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#106370
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#103646
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#103175
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i am a professional dominant
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24,
#106218
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#106143
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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I’m a 20-year-old straight male, but this isn’t really about me.
I was recently back home for a family event while my younger brother, age 14, was away
on a mission trip with his church. My iPad died while I was home and my mother told me to
look in the kitchen drawers for a charger. I couldn’t fi nd one there, so she told me to check my
brother’s bedside table. I opened the drawer and, with a little digging, found a charger.
I also found a few pictures of gay porn and a couple of pictures of male celebrities with
their shirts off that had been clipped from magazines. It isn’t the gay porn I have a problem
with, I fully support him coming into his sexuality, whatever it might be, but then I found a few
things that were a bit more disturbing: I found a picture of our father in his swim trunks, and
another one of a fully naked man with a cutout photo of my father’s face glued over the origi-
nal model’s face. Needless to say, I was freaked out. I put everything back where I had found
it, including the charger, and haven’t said anything to him about it. Now I’m in a tough spot. I
know that telling my brother I found the pictures would mortify him, and I feel like telling my
father would be a complete dick move.
Any help you can offer me would be a big help.
Concerned And Scared
I can appreciate why those pictures squicked you out—a family member lusting after a
family member? Ughers—but I don’t understand exactly what it is you’re afraid of, CAS. While
your brother appears to have an inappropriate and—fi ngers crossed—fl eeting sexual obsession
with your father, can you picture a scenario in which your brother’s desires, however devoutly
wished, could be consummated?
Unless something much, much squickier is going on back home, your brother isn’t a
danger to your father, CAS, nor is your father a danger to your brother. The only danger I can
see is in the false choice you’ve laid out in your letter. Saying something to your brother will
only poison your relationship with him; saying something to your father will certainly kill his
relationship with his son. And destroying either relationship over what is most likely a tempo-
rary bonerstorm-of-puberty-induced obsession—an obsession that will soon be a distant and
unpleasant memory for your brother—seems a bit extreme.
If those pictures weren’t in a place where your parents might also fi nd them, CAS, I would
advise you to stuff this one way down the ol’ memory hole. But there they are, in a place
where Mom and Dad—BUT ESPECIALLY DAD—might fi nd ’em. So you’re going to memorize this
and say it your brother ASAP: “Hey, kiddo, Mom told me to look in your nightstand drawer for
a iPad power cord. I found one—along with what looked like gay porn. I didn’t peruse your porn
collection too closely because I wanted to respect your privacy. But you need to get that stuff
out of the house before Mom or Dad fi nds it. It’s cool with me if you’re gay, and I love you and
it makes no difference—but leaving porn around is not how you want to come out to Mom and
Dad, okay?”
Then tell him that grown-ups don’t keep porn in their bedside tables anymore: The internet
is for porn, and he can access all the porn he likes safely and discreetly on his iPad.
DO ME
PLAYING WITH PAIN
HOT4U
FRISKY METAL HEAD
GGG musician looking for artistic
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being sub/dom. Have a feminine
build, enjoy cross-dressing, role-
play. Looking for a lusty intellec-
tual friendship? I’m your guy.
TheBear, 20, #106372
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 31,
#105142
My honey-pot is low and needs
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Preferably a bucking bronco ;-).
I’m a saucy whench boys, I need
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g , #105484
Straight female seeking young
lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the
submissive one. I can host. I live
with my gay brother undergoing
MTF changeover who supports
me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37,
g , #106134
MOREFUNMYWAY.
Interested to try new things. No
dramatics is a must. Keep it
casual. HAVE FUN! Lost camera
cables in the move... Deal with
the dirty hiker shots for now.
Alwaysdown,
29,
#106335
Savage Love
WANTING LION333
Wanting to leave you helpless.
