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I’m a 25-year-old male. After a tragic set of circumstances, I am now the legal guardian of my
15-year-old brother. He’s gay. Fortunately, our parents took care of “the talk” and taught him
how to use condoms. Unfortunately, he has started dating a senior at his school who is about
to turn 18 and is a fucking sleazeball. You know the type: entitled, narcissistic LA type, drives a
BMW paid for by his rich parents. This asshole has no respect for my brother. He grabs my broth-
er’s ass or says disgusting things like “You really look fuckable in those jeans.” I told him to stop
that behavior, and he just replied, “Sorry, I can’t keep my hands off such a hottie.” A keeper for
sure, right?
My parents would probably know what to do, but they’re dead. I don’t think he’s mature enough to
be in a sexual relationship, but I’m fairly sure he is already sexually active. I laid down the law and
told him that he couldn’t see his boyfriend anymore, but he has continued to see him behind my
back and now doesn’t tell me anything that is going on with his life. I don’t know what he’s doing
with a guy like that. My brother is smart, plays lots of sports, and is really involved at school. I’m
afraid this loser is going to destroy all that.
I’m new to all of this parenting stuff, but I know that he can’t continue to see this person. I know
that my issue isn’t what you usually deal with, but as a parent yourself, what would you do?
New Parent Needs Help
I’m so sorry about the tragedy that befell your family, NPNH, and the loss of both your parents. You
deserve nothing but praise for taking your brother in and taking him on.
That said ...
You don’t need to round your brother’s boyfriend up to 18 — you don’t need to round him up to
“statutory rapist” — to make him sound like an asshole. He sounds like a big enough asshole at age
17. And there’s nothing inappropriate about a 17-year-old kid dating a 15-year-old kid, NPNH. You may
be tempted to alert the authorities after your brother’s asshole boyfriend (BAB) turns 18, but BAB is
protected by your state’s age-of-consent laws, which treat sex between a minor and an adult differ-
ently if the adult is within three years of the minor’s age, which this asshole is.
It’s also entirely appropriate for a 17-year-old gay boy to grab his 15-year-old boyfriend’s ass. And
it’s entirely appropriate for a 17-year-old to tell his 15-year-old boyfriend that he looks fuckable in
his jeans. But it is insanely inappropriate for a 17-year-old kid to do and say those things in front of
his 15-year-old boyfriend’s parent or legal guardian. Still, NPNH, instead of forbidding your brother
from dating this asshole or refusing to let BAB visit your house, speak up when BAB behaves like an
asshole in front of you. (“Now is not the time, guys.” “Knock that shit off, please.” “I don’t want to hear
about my brother’s sex life any more than he wants to hear about my sex life.”)
If the asshole doesn’t listen — if BAB keeps grabbing your brother’s ass — ask him to leave. It’s
your house and you make the rules. But you should resist the urge to make unenforceable rules like
“You may not see this guy,” as that will only undermine your authority while driving them into each
other’s arms. Worse yet, if your brother isn’t supposed to be seeing this guy at all, NPNH, he won’t feel
comfortable turning to you for advice if BAB is pressuring him to do anything dangerous. Your brother
needs to be able to talk about his relationship with you, and he can’t do that if he’s not supposed to
be in that relationship.
And take comfort: If BAB is as shallow and materialistic as your letter makes him sound, odds are
good that he’ll tire of your brother soon enough and move on to the next hot piece of ass who’s im-
pressed by his BMW. This is a problem that is likely to solve itself.
My dad just died. He was a pedophile. A lot of stuff is coming up for both my brother and me now.
There are many things he did that we know about, but some things happened when we were so
young that we’re not sure about. My bro just said he’s had dreams throughout his life — many
more of them lately — about a cock being in his mouth. He’s hetero and has been married for more
than 20 years. He wonders if any other straight men have dreams like this or if it is some mani-
festation of the abuse. He is too afraid to ask any of his straight male friends. So I ask you: Do
straight men ever have dreams of a cock in their mouth? Or is it odd? Gay? What?
The Brothers Grim
“I am very sorry for TBG’s loss, as complicated as it is,” said Dr. James Cantor, a psychologist, asso-
ciate professor at the University of Toronto, and editor in chief of Sexual Abuse: A Journal of Research
and Treatment. “The quick answer to his question: no. Although it is unusual, having dreams like that
does not, by itself, mean a man is gay or otherwise into penises. (Okay, technically, it’s “penes.”) Al-
though there haven’t been any formal surveys, gay men usually dream (and fantasize while mastur-
bating) about men in general: muscles and faces, celebrities and crushes, the range of their favorite
sex acts, etc. I haven’t heard a gay man — friend or client — describe dreams restricted lifelong to
just penis-in-mouth.”
Dr. Cantor offers a caveat for other readers: “For a long time, many folks believed that such dreams
were repressed memories trying to surface. But there was never any good evidence for it. In fact, a
great deal of harm has been done by well-meaning ‘therapists’ who, instead of helping clients to re-
cover lost memories, wound up creating false memories of abuse and destroying whole families.” So
very clearly and for the record: “Having such dreams, by itself, does not mean a person was abused.”
What is odd, however, is the long-standing, repetitive nature of your dreams.
“Although dreams do not tell us anything specifi c (again, these are not memories-in-waiting or
great symbolic themes), they can suggest that there is something on his mind,” said Dr. Cantor. “If
life is going generally well, and this is just a harmless eccentricity, so be it. If, however, your brother
is experiencing more general distress, then that distress — whether fallout from childhood abuse,
from the death of your father, or from something else — could be targeted with a bona fi de, licensed
therapist. Complicated situations like yours almost always involve multiple strong and confl icting
emotions. Because you say lots of stuff (other than these dreams) is coming up for you both, an
objective outsider/listener can indeed be of great help in sorting it out.”
What do you say to a college-age brother who tells you more about his sex life than you want to
hear? I love my bro, but I don’t need to know how much pussy he’s getting. I used to tell him about
my “triumphs,” but we were in high school then, and I’ve matured since. He was a late bloomer,
he’s kind of insecure, and I think he’s excited to be doing well socially and sexually. But I don’t
want to hear about it anymore.
Brotherly Boundaries
“There are two kinds of guys in the world, bro. Guys who can’t stop talking about all the pussy
they’re getting, and guys who’re actually getting all sorts of pussy.”
This week on the Savage Lovecast, Dan interviews feminist blogger Amanda Marcotte on the hysteria
surrounding female sexuality and hookup culture on college campuses. Find it at savagelovecast.com.
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