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CONTROL SEEKER
Who is willing&loves to take com-
plete control of me, slammin me
on walls pinning me down, kinda
violent control, Kinda like i dont
have a say it what happens.
Lion333, 18, g , #106311
WANTAPIECEOFME
I like it when a guy is funny,
sweet knows how to be in control
and have Dominance over me. I
enjoy dirty talk and tease then i
please. DramaFree, 18, g ,
#106310
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HOT4U
FUN LOVING CRIMINAL
HANDSOME DAD SPANKS
Straight female seeking young
lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the
submissive one. I can host. I live
with my gay brother undergoing
MTF changeover who supports
me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37,
g , #106134
Home town boy, looking to get
with some strange. New to this
scene, looking for someone to
show me around town. ;) Love
costumes, spanking, and a whole
lot more. JohnRedcorn, 26,
g , #106309
Looking for a young man in need
of an over the knee, bare bot-
tomed spanking. Just like dad
used to give you. Slim and young
preferred. All considered. firm-
papa, 53, g , #106127
SEEKING FUN FEMALE
DOM SEEKS SUB
I am happily married, but need a
girlfriend to cuddle, send flowers
and cards Im laid back really just
looking for an ltr. I am confident
in myself. friendlybigurl, 31,
g , #105250
Its about you giving up control
not having any say well maybe a
little if i decide and you know
how to ask! Safe word, trust.I like
skinny and thick. nonhard-
coreDOM, 39, #106299
HOT PREGNANT MAMA
LOOKIN TO LICK
i want a FEMALE to suck on my
tits now&aftr milk comes in in
4mo, and belly&inner thigh mas-
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GingerPeach, 36, ☎,
#105770
I love to lick and want to find a
woman that can handle it as long
as I do it. Stryker, 40,
#106302
I’m bored and you are too. cat-
tlehut, 24, g , #106298
FUNTIMES
Just looking to meet new people
and have a fun time. frey-
lock111, 35, #106249
WHATS UP???
would like a girl to play around
with.....long term or short term.
eugenechronic,
21,
#106275
WET PUSSY
Looking for some fun. no compli-
cations. no drama. just SEX!!
love2suck,
33,
☎,
#106238
LUSTY, LUCIOUS, LOVELY
Looking for someone to get me
over my excess baggage. Slick,
31, ☎, #106057
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 31,
#105142
MAGICALSTUD
THINK U CAN HANDLE ME DEN
WEN FINNA SEE!! magic27, 20,
g , #106094
NON HARDCORE DOM
SEEKS SUB
Seeking younger Sub, curious or
trainee. Rules, boundaries, disci-
pline. Not mean. Like thin and
thicker girls. About desires, 39,
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BUTTMAN
Just looking for fun!!!!! Single
and looking to try new exciting
things
with
whoever.
g ,
Bobby24,
24,
#106218
HANDSOME OLD SENSUALIST
looking for a nice attractive,
slender young beauty or a stable
couple to play with. Disease free.
Not a freak. Let’s just have us
some pink, naked, squishy fun! :).
pure, 49, g , #101299
SEXY COUPLE SEEKING
FLIRTY FEMME 4U
Any butch bois out there who
know how to treat a lady? This
girl has got some needs that
only a strong dominant butch
can handle. Are you butch
enough? FlirtyFemme, 53,
g , #101518
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TER?
SLUT WANTED
I want a fuck buddy, female, into
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doggie, toys, Dom,m and Sub
slut. dress up, oils, and massage,
tease play, Married or single.
johns8633, 50, #106265
AZ PHENOMENAL FACIAL
LONG LASTING LOVER
I love to lick/play with a pussy til
I get choked by your cum. I also
love to get Head and I love to
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their van. AZgoodman, 26,
#106143
20-something couple looking for
a lady for a shared encounter-
something new, fun, and pleasur-
able. We are clean, attractive and
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#106314
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WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I’m a 22-year-old FTM. I will become a legal male this summer. WOOT. Useless hole but still
no pole. My friends — all straight — don’t know I’m FTM because I don’t feel it matters. I don’t
know any other FTMs, and I really don’t care to. However, I like men. I have never had a boy-
friend or been on a date. I go to gay clubs and fl irt, get hit on, dance, and make out with other
gay men. But when I am up front about being FTM, I never hear from a guy again. My question
is, when do I tell a gay man I have been fl irting with that I am not a bio male? I don’t want to
deceive them, but I at least want a chance for them to get to know me a little bit fi rst.
No Pole, No Go
The fi rst thing Buck Angel — trans activist, public speaker, and porn star — wanted to say,
NPNG, was congrats in advance on become a legal male. The second thing Buck wanted to say
was that hole of yours isn’t useless.
“If he isn’t familiar with my work, maybe he should check it out,” said Buck (www.buckan-
gel.com). “I get tremendous pleasure from my hole and I am comfortable sharing that with the
world in my movies. Whether a transman plans on getting a penis or not, there still has to be a
time that he realizes that what’s between his legs does not defi ne who he is.”
It seems to me that time — the time you realized that you’re not defi ned by what’s between
your legs — had to have come before you began transitioning, NPNG, otherwise you wouldn’t
be transitioning at all. As for how the guys you’re meeting in gay bars now, post-transition,
feel about what is or isn’t between your legs, Buck has some advice for you about that, too: “If
he meets a guy and tells him about himself — which is the right thing to do — and he doesn’t
hear back, then that wasn’t the right guy for him.”
