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Straight female seeking young
lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the
submissive one. I can host. I live
with my gay brother undergoing
MTF changeover who supports
me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37,
g , #106134
Handsome black Guy in the
Eugene/Springfield area looking
to have some fun. My wife wont
fuck me so I’m done trying to
make her, its time to let loose.
Aloe_Black, 34, g ,
#106178
looking for an older man wanting
a sexy boy to play nice with.
funside86, 24, #105986
SEXY BUSTY BABE
A CUNNILINGUS GENIUS
Needing someone to show me
the ropes. Im not submissive just
new to this. littleone, 20,
#103646
Lived in Eugene my whole life,
I’m nice, have a good sense of
humor, and I’m looking for a fun
sexy girl. BobaFett, 20, g ,
#106168
FUN WITH MISTRESS?
LUSTY, LUCIOUS, LOVELY
In a relationship want fun sex on
the side. Open to anything minus
pain. Im fit & sexy. I am looking
for a hot woman, STD free is a
must! takenbutavailable,
22, #106154
Looking for someone to get me
over my excess baggage. Slick,
31, ☎, #106057
CRAFYGIRL
I’m in a committed non-monoga-
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CraftyGirl, 27, ☎, g ,
#105791
LOOSE-WOMAN WITH QUES-
TIONABLE-MORALS
I am “America” looking for
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UNPREDICTABLE HUNGRY-
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Preferably a bucking bronco ;-).
I’m a saucy whench boys, I need
spanking. AlainaFuck, 21,
g , #105484
I WANNA TASTE
Looking for that special some-
one with style, humor and imagi-
nation. As long as we can have
fun and explore all the possibili-
ties of our fantasies, happiness
will prevail. leewoodie, 47, ☎,
g , #106200
MATURE SEEKING EROTIC
Intelligent, educated, erotic one
who desires the joys of the flesh
with a woman who wants to
experience erotic and awesome
times. lets find time to see how
we fit. eroticnctr, 55,
#106197
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Shy guy looking for good time,
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just wanting fun NSA, will let you
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31, ☎, g , #106184
HANDSOME OLD SENSUALIST
looking for a nice attractive,
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pure, 49, g , #101299
Like the title says... I wanna taste.
I love to give and receive. So if
you are unable to reciprocate do
not reply. Down4whatev, 33,
g , #106233
I’m looking for all types of sexual
pleasures. I can’t seem to get
enough sex in the day. Looking
for singles & couples who like to
have NSA sexual adventures.
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BUTTMAN
Just looking for fun!!!!! Single
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Bobby24,
24,
#106218
AZ PHENOMENAL FACIAL
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#106143
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33,
#106142
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than one night. Interested in
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45,
#104989
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#104804
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#106045
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Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
My life is not horrible. I’m an American college student. Compared to most people in the
world, I’m pretty well-off. I go to college in Bellingham, Washington — the weed is awesome, the
weather is great, and there are lots of hot guys. Score! But! I’m a homo. And I didn’t know how
horrible my life was until I got here …
It seems like every gay/queer person who is involved in anything gay/queer on campus
has this idea that gay people are SO oppressed that we need to constantly discuss it and feel
like victims. Don’t get me wrong: We are a ways away from equality, and I recognize this. But it
seems like the constant thread on college campuses for queers — other than talking about Lady
Gaga or sucking dick — is complaining about how oppressed queer people are.
How do I respectfully say, “STFU, we’re doing just fi ne, you white, upper-class American
kids” without sounding like an insensitive assdouche?
MG
You know, when I came out to my parents in 1981ishwhateversomething, telling my mom
and dad that I was gay didn’t just mean telling them I liked to kissandotherstuff boys. It meant
telling them I would never marry, never have children, and never be a marine. Or at least that’s
what I thought I was telling them. But here we are, three short decades later, and I’m married.
And I have a child. And now I can be a marine. (Not that I want to be a marine — well, not
anymore. After seeing a pic of a shirtless Navy Seal in last week’s New York Times, I want to be
a Navy Seal.)
And I live in Seattle, where the weed is awesome (I’m told), the weather is great (if you like
to snowboard), and the boy I marriedandkissandotherstuff is a lotta hot guy all by himself.
I agree with you, MG. Things are good. Things have gotten better — and not just for me.
