested in roleplaying with
actual partners, I’m fairly sure this proclivity is not reflective of any deeper issues,
and I’m both sexually and emotionally fairly well sorted. Not perfect, but fine working
order and all that. And I get it: people like what they like, don’t judge yourself for your
fetishes, just get off without being an asshole to anyone. The problem is that my usual
way of getting off on/indulging my fantasies is to read erotic fiction on the internet.
I’d love your input on whether seeking out Nazi porn is problematic for some of the
same reasons that porn depicting sex with kids is problematic. Am I normalizing and
trivializing fascism?
— Freaking About Search Histories
exposure
Seeking out child porn — searching for it online, downloading it, collecting images of
children being raped and sexually abused — is problematic (and illegal) because it creates
demand for more child porn, which results in more children being raped and sexually abused.
The cause-and-effect is obvious, FASH, the victims are real and the harm done is incalculable.
But while it may discomfort someone to know a nice married lady who donates to all the
right causes is furiously masturbating to dirty stories about hot guys in Nazi uniforms doing
each other, FASH, no one ever has to know that. So you do no harm — not even the supposed
harm of discomforting someone — when you privately enjoy the fucked up stories you enjoy.
And while there are doubtless some actual Nazis who enjoy reading dirty stories about other
Nazis, most people turned on by dirty stories about Nazis are turned on despite themselves
and their politics. Transgressive sexual fantasies don’t arouse us because they violate societal
norms and expectations (in a safe and controlled manner), FASH, but because they allow us to
violate our sense of ourselves, too (ditto). Just as a feminist can have rape fantasies without
actually wanting to be raped herself or for anyone else to be raped, a person can have sexual
fantasies about hot guys in Nazis uniforms doing each other without wanting Nazis to come
to power.
I have to say it was a easier to give anti-Nazi Nazi fetishists like you a pass — to shrug and
say “you do you” but please keep it to yourself — before racist demagogues, white suprema-
cists and anti-Semites started marching around waving Trump flags. But no one picks their
kinks and being told “that shouldn’t turn you on” has never made a problematic or transgres-
sive kink less arousing. And when you consider the number of non-erotic novels, movies and
television shows the culture cranks out year after year — and how many actually trivialize fas-
cism (I’m talking to you, Hunters) — it’s seems insane to draw a line and say, “Okay, this story
about Nazis isn’t okay because that lady over there masturbated while reading it in private.”
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E U G E N E W E E K LY . C O M
I’m an apartment-dweller in a dense urban area. Last night I overheard my neighbors
having sex — no big deal, right? I consider myself a sex-positive person, and have al-
ways held and espoused the belief that if you can’t have loud sex in your own home,
where can you have it? But the sex I overheard last night was fairly kinky. Someone I
read as a cis man was dominating someone I read as a cis woman. They were in the
apartment right across from mine — about 20 feet away — and my bedroom window
faces theirs. There was a LOT of derogatory talk, hitting, name-calling, giving orders
and some crying. I could tell it was consensual — she was very clearly having a good
time — and I eavesdropped long enough to witness the post-coital return to equilibri-
um. Everything seemed great. But the physical I experienced was this overheard vio-
lence. I was shaking and had a hard time getting to sleep afterwards. I’m glad I stuck
around until the end. It helped me feel better. I guess what I’m saying is that I needed
some aftercare. I’m still thinking about it this morning, and I’m concerned that being
triggered by my neighbor’s sex is going to become a regular part of my life. I’m won-
dering about the ethics of the situation: Do kinky folks have an obligation to muffle po-
tentially triggering sounds? Or is any overheard sex potentially triggering to someone
and am I therefore applying a double standard here? What do you think?
— The Vanilla Neighbor
You went from overhearing kinky sex to eavesdropping on it — meaning, you went from
accidentally hearing your neighbors fucking to intently listening as your neighbors fucked.
And you needed to do that. You heard something that sounded violent but hearing more led
you to guess it was consensual sex and listening all the way to the end — all the way through
the aftercare — confirmed your guess was correct. So for your own peace of mind, TVN, you
needed to keep listening. But you don’t need to listen next time. If it triggers you to hear your
neighbors fucking, don’t listen. Close the window and crank up some music or go for a walk
and listen to a podcast.
That said, TVN, you raise an interesting ethical question: Are kinksters — particularly
the kind of kinksters who enjoy verbal abuse and impact play — obligated to keep it down?
While I think people should be considerate of their neighbors, people are allowed to have
sex in their own homes, TVN, and it’s not like vanilla sex is always quiet. But if the sex a cou-
ple enjoys could easily be misinterpreted as abuse or violence by someone who accidentally
overhears it, that couple might wanna close the window and turn up some music themselves
— not only to avoid alarming the neighbors, but to spare themselves the hassle of explaining
their kinks to a cop.
For the record: I would tell person who enjoys a good single-tail whipping to find a sound-
proof dungeon to enjoy that in (because that shit is loud) but I wouldn’t tell a person who
screams her head off during PIV intercourse to find a soundproof box (even though her shit
is just as loud). Instead I would urge her fuck at 8 pm, when most people are awake, rather
than 2 am, when most people are asleep. (It can be annoying listening to someone screamfuck
but it’s even more annoying to have your sleep ruined by a screamfucker.) Is this a double
standard? Perhaps. But it’s one I’m willing to endorse.
1. Is it safe to hook up again? 2. Will it be safe to hook up again soon? 3. You’ll tell us when
it’s safe to hook up again, right?
Getting Really Impatient. Need Dick. Really.
• It isn’t.
• At some point.
• I will.
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