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My girlfriend and I read your column religiously, and I have you to thank for being comfortable
enough with my kinks to tell her about my interest in BDSM. She is very GGG and has indulged all
my kinky fantasies and discovered some of her own. Our latest adventure has her locking up my
dick in a CB-6000 male chastity device. The play/sex has been super-fun so far, but we want to
be aware of any health and safety concerns, specifi cally damage to my penis. We’ve had the de-
vice for almost a week, and I’ve been doing a ton of research. There is no shortage of information
on proper hygiene and cleaning while locked, and the effects of infrequent ejaculation/orgasm
denial. What we’re most concerned about is not the effects of not coming, but whether restrict-
ing my erections with a chastity device can cause nerve damage, erectile dysfunction, or other
issues. Should I be concerned about having my erections constricted by the device while being
teased or wearing it overnight? (My research tells me that in REM sleep, the typical male will get
three to fi ve erections.) We plan on taking off the device for sexual play, which we do about fi ve
times a week, so there would be plenty of opportunities for my guy to stretch out. Besides worry-
ing about limiting erections, is there any issue with having the device on long-term while soft, in
regards to the cock ring that serves as the back end of the device? If it is fi tted properly, are there
any negative effects to having this on for a day? A week? A month? I fi nd it odd that there isn’t
more information about this provided by manufacturers. From what I’ve read online, there seem
to be a lot of guys who stay locked way more long-term than I’m planning, and I hope they have
had questions like mine answered before engaging in that.
Lock On Cock Kausing Erectile Dysfunction?
There are more submissive guys out there blogging about their locked-up cocks than there are sub-
missive guys out there whose cocks are locked up.
By which I mean to say ...
Whether you’re talking about food, politics, or locking a dude’s cock in a male chastity device,
LOCKED, you’ll fi nd more anonymous liars online pretending to be experts than you’ll fi nd actual
experts. Of course, there are kinky guys out there who’ve had their cocks locked up for extended
periods. Male chastity play is a real kink, not some freaky bullshit made up by a high-school kid to
gross people out, e.g., “Dirty Sanchez,” “Donkey Punch,” “Michelle Malkin.” But the number of men
who enjoy this kind of play is relatively small, and the number of chastity players blogging about
their experience is smaller still. So it’s probably best not to take health-and-safety advice from the
anonymous chastity players you run across online.
So how about some health-and-safety advice from an actual board-certifi ed urologist instead?
“I’ve never had a patient ask me about using, or admit to using, a male chastity device,” said Stephen
H. King, MD, a urologist in Washington State. “And I cannot fi nd a single reference in the medical/
urological literature.”
What would Dr. King advise a patient who asked him about wearing a male chastity device? “As a
urologist, my primary concern is long-term health and preservation of erectile function ‘down the
road,’ so I tend to err on the cautious side, especially in someone young with many good erections
ahead of him,” said Dr. King. “So if LOCKED came to my clinic with this question, I’d certainly caution
against any long-term or continuous use of such a device, anything more than four to six hours, if it
places any signifi cant compression on the tissue directly.”
Some guys who wear male chastity devices for extended periods invest in custom-fi tted devices,
LOCKED, as a custom device is less likely to put “signifi cant compression on the tissue” than a semi-
adjustable, one-size-fi ts-all, easy-to-break-out-of CB-6000. The device you’ve got is fi ne for newbies
and short-term play, but the expensive chastity devices they sell at steelwerksextreme.com — de-
vices with names like “The Exoskeleton,” “The Torture Puzzle,” and “The Grinder” — have the benefi t
of being both safer and impossible for the wearer to remove without the key.
So let’s say you invest in a hardcore, expensive chastity device that doesn’t rely on potentially tis-
sue-compressing rings to be held in place. What does Dr. King say now? “With no compression from
the cock ring, it might be safe for somewhat longer use,” said Dr. King. “Overnight use may still be
problematic. Nocturnal/spontaneous erections are hypothesized to exist to encourage blood fl ow
and stretching of the vascular and erectile tissue to keep it healthy and prevent atrophy. Like any
other tendon, ligament, or muscle in the body — use it or lose it. I can’t see how preventing these
spontaneous nocturnal erections can be healthy. But I can’t prove any long-term damage.”
Of course, if we only listened to doctors, no one would ever eat sugar, smoke cigarettes, or let his
girlfriend lock up his cock in “The Grinder, because something “bad” might happen. (Diabetes, cancer,
impotence, respectively.) So I got a second and a third opinion for you, LOCKED.
The second opinion is mine: The manufacturers of CB-6000s and other male chastity devices don’t
provide information about risks because they’re not required to. Male chastity devices, like all sex
toys, are sold as “novelty items.” They’re not medical devices, and the FDA doesn’t regulate them.
But so long as your CB-6000 isn’t so tight that it’s cutting off circulation, pinching nerves, or rub-
bing you raw, and so long as you’re not wearing it for extended periods of time (I wouldn’t wear one
overnight, myself), you’ll be fi ne. There are, after all, thousands of CB-6000s in circulation — it is the
most popular male chastity device on the market — and if they were injuring men or rendering them
impotent, LOCKED, we’d be hearing from unhappy chastity players and their lawyers. Dr. King backs
me up on this. He consulted another doctor whose specialty is “urology trauma,” and his colleague
hadn’t heard of any issues related to chastity devices. “Perhaps that speaks to the relative safety of
them,” said Dr. King. “If they were messing up lots of penises, surely we urologists would be the fi rst
ones to know.”
The third opinion is from a kinky blogger. Metal served for six years on the board of Gay Male S/M
Activists, an organization dedicated to promoting safe, sane, and consensual BDSM, and now runs
the popular BDSM site metalbondnyc.com. He’s also a keyholder to several men locked in long-term
chastity devices.
“I’m not a medical doctor,” Metal said, “so I can’t speak with authority on potential long-term physi-
cal effects. But I can tell you that many, many men use chastity to enhance their sex lives. There are
whole websites devoted to just that one aspect of BDSM play, and some of the most popular entries
on my site are about chastity.”
None of the men Metal has personally locked up — some for months at a time — have had any
trouble getting hard once their chastity devices were removed. “When guys are fi rst locked up, they
often complain of waking up in the middle of the night with painful erections,” said Metal. “But that
usually passes in a week or so. What I would suggest to this couple is to go ahead and experiment.
Lock him up for a day or two initially, then a few days, and then maybe work up to a week or more.
Rules are good. Maybe he gets unlocked only when he’s chained to the bed. Then right after he comes
— if he’s allowed to come — his dick gets locked back up before he’s unchained.” Metal urges you to
be cautious, to take it slow, but not to fear chastity play. “Think of chastity as a really, really long form
of foreplay,” said Metal. “The possibilities, and the long-term sexual rewards, can be endless.”
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