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SAVAGE LOVE Quickies BY DAN SAVAGE DEAR READERS: I live in Seattle, the US epicenter of the novel coronavirus epidemic, with my family. A lot of my readers wrote this week to wish us well. We are fine—scared, but fine—washing our hands compulsively and staying close to home. I’m going to keep churning out the column and recording my podcast, while being careful to maintain a safe social dis- tance from the tech-savvy, at-risk youth. I’m hoping the column and podcast are welcome distractions. Please take care of yourselves, take care of the people around you, and wash your damn hands. tion, the court will schedule a hearing on the allegations of the petition and order you to appear personally and may sched- ule other hearings related to the petition and order you to appear personally. IF YOU ARE ORDERED TO APPEAR, YOU MUST APPEAR PERSONALLY IN THE COURTROOM, UNLESS THE COURT HAS GRANTED YOU AN EXCEPTION IN ADVANCE UNDER ORS 419B.918 TO APPEAR BY OTHER MEANS INCLUDING, BUT NOT LIMITED TO, TELEPHONIC OR OTHER ELECTRONIC MEANS. AN ATTORNEY MAY NOT ATTEND THE HEARING(S) IN YOUR PLACE . PETITIONER’S ATTORNEY Katherine D. Yancey Assistant Attorney General Department of Justice 975 Oak Street, Suite 200 Eugene, OR 97401 Phone: (541) 686-7973 ISSUED this 24th day of February, 2020. Issued by: /S/ Katherine D. Yancey ,Katherine D. Yancey, #136514 Assistant Attorney General NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that SHELBEY L. GUARDALABENE has been appointed and has qualified as the personal representa- tive of the ESTATE OF HARRY LEE MILLER , deceased, in Lane County Circuit Court Case No. 20PB01168. All persons having claims against the estate are hereby required to present their claims, with proper vouchers, within four months after the date of first publication of this notice, as stated below to the personal represen- tative c/o Tami S.P. Beach, 1184 Olive Street, Eugene, OR 97401, or the claims may be barred. All persons whose rights may be affected by the proceedings in this estate may obtain additional information from the records of the court, the personal representative, or the attorney for the per- sonal representative. Date of first publica- 03/05/20 PERSONAL tion REPRESENTATIVE: Shelbey L. Guardalabene 5381 Emerald Ct. Discovery Bay, CA 94505 ATTORNEY FOR PERS. REP.: Tami S.P Beach 1184 Olive Street Eugene, OR 97401 NOTICE OF SALE OF ABANDONED MANUFACTURED HOME Daneland Mobile Home Park, L.L.C., will sell the below-de- scribed manufactured home by private sealed bid for the highest offer received. The home has been abandoned. The home, tenant and owner are described below. Bids for cash payment will be accepted until 9:00 am, March 30, 2020. Interested parties may contact Kim Bomark at (541)688-6699 to make arrangements to inspect the home. Bids may be submitted to Daneland Mobile Home Park, L.L.C. at 1199 N. Terry Street, Eugene, Oregon 97402, for the following home: 1981 Glenr, Home ID #229529, man- ufacturer’s serial #C1650XY, located at 1199 N. Terry Street, #167, Eugene, Lane County, Oregon 97402; Tenant/Owner: Jerrilyn Twite NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS Notice is hereby given that John Morrell has been appointed personal representative of the Estate of Timothy Lee Jones, deceased, by the Circuit Court of the State of Oregon for Lane County, Probate File No. 20PB01893. All persons having claims against the estate are hereby notified to present the same to the said personal representative, at the office of the personal representa- tive’s attorney, Andrew L. Kraushaar, 834 Pearl Street, Eugene, OR 97401, within four months from the date of the first publica- tion of this notice or their claims may be barred. Date of the first publication of this notice is 03/19/20 . All persons whose rights may be affected by the proceeding may obtain additional information from the records of the Court or from the per- sonal representative, or from the personal representative’s attorney, Andrew L. Kraushaar, 834 Pearl Street, Eugene OR 97401; Phone 541-484-1066. NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS ESTATE OF ARTHUR LEE THOMAS LANE COUNTY CIRCUIT COURT CASE NO. 20 PB 01520 NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that the under- signed has been appointed personal rep- resentative. All persons having claims against the estate are required to present them, with written evidence thereof attached, to the undersigned personal representative at Terry Thomas c/o Mark M. Williams, Attorney at Law, Gaydos, Churnside & Balthrop, PC, PO Box 1499, Eugene, OR, 97440. All persons having claims against the estate are required to present them within four months after the date of first publication of this notice to the Personal Representative at the address stated above for the presentation of claims or such claims may be barred. All persons whose rights may be affected by these proceedings may obtain additional information from the records of the Court, the Personal Representative, or the Attorney for the Personal Representative, named above. Dated and first published March 12, 2020. PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVE: Terry Thomas 6875 Pioneer Road Medford, OR 97501 ATTORNEY FOR PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVE: Mark