But we have work left to do. We have our full civil equality to secure, homo- and transpho-
bic violence to confront, bigoted lawmakers to defeat (hey there, Rick!). But the discrimina-
tion and challenges we face shouldn’t prevent us from appreciating the good things. Yes, it
has gotten better. That doesn’t mean we can ignore the bashings (tinyurl.com/42lqr55) and
outrages (tinyurl.com/27ugxtz) and tragedies (tinyurl.com/3lk5h3l). But we shouldn’t be so in
love with our victimization — or so insecure about our progress — that we can’t acknowledge
the triumphs (tinyurl.com/3uzulpr) and joys (tinyurl.com/2g3pwry) and Navy Seals (tinyurl.
com/68xol6p).
So I’m with you, MG — up to a point.
I disagree about the STFU part. You don’t have to hang out with the kind of LGBT activists
who aren’t capable of fi ghting the good fi ght — fi ghting for their civil equality and mine and
yours — while also appreciating all the good things about their lives. Not all LGBT activists
are humorless scolds. Some are, for sure (and they tend to be overrepresented on college
campuses), but there are plenty of people out there who can organize a protest one night and
a good party the next.
Guys like you and me, MG, people who have it pretty good, have to remember that there
are LGBT folks out there who have it lousy and not all of them are in a position to speak up
for themselves. Let me see if I can think of an example … okay: There are bullied and isolated
and abused LGBT kids out there who don’t live in places like Bellingham or Seattle, who don’t
have the love and support of their parents, and who aren’t “doing fi ne.” If we don’t speak up
for isolated and bullied LGBT kids, who will? (For the record: There are lots and lots and lots of
loved and accepted LGBT kids out there, too — not all LGBT kids are miserable — who are doing
fi ne and fi ghting for their own rights and the rights of other LGBT kids.)
We don’t have to mope. We don’t have to pretend that we feel oppressed 24/7. And we
don’t have to attend pointless queer events that are run by LGBT whiners who mistake wal-
lowing in self-pity for activism. You’ll fi nd, once you get out of college, that most of us aren’t
moping, pretending, or attending. Most of us are getting on with our lives and doing fi ne.
But, again, not all LGBT people are doing fi ne, MG, just as not all LGBT people are white
or upper-class or in college or lucky enough to live in Bellingham. If you’re in a position to
do something, MG, you should. You don’t have to do everything. Make your contribution. It
doesn’t have to take over your life, and you don’t have to pretend to be any more oppressed
than you actually are. But you should do something.
Remember: The only thing more annoying than a whiny, college-age queer with a persecu-
tion complex is a smug, college-age queer who takes his good fortune for granted and couldn’t
give a shit about other people because, hey, he’s got his (his weed, his boys, his education).
I’m a 26-year-old lady who just broke up with a man I thought I wanted to marry. We had
incredible, playful sex, were very kind to each other, are both a little queer, and share many
interests in spite of our 20-year age difference.
Six months into our relationship, I moved to a bigger city four hours away, and we could see
each other only every other weekend. Because of our careers, it wouldn’t be possible for us to
live in the same place again for at least two or three years, maybe more. That was one reason I
broke up with him. I also feared that he needed to be with a man — even though he loves me to
sit on his face. He’s defi nitely bi, but he’s never been with a man. I am, too, but having had girl-
friends makes me comfortable knowing that I mostly want to be with men. Part of me is excited
to be free to explore my new city on my own and trusts I made a mature decision. Part of me
thinks I really fucked up to let go of a kind, fun — if slightly fl awed (but they all are) — relation-
ship. What do you think?
Drowning My Sorrows In Glee
I think it’s a wonderful thing to be 26, bi, single, employed, and living in a big city. I think
that a guy who’s single, bi, and amazing in bed at 46 is likely to be single, bi, and amazing in
bed at 48. (No guarantees, of course.) You should enjoy the next couple of years, DMSIG, and
then revisit the issue of Mr. Wonderful if and when you two or circumstances conspire to put
you in the same place again.
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I have to take you to task for your answer to Sent From My iPhone. In your answer, you
compared condoms and withdrawal as methods of birth control. As a former Planned Parent-
hood volunteer educator, I will tell you that, like withdrawal, condoms alone are NEVER a
recommended form of birth control. To compare these two “methods” is a little irresponsible.
In fact, condoms alone weren’t even on our list of birth control methods. The good news is that
condoms PLUS spermicide were on that list. When used together and properly, condoms and
spermicide are almost as effective as the pill in preventing pregnancy.
Loud Mouth About Birth Control
Thanks for sharing, LMABC.
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