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BY DAN SAVAGE
I had a great time at the live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Chicago’s Music Box Theatre. Audience
members submitted questions on cards, and I tackled as many questions as I could over two hours—with
the welcome and hilarious assistance of comedian Kristen Toomey. Here are some of the questions we
didn’t get to before they gave us the hook…
If your partner’s social media makes you uncomfortable—whether it’s the overly friendly com-
ments they get on their photos or vice versa (their overly friendly comments on other people’s pho-
tos)—do you have the right to say something?
You have the right to say something—the First Amendment applies to relationships, too—but you
have two additional rights and one responsibility: the right to refrain from reading the comments, the
right to unfollow your partner’s social-media accounts, and the responsibility to get over your jealousy.
A couple invited me to go on a trip as their third and to have threesomes. I am friends with the
guy, and there is chemistry. But I have not met the girl. I’m worried that there may not be chemistry
with her. Is there anything I can do to build chemistry or at least get us all comfortable enough to
jump into it?
Get this woman’s phone number, exchange a few photos and flirty texts, and relax. Remember: You’re
the very special guest star here—it’s their job to seduce you, not the other way around.
Incest porn—what is the reason behind why it’s so hot?
I reject the premise of your question. There’s nothing hot about incest porn.
My partner really wants an open relationship; I really don’t. He isn’t the jealous type; I am. We
compromised, and I agreed to a threesome. I want to meet him in the middle, but I really hate the idea
of even a threesome and can’t stop stressing about it. What should I do?
You should end this relationship yourself or you can let an ill-advised, sure-to-be-disastrous three-
some end it for you.
Any dating advice for people who are gay and disabled?
Move on all fronts: Go places and do things—as much as your disability and budget allow—join gay
dating sites, be open about your disability, be open to dating other disabled people. And take the advice
of an amputee I interviewed for a column a long, long time ago: “So long as they don’t see me as a fetish
object, I’m willing to date people who may be attracted to me initially because of my disability, not despite
it.”
Why do I say yes to dates if I love being alone?
Because we’re constantly told—by our families, our entertainments, our faith traditions—that there’s
something wrong with being alone. The healthiest loners shrug it off and don’t search for mates, the com-
plicit loners play along and go through the motions of searching for mates, and the oblivious loners make
themselves and others miserable by searching for and landing mates they never wanted.
My boyfriend keeps talking about how much he would like for me to peg him. (I’m female.) Should
I wait for him to buy a contraption or surprise him myself? We’ve been dating only three months.
Traditionally, straight couples exchange strap-on dildos to mark their six-month anniversary.
Gay guy, late 20s. What’s the best timing—relative to meals and bowel movements—to have
anal sex?
Butts shouldn’t be fucked too soon after a meal or too soon before a bowel movement. For more info,
read the late, great Dr. Jack Morin’s Anal Pleasure and Health: A Guide for Men, Women, and Cou-
ples—which can be read before, during, and after meals and/or bowel movements.
My sister’s husband describes himself as sexually “vanilla.” She says she hasn’t had an orgasm
without a vibrator in seven years. They are currently separated, and he wants her back. If he makes
some lifestyle changes (stops smoking so much weed, goes to the gym), is there hope for her sex
life?
Does your sister want him back? If so, taking him back is the only way to find out if he’s willing to make
these lifestyle changes and make them permanently.
I went to a big kink event. Why are the people so fucking creepy? How can you find kinky folks
who aren’t super pervy?
They’re hanging out with the kinky folks who aren’t super judgy.
Why do all of my gay friends make passes at my boyfriends at some point? It’s not just harmless
flirtation, either.
Your boyfriends are irresistible, and your gay friends are irredeemable.
My girlfriend and I are having a debate. Which is more intimate: vanilla sex or sharing a whirlpool
bath with someone? Can you settle this?
No.
Three great dates followed by a micropenis. What do I do? Him: six-foot-four, giant belly. Me: five-
foot-five, normal proportions. Great guy, but the sex sucked.
If you require an average-to-large penis to enjoy sex, don’t keep seeing this guy. He needs to find
someone who thinks—or someone who knows—tongues, fingers, brains, kinks, etc., can add up to
great sex.
As a trauma/rape survivor, I found myself attracted to girls afterward. Is this because I’m scared
of men or am I genuinely attracted to girls? Is this a thing that happens after trauma?
People react to trauma in all sorts of ways—some of them unpredictable. And trauma has the power
to unlock truths or obscure them. I’m sorry you were raped, and I would encourage you to explore these
issues with a counselor. Rape Victim Advocates (rapevictimadvocates.org) can help you find a qualified
counselor.
Do you think a relationship in this day and age can last forever?
Some relationships last forever and should, some last forever and shouldn’t. “Forever,” here defined
as “until one or both partners are dead,” isn’t the sole measure of relationship quality or success.
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