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SEEKING SEX PARTNER
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SUBMISSIVE SEXYLEGGY
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Hi, I am 24 and am looking for the
right man who needs me so bad
they will tie me to their bed and
make
me
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and
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23
BIG STRONG HANDS
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Just looking for
Hannahottie, 21
fun!
FUNNY, NERDY, PIERCED
Hiya! My name is Robert, I’m 22,
6’3”, 190 lbs(working on losing a
few more pounds). I’m new to
Oregon. I want to try light bond-
age. Thedude, 22, g
SEXFIEND, ORGANIZED,
ROMANTIC,
Im moving to eugene from iowa
and im looking for a strong
handsome sexy man to show me
around and be my “friend”.
hotbuck, 41, g
Pleasure & pain, whisper &
scream. Some heights can only
be reached together, what are
you reaching for? I might be the
one to take you there, let’s find
out. Darksecrets, 42
LOOKING FOR SQUIRTER
I like to please and love Squirters
{female!}. neonfrog, 47
FUCK MY FACE
AIRES NEEDING OUTLET
I will deliver you bliss if you are
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Just got out of a relationship.
Need attention - want to have
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SIZE DOES MATTER
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looking for some sweet fun. I’ve
got a hectic schedule that makes
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LOOKING FOR FUN
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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I am a hetero female, but one of my biggest fantasies is for a guy to dress up in women’s
underwear. Not full-blown drag, just a teddy, fi shnets, and some heels. He doesn’t even have to
act like a woman. I just want him to parade around a bit, and just for me. I’ve had the ovaries
to bring this up only twice to men I’ve been with. My fi rst boyfriend was game, but I was so
insecure with my sexuality at the time that I let it go. My second boyfriend found it degrading
and wouldn’t do it. I think there are two things holding me back: (1) I’ve never even heard of this
fantasy, and that makes me feel like a creep. Is there a name for it? (2) I know the fi rst time I
will giggle with joy and I’m afraid that will be a big buzzkill if my hypothetical future boyfriend
thinks I’m laughing at him.
Lingerie Without A Man
1. There isn’t a name for this fantasy, LWAM, so let’s come up with one. How about “Frank-
N-Furter-Ing,” for Dr. Frank-N-Furter, a noted research scientist who also enjoyed dressing
straight boys up in fi shnets, teddies, and heels.
Your fantasy probably lacks a name because it isn’t that odd or a whole lot to ask. And
this fantasy makes you more sexually and romantically marketable than you seem to realize,
LWAM. The world is full of men who aren’t gay, aren’t into drag, and aren’t into full-blown
crossdressing but who are turned on by the idea of wearing the girlfriend’s panties and/or a
little lingerie. A lot of these men are with women who barely tolerate their kinks. The single
ones, on the other hand, are out there looking for a girlfriend who is turned on by the thought
of a guy in panties, teddies, fi shnets, and heels. Post a few explicit personal ads on online dat-
ing sites—kinkster and normster—and I promise you’ll be fl ooded with responses from guys who
want to put on a show for you.
2. It is permissible to giggle during sex. If you’re worried that your partner might think
you’re laughing at him, qualify your giggles in advance. Explain that you’re prone to joyous
laughter when you’re turned on and you might get a little giddy during his performance.
Emphasize that your giggles are evidence of arousal, not disgust or contempt. Then prove it
by fucking the shit out of him.
3. Have you checked out www.xdress.com? Think of it as your own personal porn stash
before you fi nd a boyfriend, and your favorite online shopping destination after.
I am a heterosexual female. My husband hates condoms. When we started being exclusive
and monogamous, we were both fully screened for STDs and I went on the pill. That was four
years ago. Since then, I have been through eight different versions of the pill. My current one
gives me a two-week period, I have gained about 25 pounds in two months, and I am more
moody. My doctor just prescribed me a new pill that will likely increase my weight and make
me even moodier, but it should decrease the length of the period. I am sick of this! I think my
husband should suck it up and wear a condom.
He is completely resistant. It is ironic that the pill protects me from pregnancy if I have sex,
but we’re having less sex due to the weight gain, bloating, bleeding, no sex drive, and other
side effects. My doctor does not think other options for birth control (e.g., an intrauterine de-
vice) will be a good fi t for me. Should I continue on the pill or tell my husband that if he wants
sex, he has to share responsibility in avoiding pregnancy?
Tired Of Pills
Shared responsibility.
And you can keep having sex without pills, condoms, or pregnancies. There’s oral (his-and-
hers), anal (ditto), and mutual masturbation (underrated). But if it’s vaginal intercourse he
wants, then he’ll have to get used to condoms. Some women can’t take hormonal birth control,
and your husband is married to one.
I was watching a porno featuring a hot gay threesome. Two tops double-penetrated a bot-
tom. The odd part: The tops shared a single condom! I’m wondering how safe this might be. It
certainly doesn’t seem safe.
Dubious In Phoenix
It was safe for the bottom—provided that overtaxed condom didn’t burst (here’s hoping
they were using a more spacious, more durable female condom)—but it wasn’t safe for the
tops. Jamming two dicks into a single condom could result in dick-to-dick transmission of a
number of sexually transmitted infections—herpes, HPV, chlamydia, syphilis, gonorrhea, etc.
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I am a 25-year-old straight woman. I recently started seeing a man. The fi rst time I slept
with him, he told me that he was interested in a relationship, and I told him that I wanted to
keep things purely casual. Over the next month and a half of talking to him, hanging out, and
having sex, I started to really like him. I was thinking about changing my mind and taking the
relationship to the next level.
The last time I saw him was a week ago. He came over, we had sex, and then he mentioned
he had met someone else. As he was beginning to elaborate, I told him to leave.
My anger comes from his timing. If he had told me this before we had sex, Dan, I would
have been able to have a constructive conversation about this. The problem now, if I’m being
completely honest with myself, is that I really like him and I don’t want to stop seeing him.
A couple of questions: Do I reach out to him again? Did I overreact?
Left In The Lurch
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I can understand why you were upset. You had already taken things to the “next level” in
your heart—you were thinking of this guy as your boyfriend—you just hadn’t gotten around to
informing him about the upgrade. And you assumed that, when you did get around to letting
him know, he would be delighted. Because he was the one who wanted a relationship at the
beginning, right?
Unfortunately, LITL, he took you at your word when you said you weren’t interested in a
relationship. Keeping things “purely casual” with you meant he was free to pursue a relation-
ship with someone else.
I can’t help but wonder what he was about to say when you told him to get out. He met
someone else, which wasn’t a violation of your rules. Did that mean things were over between
you two (which would make the timing of the last fuck an insult)? Or was he willing to pass on
this other girl if you were ready for a relationship (which would make tossing him out before
he could elaborate a mistake)? You probably should’ve heard him out.
Go ahead and reach out. Let him know that you were thinking about taking things to the
next level—ughers to that phrase—before he told you about the other girl. You were starting to
fall for him, you hoped he felt the same, and you were disappointed. But since he was only do-
ing what you asked—keeping it casual—you can’t fault him for keeping his options open, looking
around, dating other girls, etc. And you can’t fault him for failing to read your mind.
Close by telling him that you’d be open to dating—a real, noncasual relationship—if things
don’t work out with this other girl.
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