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BY DAN SAVAGE
Let’s set the escorting issue aside for a moment. You don’t want the same things (he wants monog-
amy and a defined relationship, you don’t want any of that shit), you don’t feel for him the way he feels
for you (he’s in love, you’re not), and you’re a busy single mom and full-time student—all perfectly valid
reasons to end a relationship, NTE. You aren’t obligated to tell him that something you were thinking about
doing but haven’t yet done, i.e., escorting, factored into your decision to cut him loose.
While I definitely think people have a right to know if their partners are escorts, I don’t think people
have an absolute right to know if their partners were escorts. So if the sex is really good, and you think
there’s a chance you could one day feel as strongly for him as he does for you, and you’re planning to
escort only until you get your degree, NTE, you could tell him you want to take a break. Explain to him that
you don’t have the bandwidth for a boyfriend just now—kid, school, work—but you’re open to dating him
after you’re out of school if he’s still single and still interested.
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I’m a recently divorced single mom and full-time student. I’m really beginning to hurt financially
and have decided to start working as an escort. I am at a point of great emotional stability, happi-
ness, and confidence—all reasons that led to my decision—and I’m surrounded by people who love
me and won’t judge me. (Not that I will be telling most of them.) I’ve been seeing a man who I like, but
I’ve made it clear that I am not committed to him and can see him only once a week. I’ve explained
that I don’t think I can ever be monogamous and I do not want a relationship. He has struggled with
this and told me early on he was in love with me. We have AMAZING sex, and I think this causes him
to have a hard time understanding why I don’t want a relationship. I do not want to tell him I am es-
corting. I feel the fewer people who know, the better. And I don’t know him that well, as I have been
“seeing” him for only six months. I know he would want to know, and a huge part of me feels that the
right thing to do is be honest with him if I am going to continue seeing him. I also know that cutting
him loose would hurt and confuse him, especially without being able to give him a reason. How do I
handle this? What is the right thing to do? My site goes live in three days, and what’s keeping me up
at night is not how best to verify clients, it’s what to do about the man in my life who I respect and
love, even if I am not in love with him.
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Think of S.A.R.A.’s rescued cats and kittens for #GivingTuesday (Nov
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I’m a 30-year-old single monogamist and I recently realized I’m bisexual. I feel much happier.
Except I recently crossed a line with a very close friend of mine, a man I’ll admit to having some ro-
mantic feelings for. After he broke up with his ex, I started getting random late-night text messages
from him. And a couple weeks ago, we hooked up sans penetration. We acknowledged that we both
have feelings but neither of us is in a good place. He’s still dealing with the end of his LTR, and I am
only just coming out as bisexual. I love this person and our friendship is important to me, but I can’t
stop thinking of the possibility of us being together. I’m confused by the timing and I wonder if this
is real or just something I’ve allowed to distract me—or both! Also, what would this mean for my
bisexuality? I’ve been to this rodeo before—meaning opposite-sex relationships—but what about
the part of me I haven’t fully explored?
Between Every Thorn Solitude Yearns
You describe yourself as a monogamist—so, yeah, entering into a committed relationship with this
man would prevent you from exploring your bisexuality. And the timing feels off: He may be on the re-
bound, and you’re still coming to terms with your bisexuality. So don’t enter into a committed relationship
with him, BETSY, at least not yet. Date him casually and keep hooking up with him, with the understand-
ing—with the explicit and fully verbalized and mutually consented to understanding—that you will be
“exploring” your bisexuality, i.e. you’ll be getting out there and eating some pussy.
I’m a 37-year-old woman married for eight years to a wonderful man. We’re happy and GGG to
the point where his kinks have become my kinks and vice versa. However, he loves anal sex and I
cannot do it. No matter how much lube we use or how slowly we go, it’s not just uncomfortable, it’s
red-hot-poker-in-my-ass painful. Can you give me any concrete, practical advice to get to a point
where I can enjoy anal?
Beyond Uncomfortable Tushy Trauma
P.S. Do some women actually enjoy anal? After my experiences, I find that really hard to believe.
If you’re still interested in exploring anal after all those red-hot-poker-in-your-ass painful experienc-
es—and you are by no means obligated to explore any further—focus on anal stimulation, BUTT, not anal
penetration. Try rimming, try a vibrator pressed against your anus (not shoved into it), try running his
lubed-up dick up and down your crack (across your anus, not into your anus), and try all of these things
during masturbation, vaginal penetration, and oral sex. Having a few dozen orgasms—or a few hundred—
while your anus’s sensitive nerve endings are pleasurably engaged could create a positive association
between anal stimulation and sexual pleasure.
It’s going to take some time to create a positive association powerful enough to supplant the negative
association you have now—an association with echoes of regicide (google “Edward II and red hot pok-
er”)—so your husband shouldn’t expect to get his dick back into your butt anytime soon, if he ever will at
all. Some people, for reasons physiological or psychological or both, just can’t experience pleasure during
anal intercourse. If you’re one of those people, BUTT, your husband will just have to grieve and move on.
P.S. I find it hard to believe that a woman could possibly enjoy, say, a Donald Trump rally. But some
women do, BUTT, and we have video to prove it. The same could be said about anal.
I am a 30-year-old hetero woman. Any ideas on how a person can build up to healthy intimate
relationships again while recovering from trauma? I’m afraid in normal sexual situations. How can
I get to a point where I can have sex for fun and not in a way where I’m triggering my fight-or-flight
response? Yes, I am seeing a therapist.
Traumatic Experience Nullifying Sexual Energy
Here’s an idea, TENSE, but please run it by your therapist before giving it a try: Find a guy you like and
propose a different kind of friends-with-benefits arrangement. You will be in charge—you will do all the
initiating—and while he can say no to anything you ask, he isn’t to ask for or initiate anything himself. You
set the menu, you make the rules, you give the orders. He’ll need to be someone you trust, and it’ll help
if he’s someone who thinks following orders is sexy—and trust me, TENSE, those guys are out there. You
said that normal sexual situations aren’t working for you. Maybe an abnormal one would?
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