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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I have been in a long-term relationship with a wonderful woman who doesn’t have a lot of
people she socializes with in her daily life. She is a Burning Man person and converses online
with other “burners.” I confronted her when I realized she was discussing the ups and downs of
our relationship in a public online forum. She still hung out on that forum, but her presence di-
minished. I assumed she was socializing in private e-mails. A few months later, I discovered that
she was actually moderating a different forum. I deleted the site from my history and decided
to avoid it. Last week, while she was at Burning Man, I checked out the forum she moderates,
even though I knew I shouldn’t have. What I found was that she never mentions having a boy-
friend, even when it might be relevant to a discussion. I was never mentioned, not even in pass-
ing. I don’t mind that guys compliment her, and I understand the benefi ts of positive attention
from the opposite sex. If she came to me and told me that is what she was seeking and that it
was chaste, I would be fi ne with it as long as she made that clear to other forum members.
We are both attractive, and I get attention at times from other women. I often mention that
I have a girlfriend to avoid someone getting the wrong idea. I also feel like she saves the spon-
taneous, uninhibited, and adventurous part of herself for these people at Burning Man. Does
it sound like she is cheating emotionally? How can I bring this subject up in a way that doesn’t
make me seem like just more of a depressing part of her life? I don’t want her to lose her out-
let, but I feel like she is not showing me the respect one should show a partner of 10-plus years.
Her Burning Man
I don’t want to alarm you unnecessarily, HBM, but partnered people who go to Burning
Man sans partner are typically planning to cheat cheat, not cheat emote. Casual straight
sex, like sandy ass cracks and seeing my friend Eric naked, is a huge part of the Burning Man
“experience.”
But the kind of straight guy who goes to Burning Man for casual sex—and the art and the
experience and the transcendence—doesn’t give a shit if the girls he fucks have boyfriends
back home. Or in the next tent. Your girlfriend could post your picture to Burning Man forums,
mention you in every face-to-face conversation she has, and wear a shirt with your picture on
it everywhere she goes on the playa, HBM, and she’d still fi nd plenty of guys willing to fuck her
brains out.
Mentioning you in online forums, not mentioning you in online forums—neither action is
proof that she plans to cheat or not cheat. So I’m sitting here racking my brain trying to come
up with some other reason why your girlfriend might not have mentioned you in an online
Burning Man forum that she moderates.
Thinking, thinking, thinking.
Hey! Maybe it’s because the last time you caught her talking about you and your relation-
ship in a public online forum, YOU BLEW THE FUCK UP AT HER. Remember? You were angry
then because she was talking about you on the interwebs. And you’re angry now that she isn’t
talking about you on the interwebs.
If you’re looking for a reason why your girlfriend feels inhibited around you, HBM, maybe
it’s the mixed signals. She gets in trouble for talking about you; she gets in trouble for not talk-
ing about you. If your girlfriend feels like she’s going to be in trouble with you no matter what
she does, HBM, then she’s going to feel inhibited around you. And she’s going to err on the
side of sharing less of what she does with you.
When your girlfriend gets back from Burning Man, HBM, here’s what I think you should say:
“I realize this makes me sound crazy, and maybe I am crazy. But remember when I was upset
about you talking about me—about us—in that public online forum? Well, I stumbled on another
online forum and you weren’t talking about me. And that upset me, too.”
Acknowledge your insecurities, HBM, take some responsibility for the impact they may
have on her behavior, and then have a long talk about how you can both enjoy a little attention
from members of the opposite sex without making the other person feel like shit.
I’ve been dating someone for a little more than two months. After the second week, he
was saying things like “We need a word between ‘like’ and ‘love’ because ‘I like you’ doesn’t
seem suffi cient.” After weeks of telling him to slow his roll, I agreed to make it offi cial and stop
dating and sleeping with other guys because he wanted to “lock it down.” It’s been a week, and
he’s still on Scruff and Growlr. I’m a little put off because he was the one who pushed for exclu-
sivity and the title of boyfriend. Should I be concerned? Can hookup apps be part of a healthy,
monogamous relationship? Obviously a talk is needed.
Sick of Scruff
Obviously.
Maybe your boyfriend wants to cheat but doesn’t want to be cheated on—he wants his boy-
friend locked down, but doesn’t want to be locked down himself—or maybe he thinks it’s too
soon to delete his online personal profi les. Or maybe, like a lot of gay men, he treats hookup
apps like a virtual gay bar, i.e., a place where he can hang out and socialize with friends and
exes and, perhaps, get his fl irt on now and then.
But if lurking on Scruff and Growlr makes his newly locked-down boyfriend feel insecure,
he should stay off hookup apps. Or, if he simply can’t give ’em up, your new boyfriend should
allow you to look at his chats whenever you care to so you can see for yourself that they’re
either wholly innocent (just talking with friends) or wholly innocent fl irting (swapping photos
and compliments with hot guys but not making plans to hook up).
I’m a gay man who gained 30 pounds after I met my current boyfriend. I started dieting
about a week before you ran a letter from a woman who was wondering about withholding sex
until her husband lost some weight. I told my boyfriend not to have sex with me until I lost 15
pounds. It took me three and a half weeks to lose the weight, but it really strengthened our
relationship. He was supportive of my weight-loss goals, he had an incentive to help me make
healthier choices, and it brought an erotic tension to the process that we both dug. My only
suggestion for the woman who wrote you: Don’t tell people about it! The people we told were
angry at my boyfriend for “withholding” sex unless I lost weight. But, hey, it worked!
Lighter In Loafers
As I said in my response to Like Boys Slimmer, if a couple can make the withholding of sex
into an erotic game that they’re both playing and both enjoying—and not an asshole move one
partner is pulling—I could maybe see this sort of arrangement working. And I’m pleased to
hear that at least one couple out there was able to successfully eroticize a diet by combining it
with chastity play.
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