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We just did a live taping of the Savage Lovecast at Seattle’s Neptune Theatre. Audience members submitted
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Some fetish/sex clubs allow people to observe on the theory that today’s nervous newbie observer is tomor-
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overrun by voyeurs, gawkers, or tourists. Most clubs have contact info on their websites, so your best course of
action is to e-mail the place you want to attend and ask them.
In the past, I’ve had boyfriends who were horrible gift-givers (Christmas, anniversary, birthday). Is the
thought and time a guy puts into gift-giving an indicator of a good mate?
I’m a lousy gift-giver but a decent mate—at least that’s what my husband tells me—so I may not be the best
person to answer this question. But you’ve had multiple boyfriends who were lousy gift-givers—so this may be
a question you can answer for yourself. Set aside the gift-giving issues/lapses/horrors and ask yourself if your
boyfriends are decent mates otherwise.
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I provide counseling to a client who accesses the S&M community fairly frequently. She has shared with
me that she often attends a dungeon in order for someone to inflict pain on her—not because she enjoys it,
but because she’s hoping they’ll go far enough to put her life in jeopardy. She does not use the safe words
provided to her. What are the ethics of this?
Unless the kinksters at the dungeon she attends are engaged in extremely risky forms of edge play—breath
control, asphyxiation, fire play, gun play—her life is not in danger. (Suicide-by-cop is a thing, suicide-by-tit-
clamp is not. So here’s hoping she’s bullshitting you.) But if she somehow managed to find the one public dun-
geon on earth where tops rely on bottoms to use their safe words to prevent their own deaths during edge play:
What your client is doing is unethical and unfair. A top’s consent matters in a BDSM scene, too—and the people
she’s playing with consented to top her, not off her. Tell her to knock it off.
I’m a 40-year-old vegetarian guy living in a small college town and looking for an LTR. Sadly, most women
my age eat meat. How do vegetarians and meat eaters compromise in LTRs?
The meat eater agrees to keep a meat-free home; the vegetarian agrees to keep a Morrissey-free home.
I have a glass dildo that I love, but I worry it might break if I go at it too rough. Is this possible? I don’t want
to show up in the ER with glass in my vagina.
Glass dildos—quality ones—are safer than many other kinds of dildos (nonporous surfaces, no icky chem-
icals), and one would have to be dropped from a great height onto a very hard surface to actually shatter. So
unless you have a diaphragm made of marble and you’re relying on velocity to insert your glass dildo—your
partner drops it from the top of a building, you catch it with your pussy—you’re in no danger.
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