If you’re not having any luck with messy face-to-face meetings/make-out sessions in gay
bars, Buck suggests you consider online dating.
“If he’s looking to hook up,” said Buck, “here’s a site where he can start: www.ftmlover.com.
He’ll see that there are tons — and I mean TONS — of men out there who are interested in guys
like us!”
But before you start meeting those guys, NPNG, Buck thinks — and I agree — that you have
to become more comfortable in your own skin. “Be proud of your body,” said Buck. “When you
feel confi dent that you are a man, no one can tell you otherwise.”
Do you know what might help you feel more confi dent? Getting to know some other trans
guys.
“There are many reasons that someone might isolate themselves from other trans and gay
people,” said Ezra Goetzen, a mental health therapist and trans community activist. “Some
folks identify as male-to-male, seeing their transition as a medical procedure rather than a
path to a transgender identity. Others, due to the fabulously fl attering cultural/media images
of trans people in general, internalize the shame, indifference, and disgust — and they don’t
want to be reminded of these feelings by hanging out with other trans people.”
Whatever your particular reason for avoiding transmen, NPNG, you’re doing yourself a
disservice.
“Being isolated from other trans folks leaves little room to fi nd support and role models for
loving yourself,” said Goetzen. “And it makes getting invaluable tips on how to get laid safely
and carefully harder.”
You know, invaluable tips like the ones Buck provided you with today. Want more tips like
those, NPNG? Then get to know some of the guys out there who have successfully navigated
the path you’re stumbling along.
Getting married soon. We want to put a note in the invitation requesting donations to
organizations fi ghting for marriage equality in lieu of gifts. Which organization is fi ghting the
hardest/most effectively in your view?
Gonna Get Married
Freedom to Marry (www.freedomtomarry.org), National Center for Lesbian Rights (www.
nclrights.org), and GetEQUAL (www.getequal.org) — and thanks and congrats, GGM!
looking for an older man wanting
a sexy boy to play nice with.
funside86, 24, #105986
SATISFY YOUR FANTASIES!
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Savage Love
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I’m wondering whether you have any thoughts on the male tendency when sharing “naugh-
ty” photos to go straight for a close-up shot of the penis. Representative Anthony Weiner’s
tweeting disaster has brought to mind a number of recent cases where high-profi le men — such
as Kanye West and Brett Favre — sent other women similar shots in an apparent attempt to
seduce them. However, the response I’ve heard from women to such offerings can be summed
up as “Ew, yuck!”
Do you have any insight on why some men think this sort of overture would work?
Totally Confused Female
Some men think this sort of overture works, TCF, because sometimes it works.
Before we get into that, I want to say a few words about Anthony Weiner: Nothing the
gentleman from New York said last week made him sound like a man who hasn’t taken a
picture of his cock at some point and sent it to someone for some reason. Nevertheless, I’m
confi dent that Weiner is going to beat this thing.
Watching Weinergate unfold is like watching the voters-getting-over-politicians-who’ve-
smoked-pot story play out all over again, only this time at warp speed and with sexting stand-
ing in for THC. With pot, we went from exposure resulting in an instantaneous resignation in
1987 (Supreme Court nominee Douglas Ginsburg) to a tacit admission being a survivable mini-
scandal in 1992 (Bill “Smoked, Didn’t Inhale” Clinton) to a collective shrug in 2008 (Barack “I
Got High” Obama). With dirty pol pics, we’ve gone from instant resignation in February 2011
(Representative Christopher “Craigslist Congressman” Lee) to a tacit admission looking like a
survivable mini-scandal in June 2011 (Representative Anthony “Beat This Thing” Weiner). At
this rate, we’ll be shrugging off the dirty pics of a congressman-to-be-named-later sometime
before Labor Day.
Getting back to your question, TCF: The cock-shot overture doesn’t work on most women,
I’ll grant you, but the sort of guys who send cock shots aren’t interested in most women.
They’re interested in the sort of women who this sort of overture works on. And the sort of
men who think only with their photogenic dicks — and not all men are that sort — fi gure the
quickest way to determine if a woman is that sort of woman is to send the cock shot.
Despite a unanimous “Ew, yuck!” from your friends, TCF, there are women out there who
do respond positively. One of the women you talked to about cock shots may have thought,
“Well, it depends on the guy,” but told you, “Ew, yuck!” because it was clear from the “Ew,
yuck!” look on your face that “Ew, yuck!” was what you wanted to hear.
Gentlemen: The existence of a handful of women who welcome cock shots does not give
you license to send cock shots to all women. Cock shots are for women who have expressed a
clear and unambiguous interest in receiving cock shots.
Speaking of Buck Angel: Documentary fi lmmaker Dan Hunt (Cruel & Unusual, Dangerous
Living, Bear Run) is working on a fi lm about Buck Angel’s life, work, and activism. Hunt has
been following Buck for six years and now needs to raise $6,000 to hire an editor to help him
shape the fi lm. Please join me in helping Hunt to fi nish Mr. Angel by making a donation via
Kickstarter: www.tinyurl.com/3d8wmtf.
Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage.
mail@savagelove.net
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