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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
My younger brother and I are close. He came out of the closet last year, although it wasn’t
much of a surprise because everyone knew he was gay since forever. Everyone is happy he’s
out because it kind of takes the elephant out of the room, and our immediate and extended
family are all really supportive. But for the last six to nine months or so, he’s been really
depressed about not ever having had a boyfriend. He’s 21 and he’s always talking about how he
wants to fi nd a boy to be with in a relationship and not just for sex, but he says it’s impossible
for him to meet said boy.
Me being straight, the only advice I’ve ever been able to give him is to just try new things
and that way you’ll meet new people, as really that’s the only advice you can give someone
who’s looking to meet a potential partner. My brother, however, framed his issue to me in a way
I’ve never really thought of — which is that only a small fraction of the population is gay, and an
even smaller fraction of that may be compatible with him, so meeting new people for a gay guy
is actually a lot harder than it is for straight people.
He’s been on the whole online dating thing for a while, but said it’s really diffi cult to meet
anyone who he feels a connection with. I’ve never done online dating, but I have heard the
same points from others who’ve tried it. I asked him if he ever goes to gay bars, because that
would obviously change the ratios around, but apparently it’s a little insensitive for a straight
guy to say that, and he said he’s not really into that scene. Anyway, I just wish I could give him
some good advice without being unintentionally offensive (the gay bar suggestion). I’d still like
to offer him any advice I can for him to meet a guy he feels strongly about.
Seeking Advice For Family
There are 3.5 billion men on the planet.
Even if we accept the lowest educated guesstimate of the percentage of the population
that’s gay — 1.7 percent — that means your brother has nearly 60 million potential romantic
partners to choose from worldwide; he has 2.5 million potential romantic partners in the
United States alone. Other informed guesstimates of the percentage of the population that’s
gay are much, much higher — seven or eight times higher — so your brother’s odds of fi nding a
partner are probably much better. But let’s put that 1.7 percent fi gure in perspective: Jews rep-
resent just 1.7 percent of the population of the United States. So even if the percentage of the
population that’s gay is “just” 1.7 percent, your brother has the, um, same cross to bear — and
the same odds of success — as an American Jew who wants to marry another American Jew.
It sounds like your brother is going through a common if rarely discussed stage of the
coming-out process: Wallow in Self Pity and Bite the Head Off Anyone Who Tries to Help.
That’s why he was offended by your perfectly reasonable, not at all offensive suggestion that
he get out there and hit some gay bars. Yes, the bars aren’t for everyone. But if you’re single
and want to meet people — gay or straight — you need to be moving on all fronts: online dating,
hitting bars and clubs, volunteering, and just generally getting out of the fucking house.
Your brother is 21 years old and he just came out, SAFF, and his frustration is understand-
able. He’s been watching his straight peers (and his straight brothers) hook up and fall in love
since middle school and he feels anxious to make up for lost time. But he won’t fi nd that fi rst
boyfriend if he isn’t willing to put himself out there — and that means giving the guys he meets
online a chance, giving the bars a chance, and giving the people who are trying to help him out
a break.
My girlfriend of two and a half years and I are ready to move in together. Finally! I am so
excited to take this next step, and so is she. The problem is that I work third shift four to fi ve
nights a week and she works a regular day job. I can’t help but feel that we aren’t going to get
the full experience of living together with our work situations being what they are. I won’t be
waking up every morning to her saying, “Good morning, beautiful,” etc. What can we do to
make this a better situation and take advantage of the next step? Thanks.
The Next Step
Here’s a tip, TNS: Don’t spend too much time comparing your actual relationship, which
will always be shaped by circumstances not fully in your control (like your work schedules), to
your idealized notions about what a romantic relationship should look like. That only ensures
constant disappointment. Don’t get me wrong: Once you move in with your girlfriend, there
will be days that begin with her rolling over and saying, “Good morning, beautiful.” But there
will also be days that begin with your girlfriend rolling over and farting. The trick to loving
your LTR is to fully appreciate the moments that rise to the level of your romantic ideals
(“Good morning, beautiful”) without obsessing about those moments that disappoint (split
shifts, ripped farts). Good luck!
I’m a guy. I’ve been with my girlfriend for almost two years. I love her, but in the last year,
sex has been an issue. I feel attracted to her, but I fi nd myself easily distracted these days, kind
of worried during sex, which has resulted in me either coming super fast or losing my erection
altogether. As a result, she does not orgasm at all. It’s gotten to the point where I’m afraid to
be intimate with her for fear of letting her down. I have gone to see doctors to try to under-
stand if my medical conditions — severe sleep apnea, elevated blood pressure — might have
something to do with it. I’m in treatment for these things and I’ve started going to a therapist,
too. I am thinking of buying some sex toys to use while I work to overcome my problems. My
girlfriend doesn’t own any, and she says she doesn’t masturbate because she tried it once and
never came. How do I approach her with the idea of using sex toys during sex? Should I? I just
want her to experience an orgasm even if I need to get some extra help from a vibrator.
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Incorporating some adult toys — vibrators and dildos — into your sex life isn’t just a great
way to maintain your sexual connection while you work on your physical and mental issues,
DITD, it’s also a great way to take the pressure off your dick. Performance anxiety and worries
about leaving your partner unsatisfi ed can combine to create a hugely destructive, dick-defl at-
ing negative feedback loop. As for your girlfriend …
A woman who doesn’t masturbate — because she tried it once and it didn’t work — has
hang-ups, DITD. And a woman with hang-ups is much likelier to forgive a partner for having
purchased some sex toys than she is to give a partner her advance permission to go and pur-
chase some sex toys. So fi nd a good local or online sex-toy store and buy whatever you think
looks like fun.
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