Always wanting more, and you’ll
only say “no” when you need to
catch your breath. Sexual_
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looking for 2 or 3 older guys (50
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#106045
CURIOUS
Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks
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#103934
UNDDIE TAKER
im lookin for a sub girl that likes
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FIRST TIME
COUPLE FOR THREESOME
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SMOKE, DRINK, FUCK
Looking for sex kitten to have
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I’m looking for a no ties, no
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MW4W ATTRACTIVE COUPLE
I’m 21yo, 5’6” 130, 36c, bi. He’s 25,
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#106400
NEED MY FIX!
I’ve been looking for “Discreet”
encounters for a while now, and
no luck. I hope to find some
people around here. I’m okay
with men too, but I’m insanely
picky. Profplum, 18, g ,
#106395
I would like to know why my husband is divorcing me to marry an 87-year-old woman.
Extremely Humiliated
PLAY ROUGH
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22,
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UNSELFISH INSATIABLE
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StrawberryFish, 18, g ,
#106353
Only your husband knows the real reason, EH, but if I were to hazard a couple of guesses:
Either this woman is extremely wealthy or your husband is a gerontophile. Sadly, neither
makes this situation any less humiliating for you. But try to look at the bright side: No one who
hears what your husband has done—and no one who knows you both personally—is going to
think there’s something wrong with you.
I am a 43-year-old mother of three, married for almost 20 years. Three years and one child
in, my husband confessed that he had a penchant for being a BDSM sub. My reaction was,
“Okay, I’ll try it, but if you want to explore that with pro doms, be my guest.” Which he did.
Fast-forward a dozen years. I’m going bonkers because my husband is impotent. And don’t
tell me ED can be fi xed, because in our case it couldn’t. And don’t tell me there are alternatives
(oral, manual, toys), because all of those are just not the same for me. My body needs a fully
functioning and capable man. So my husband gives me his “blessing” to take a lover. I didn’t
even have to ask! I just needed to be miserable and depressed for a dozen years!
Now I have two lovers. One lives far away, and I see him a few times a year; the other is
local. The problem is that they are both married to spouses who don’t know. Like me, neither
of my lovers is interested in divorce. That’s the good news. The bad news is that I’m not happy
with the integrity of these situations. I know that what I am doing is considered despicable by
many people, despite the fact that I’m probably a marriage-saving device for both of these
women. (Their husbands are happier, I’m not trying to steal their husbands, and I’m not a fi -
nancial burden on either of them.) I would love to fi nd someone in an honest open relationship,
but this has so far eluded me. So I guess my question is: How do I set up a situation with more
integrity when the world isn’t really ready for people like me?
Normal Soccer Mom From Afar
The answer NSMFA seeks is obvious—there are hard-up single men out there, married men
in honest open relationships, men in the organized swinging movement, and she should go
fuck some of them—but I’m including NSMFA’s problem in the column for all the smug monoga-
mists sending me angry letters in the wake of Mark Oppenheimer’s recent feature about mo-
nogamy and its discontents in the New York Times Magazine (“Married, with Infi delities,” June
30, 2011). While regular readers of Savage Love know where I stand on monogamy—with the
realists, monogamous or not—not many readers of the New York Times knew where I stood.
Anyway, smugsters, here’s what I think is interesting about NSMFA’s letter: Everyone
involved is perceived to be in a monogamous relationship, by their friends, family members,
neighbors, bosses, coworkers, elected representatives, etc.; two of the women involved—the
duped wives of the men that NSMFA is seeing on the side—may actually believe themselves
to be in monogamous relationships. But not one of these three couples—not one of these six
“traditionally married” straight people—is actually in a monogamous relationship.
Just something to keep in mind, monogamists, before you hit “send” on your e-mail to me
about your beautiful, deep, and meaningful monogamous relationship, about how your par-
ents never cheated on each other, about how none of your married friends would ever cheat
on their spouses, and about how people like me have no idea what real love means because
we’re not in monogamous relationships, etc., etc., etc.
Because you just never know, do you?
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