M. Williams, OSB#821404 Gaydos, Churnside & Balthrop, PC PO Box 1499, Eugene, OR 97440 (541)343-8060; Fax (541)343-1599 mark@oregonlegalteam.com NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS ESTATE OF DONALD CHARLES JENSEN LANE COUNTY CIRCUIT COURT CASE NO. 20 PB 01258 NOTICE IS HEREBY GIVEN that the undersigned has been appointed personal representative. All persons having claims against the estate are required to present them, with written evidence thereof attached, to the undersigned personal representative at April Vanlandingham c/o Mark M. Williams, Attorney at Law, Gaydos, Churnside & Balthrop, PC, PO Box 1499, Eugene, OR, 97440. All persons hav- ing claims against the estate are required to present them within four months after the date of first publication of this notice to the Personal Representative at the address stated above for the presentation of claims or such claims may be barred. All persons whose rights may be affected by these proceedings may obtain additional information from the records of the Court, the Personal Representative, or the Attorney for the Personal Representative, named above. Dated and first published March 12, 2020. PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVE: April Vanlandingham 615 Hayden Bridge Way Springfield, OR 97477 ATTORNEY FOR PERSONAL REPRESENTATIVE: Mark M. Williams, OSB#821404 Gaydos, Churnside & Balthrop, PC PO Box 1499, Eugene, OR 97440 (541)343-8060; Fax (541)343-1599 mark@oregonlegalteam.com NOTICE TO INTERESTED PERSONS In the Matter of the Estate of LOIS MAE JACKSON , Deceased, in the Circuit Court of the State of Oregon for Lane County, Probate Case No. 20PB01914, Carol M. Lewelling has been appointed Personal Representative. All persons having claims against the Estate are required to present them, with vouchers attached, to the Personal Representative c/o her attorney K. Joseph Trudeau at the address set forth below, within four months after the date of first publication of this Notice, or the claims may be barred. All persons whose rights may be affected by the proceedings may obtain additional information from the records of the Court, the Personal Representative, or her attorney, K. Joseph Trudeau, Trudeau Law Offices, P.C., 180 West Sixth Ave., P.O. Box 428, Junction City, Oregon 97448, telephone 541-998-2378. Date of first publication: MARCH 19, 2020 . I SAW YO U hand’s of fate reach for eleven, I’ll listen for the silence, then unleash the stars. Watch for me on the breeze-way. We can meet at the bottom of the stair-well, where we’ll play like little mice. By the light of the moon. Help All of Us! White Bird Clinic has proudly served our community for more than 50 years. We remain committed to this mission but need your HELP! We are in desperate need of the following items: (medium and large are most popular sizes) - Spray Bottles - Clorox wipes or any wipes that adequately clean surfaces - Thermometers for mass temperature checks - Gowns - Shoe & boot covers - Easy snacks (cup of noodles, granola bars, etc.) - Lip balm - Lotion - Toothbrushes - Reusable water bottles Donations can be dropped off at 341 E 12th Ave. To arrange a pick-up of your donation please call (541) 342-8255 For monetary donations or more info, visit our website: whitebirdclinic.org E U G E N E W E E K LY . C O M My wife and I have been married for a little over two years. We both have demanding jobs, but she admits to being a workaholic and spends almost every night on the couch answering e-mails and binge-watching Bravo. I’ve resorted to getting high most nights to cover up for the fact that I’m very unhappy. Despite being overworked, she’s started a side hustle selling skin-care products to her friends, most of whom she rarely sees in person. Bottom line: I didn’t sign up for this. I’m beyond bored and want to travel and explore. But she refuses to give up the side hustle and dial back her work or her drinking. We both earn comfortable salaries and we don’t need the extra income. Would I be justi- fied in leaving because of her newfound hobby? — Basically Over Redundant Enrichment Side hustle or no, BORE, you aren’t happy, and that’s reason enough to leave. And while you won’t (or shouldn’t) be doing much traveling anytime soon, you can find a lawyer, search for a new apartment, and initiate divorce proceedings while your wife sits on the couch an- swering work e-mails and pushing skin-care products to her friends. I would typically en- courage someone in your shoes to risk telling the truth before walking out—you’re unhappy, you’re bored, you don’t want to live like this anymore—but it sounds like your mind is made up. So use your time at home over the next couple of weeks to make your escape plan. I’m a young white woman, and my last boyfriend, a black man, left me two weeks ago. Ever since, I have been masturbating only while thinking about black guys. My question is: Do I have a “thing” for black guys now? I’ve accepted that our relationship is over, but it was really intense. I feel disgusting after I masturbate, because it feels gross and not respect- ful toward my ex somehow. What do you think? — Desperately Horny For Black Men Masturbate about whatever the fuck turns you on, DHFBM, and if you’re worried some- one would find your masturbatory fantasies disrespectful… don’t tell that person about your masturbatory