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Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
In response to a wannabe fi ster who hadn’t told his girlfriend about his kink, you wrote,
“At three years, all your kink cards should be lying faceup on the table.” Really? Then my
husband and I screwed up. We’ve been married for 19 years, and he told me only fi ve years ago
that he wanted to be spanked. Less than two years ago, he mentioned that he had been to a
dominatrix before we met. I thought we had talked about everything when it came to sex and
fantasies. I was wrong.
While I have your attention: I’m having a problem with the spanking. It just isn’t my thing.
I told my husband he could go to a dominatrix if that would satisfy his needs. He agreed to go
if I watched the session. I’m not sure I can do that, either. Well, guess what? We can’t even fi nd
one in our part of the country. I hate to think we need to plan a special trip outside to visit a
dominatrix (“outside” means Lower 48 in Alaska slang). I can’t imagine scheduling something
like that when we’re on vacation visiting kids, family, and friends. Any suggestions?
Not Into Spanking
You didn’t screw up, NIS, your husband did — he’s the one who didn’t lay down his kink
cards.
I fi nd this bit absolutely astounding: You gave your husband permission to see a profes-
sional dominatrix — a permission slip that countless submissive married men would be thrilled
to have — and he responded by placing conditions on you? His desire to include you is a good
sign (he’s just that into you), but he’s either an ingrate or a bossy, passive-aggressive, domi-
neering douchesub for responding like that. You’re in a better position to judge which one he
is.
My advice: Stand your ground. He has your blessing to go get his spank on — on his own.
The accommodation you’ve proposed is reasonable and generous, and he should be grateful.
He doesn’t have to travel to the big city to see a pro with a fully tricked-out dungeon: Most sex
workers are happy to indulge their clients’ milder kinks, and spanking — as opposed to fl og-
ging, caning, sandblasting, etc. — defi nitely qualifi es as mild.
If you do fi nd yourself in the Lower 48 and he wants to make an appointment with a pro,
just tell your kids, family, and friends that you’re slipping out for a romantic meal. Accompany
your husband to the studio, say hello to the nice dominatrix, and hand your husband over
for punishment. Then you can retire to a nice restaurant and have the cocktail you deserve
while your husband gets the spanking he deserves. And once your husband arrives, have that
romantic meal.
I’ve been in a BDSM relationship for two years with an awesome top who respects my limits.
Like most GGG lovers, there are things I hate and won’t do, and there’s stuff I don’t like much
but I know he loves and I can put up with. One of these things is having his dick hit my cervix
when we’re fucking: He loves it because it hurts, but it freaks me out because I’ve heard stories
of women having their cervixes ruptured during sex. He assures me that won’t happen, but on
at least two occasions I’ve bled so much that I thought my period had started. Am I right to be
freaked for my cervix or is this okay?
Freaked By Bloody Sex
“Worrisome cervical damage, including cervical rupture during sexual intercourse between
two healthy adults, is extremely unlikely,” said Nassim Assefi , an internist specializing in
women’s health — as well as a writer, activist, and humanitarian aid worker. (Learn more about
her superhuman kickassery at www.nassimassefi .com.) “Some caveats: This assumes no pierc-
ings of the penis (no spiky jewelry hitting the cervix), and this does not include rape of young
girls, large-animal penis penetration of women, and use of foreign bodies (dildos and other
objects much larger than human penises).”
Assefi adds that it’s not uncommon to have a little cervical bleeding after vigorous vaginal
intercourse, FBBS, and I’ll add that a little bleeding — on occasion (birthdays, holidays, anniver-
saries) — can be normal after anal, too.
“However, bleeding — especially heavy bleeding like a period — may be a sign of a cervix
made fragile by STIs, benign growths (polyps), precancerous conditions, or cancer, not to men-
tion bleeding disorders. It’s worth getting a pelvic exam and talking to a health provider about
the bleeding if you’re worried or the bleeding is heavy.”
Assefi sums it up: “Bonk the cervix if you and your partner get off on it. Just make sure
you’re bonking a healthy cervix.”
I’m a 28-year-old gay man, living with my partner for two years. I’ve always been open
about wanting to be tied up, spanked, maybe trussed up in leather bondage gear. He’s always
been open about his reluctance to indulge me, saying he needs time to get used to it. I’m
inclined to believe him, because it took him quite a while to get to the point of just being willing
to strap me to the bed and jerk me. I’d like to explore some other aspects of my fetishes. He
says we will but thinking about me in kinky gear makes him anxious.
We had a bit of an argument about this, and I’ve agreed to drop the subject of my kinks
while we’re on vacation. He’s worth waiting for: We click emotionally, he’s sexy, I love his smell,
we enjoy spending time together, I love the cuddles, we love each other madly, and the vanilla
sex we have is great. So if he never got past this at all, it might not be a deal breaker, but I’m
hoping you have some ideas about how to make it more fun and less stressful or off-putting for
him.
Boyfriend Isn’t Necessarily Delivering My Erotics
There’s one way you could make your kinks less stressful for your boyfriend: outsource
’em.
Unlike straight married men who want to be tied up and spanked, BINDME, you wouldn’t
have to pay (or travel) for it. The supply-and-demand problem that complicates the lives of
so many kinky straight men — there are too many kinky men out there chasing too few kinky
women — isn’t an issue for kinky gay men. Kinky gay men with vanilla partners have the option
of jumping on Recon.com or other kink sites and fi nding a few bondage buddies, i.e., guys they
get together with for free sex-free bondage sessions.
If your boyfriend doesn’t want to sign off on that, and you’re willing to hang in there, you
should. A vanilla guy who’s strapping you to the bed at two years could be helping you pick out
hardcore bondage gear for your wedding registry at four. It sounds like this relationship has a
lot going for it, BINDME, so you might want to take his word for it when he says that he’ll get
there for you.
It certainly won’t hurt to give the subject a rest over your vacation, particularly if you’ve
been plaguing him about it recently. But let him know, post-vacation, that while you’re willing
to be patient (you are being patient), you’re ultimately going to explore your kinks with him —
your preferred option — or you’re going to need his permission to explore your kinks without
him. But you’re not going to not explore your kinks.
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