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eart
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Syrios is no Woody Allen when it comes to writing
dialogue, but the conversation is easygoing and genuine
enough to work. Matt and Sarah talk frankly about their
thoughts and emotions regarding just about every aspect of
sex and intimacy and what it means to be in a committed,
sharing relationship over time. The book does not explore
“non-conventional” sex or relationships.
The differences between male and female perspectives
on these many topics are stark. A man will stroke and tickle a
woman’s so-called erogenous zones, but her most erogenous
zone is actually her heart. In men’s pornography, men see
women as sex objects; in women’s pornography (including
romance novels), women see men as “success objects.”
“None of us naturally knows how intimacy and passion
works for the opposite sex,” Syrios writes. “We have to get
NEW BOOK EXAMINES INTIMACY
IN RELATIONSHIPS BY TED TAYLOR
L
ocal author and real estate investor Bill
Syrios has written a new book about
relationships that might make his four
grown sons blush. “This book may
contain more about good old Dad than you
wanted to know!” he writes in the dedication to Intimate
Conversations for Couples: Turning Your Relationship
into a Lifelong Love Affair, published by Crossover Press
in Eugene and available in print this Valentine’s Day.
Syrios was a Presbyterian minister for 15 years and coun-
seled many couples in diffi cult times, and he says his own
marriage had challenges. One big problem in relationships,
he says, is that men and women often have different ideas
about love, commitment, intimacy and even pornography. If
both partners can better understand and operate within each
other’s “love frames,” it is possible to build a deeper, more
supportive — and more passionate — lifelong love affair.
This book recycles a lot of concepts put forward by
popular authors such as M. Scott Peck, John Gray and
Barbara De Angelis, and Syrios quotes them and others
freely. But Syrios is packaging this information in a format
and style intended to be more accessible. The core of the
book is a fi ctional conversation between Matt and Sarah, a
married couple who leave their young kids with a babysitter
and retreat to a cabin by a lake to spend a weekend talking
about their relationship.
A MAN WILL
STROKE AND TICKLE
A WOMAN’S SO-CALLED
EROGENOUS ZONES ,
BUT HER MOST
EROGENOUS ZONE IS
ACTUALLY HER HEART.
into their gender world to see their perspective. … Since
we are all a mixture of feminine and masculine traits,
relating to each other is both frustrating and fascinating.”
The dialogue throughout the book is supplemented by
the author’s recaps of the main points of the conversation
in each chapter. He also includes a collection of intimacy
exercises that couples can complete. ♥
The book is available as an audio CD with actors speaking the roles of Matt
and Sarah, and a series of videos of Syrios talking about his book can be found
at wkly.ws/1oq.
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