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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
Is it possible for a hookup to turn into a relationship?
Hoping One Person Enters
A hookup is a relationship, HOPE. It may be a short-term relationship, but it’s a relationship
regardless.
And, yes, a short-term hookup can turn into a long-term relationship, HOPE, but not
if you’re treating your hookups like shit (because they’re only hookups!) and not if you’re
willing to let the people you hook up with treat you like shit (because you’re only a hookup).
Treat your hookups like people you might actually see again—like human beings with human
feelings, not just human holes and/or poles—and you might actually see them again.
You might even wind up in a long-term relationship.
Now, sometimes people hook up with strangers precisely because they wanna have sex
with someone they don’t know and don’t expect to see again. And that’s not always a bad idea:
Having sex with someone who you don’t expect to see again can be very liberating. A girl who
can’t let herself go with a guy she’s dating—maybe she fears being slut- or nympho-shamed
by a boyfriend—will grind the dick off a hookup. And it can be easier to ask someone you don’t
expect to see again to do something kinky. Say a straight boy has always wanted a girl to put
him in her panties and peg his ass. He could ask a girlfriend to do that for him, sure, but the
stakes are higher. What if she freaks out and dumps him, and blabs to her friends—and his—
about why she dumped him?
People who divide the fuckable world into those they care about (and can’t open up to
sexually) and those they don’t care about (and can open up to sexually but won’t date) wind up
having awesome sex with people they don’t know and lousy sex with people they marry. That’s
not a good strategy for anyone interested in a successful—and sexually fulfi lling—long-term
relationship.
So here’s what you should do, HOPE: Be uninhibited with your hookups while treating
them like people you might actually see again and insist on being treated that way in return.
Don’t hook up with people who treat you like shit; don’t treat the people you hook up with like
shit. Even if you know you’re not going to see someone again—maybe they’re not someone
you would date or circumstances are such that you couldn’t date them even if you wanted
to (business trip, European vacation, spring break, etc.)—treat your hookups with kindness,
respect, and gratitude.
Finally, HOPE, some people treat hookups like shit—only after they’ve come, natch—because
they want their hookups to understand that they’re not interested in a relationship. That’s not
just assholery, assholes, it’s completely unnecessary assholery. If someone was kind enough to
suck your dick or fuck your brains out—if someone hooked up with your ass—a little kindness
and consideration isn’t too much to ask. If you’re worried that your hookup might misinterpret
“kindness and consideration” for “I want to be with you forever,” tell them—gently and
directly—that you’re not interested in a relationship.
Straight guy here. For the fi rst time in my life, I am with someone who understands how
much my work is a part of who I am. (I travel for research and come home and agonize over
writing it up.) We have a caring and affectionate relationship. She told me at the start that
she has never had an orgasm and she didn’t believe in masturbation. I knew then that the sex
would be vanilla, but I didn’t realize that a year later, it would be more vanilla and less frequent.
I’m going out of my mind. In the early months, we discussed open relationships. Her view was
that she wasn’t interested, but if I cheated it would be fi ne as long as she never found out. At
the time, it sounded like a trap; now it sounds like an option. Help.
Sex Too Underwhelming Can’t Kontinue
Since an honest open relationship is off the table, STUCK, I’m gonna urge you to DTMFA.
(I’m not saying your girlfriend is an MF—heavens no—but DTMFA is the term of art around
here.) I’m thinking you’ll have an easier time getting a girl who likes sex to understand how
important your work is to you than you’ll have getting this girl to understand how important
sex is to you. You and your current girlfriend simply aren’t sexually compatible, STUCK, and
sexual compatibility matters when you’re picking a sex partner. Duh.
DTMFA.
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I am a girl and I am stuck. My boyfriend and I have been dating for nine months, and I only
recently told him I can squirt. When we would have sex before, I would tell him to stop before I
came because I didn’t want to squirt. Now that he knows, he thinks it’s really hot that I can and
wants me to do it. But I can’t seem to get to that point anymore. I have a vibrator, and when I
masturbate, I can squirt no problem. But even with me, or him, stimulating my clit while having
sex, I just can’t do it and I don’t know why.
What Should I Do?
You should relax.
I’m not saying that you’ll squirt the next time you fuck your boyfriend if you can just relax,
WSID, but you’ll get there sooner if you relax about whether or not you’re squirting.
And let’s remember why you weren’t squirting with the boyfriend: You were worried that
he might react negatively or think it was gross. Not squirting was something you were doing
for him. Now that you know he’s into it, you want to squirt for him.
Stop thinking about him, WSID, and start thinking about yourself.
You trained your body not to come when you were with your boyfriend, and it’s going to
take some time to undo that training. But if you can squirt when you masturbate alone, WSID,
you can squirt with your boyfriend. And here’s how you can get there: Masturbate with your
boyfriend in the house but not in your room. Then do it with him in the room but not in the
bed with you—and, hey, put a blindfold on him if you’re self-conscious about him watching you.
Then masturbate with him in the bed with you blindfolded. Then masturbate with him in the
bed with you not blindfolded. Then masturbate with him in the bed and not blindfolded and
touching you, then with him in the bed holding you, then with him in the bed helping you.
Relax, enjoy, have fun, and you’ll get there, WSID, I promise.
The advice you gave to TUSH—the gay teenager worried because he and his boyfriend
weren’t any good at gay sex—isn’t exclusive to the gay young’uns. Most of us don’t start with
the discipline of practice and communication often required for mutually successful sex. My
fi rst attempts, as a virgin male with a virgin female, were hilariously awkward. Nothing worked,
nothing fi t. Fifteen years later, with a combined 30 years of experience, we hooked up again for
one of our best-ever sexual encounters. Please let the gay kids know they’re not at all alone in
this crazy game of sex. Like anything worthwhile, it takes time and effort and practice to get
good at it.
Only Learning Doth Make A Notch
Thanks for sharing, OLDMAN.
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