fantasies. I suppose it’s possible you have a “thing” for black guys now. (What’s that thing they say? Actually, let’s not say it.) Unless you are treating black guys as objects and not people, or you fetishize blackness in a way that makes black sex partners feel degrad- ed (in unsexy, nonconsensual ways) or used (in ways they don’t wish to be used), don’t waste your time worrying about your fantasies. Worry about your actions. LET’S NOT WAIT for mid-night. As the Help Us - Individual bottles of hand sanitizer - Larger bottles of hand sanitizer - Appropriate clothing for men & women - Socks - Warm gloves - Stocking caps - Masks for clients - Masks n95 and level 2/3 - Gloves latex or non-latex I’m wondering if you know of a word that describes the fetish of getting off from talking dirty. I’ve searched a lot, and I can’t find a label for this kink or fetish. While googling around, I did learn some new terms, like “katoptronophilia” (being aroused by having sex in front of mirrors) and “pubephilia” (being aroused by pubic hair), but I can’t seem to find one that describes my kink. — Dirty Talker I’m old enough to remember when people who needed to feel a strong emotional connec- tion before they wanted to fuck someone got by without a word or a pride flag of their very own. They just said, “I’m someone who needs to feel a strong emotional connection before wanting to fuck someone.” But now they can say, “I’m a demisexual,” a five-syllable, vague- ly scientific-sounding term that first popped up in an online forum in 2006. Unfortunately, when someone says, “I’m a demisexual,” the usual response is, “What’s that?” And then the demisexual has to say, “I’m someone who needs to feel a strong emotional connection before wanting to fuck someone.” So leading with “I’m a demisexual” seems like a waste of time to me. But it does extend the amount of time the speaker gets to talk about him/her/them- selves… and who doesn’t love talking about themselves? Anyway, DT, you’re someone who enjoys dirty talk. There isn’t a special term (or pride flag) for you that I could find—I did a little half-hearted googling myself—and I don’t think you need one. You can get by with “I’m someone who enjoys dirty talk.” I’m a 35-year-old woman in a long-term cohabitating relationship with a man. We opened our relationship about six months ago, and it’s going very well and we both have FWBs. My primary partner and I are going to be getting engaged soon, and I’m wondering what my responsibility is to my FWB of five months. Do I make a special ef- fort to tell him about the engagement—on the phone or in person, like I plan to tell fam- ily members and close friends? Or is it okay if he finds out via social media like other people I’ve known for only five months or less would? My getting engaged (or married) won’t prevent me from remaining his FWB. — Wanna Be Ethical Golden rule this shit, WBE: If your FWB got engaged, would you want to find out via so- cial media or would you want him to tell you personally? I’m guessing you’d rather hear it from him. You’ve known your FWB for only five months, it’s true, and other five-months-or- less friends don’t rate hearing it from you personally. But you aren’t fucking your other five- months-or-less friends. A little more consideration for your feelings is—or should be—one of the benefits. I used to live in a college town. While there, I hooked up with a gorgeous guy. He had an amazing smile, a nice body, and the most perfect natural dick I’ve ever seen. (Can we please stop saying “uncut”? It’s so disgustingly plastic surgery-ish.) We hooked up a couple times, and he was so much fun. A couple of years later, in another town, he showed up out of the blue at my new job. It was awkward at first, but it got better over the couple of years we worked together. I always wanted to just sneak him into the bathroom and give him another blowjob. He still lives in the same town, and I want to message him to see if he’s up for some more fun. We haven’t spoken in years—and last I heard, he was still not out. I want to message him, but I’m wondering whether there’s a time limit to reconnecting with someone? Fuck, man, he was so hot, and his natural, big, veiny dick was maybe the most perfect cock I’ve ever seen. — Big Ol’ Dick Seeing as you haven’t spoken to this man in years, BOD, I’m going to assume you no longer work together. And seeing as you hooked up more than once back in that college town, I’m going to assume he liked your blowjobs. And seeing as there’s a worldwide pandemic on, and seeing as life is short, and seeing as dick is delicious, I’m going to give you the okay to send this guy a message. Social media has made it possible for people to reach out to first loves, exes, and old hookups. And so long as the reacher outer is respectful, has reason to believe their message won’t tear open old wounds, and instantly takes “no” for an answer (and no re- sponse = no), there’s nothing wrong with reaching out. And while social-distancing protocols will prevent you from sucking that gorgeous natural dick anytime soon, BOD, who doesn’t need something to look forward to right now? On the Lovecast, love drugs! How therapeutic are they? Listen at savagelovecast.com. MAIL@SAVAGELOVE.NET • @FAKEDANSAVAGE • THE SAVAGE LOVECAST AT SAVAGELOVECAST.COM M A R C H 1 9 , 2 0 2 0 19
