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LUSTY, LUCIOUS, LOVELY
Looking for someone to get me
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31, ☎, #106057
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LIKE EM BIG
Straight female seeking young
lesbians to teach me. I’ll be the
submissive one. I can host. I live
with my gay brother undergoing
MTF changeover who supports
me 100%. SassyGirl4U, 37,
g , #106134
Intelligent, educated, erotic one
who desires the joys of the flesh
with a woman who wants to
experience erotic and awesome
times. lets find time to see how
we fit. eroticnctr, 55,
#106197
I have not done all checked in
boxes, just checked ones like.I
biggest turn ons are, bicurious/
bisexual men, crossdressers,
love woman, and want new
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salthedon,
33,
#106142
SEEKING FUN FEMALE
SHYLOVER DEEP PLEASING
I am happily married, but need a
girlfriend to cuddle, send flowers
and cards Im laid back really just
looking for an ltr. I am confident
in myself. friendlybigurl, 31,
g , #105250
Shy guy looking for good time,
just got out of long relationship
just wanting fun NSA, will let you
cum first, willing to go all night,
then rise and shine. Shylover,
31, ☎, g , #106184
I’m in a committed non-monoga-
mous partnership. Curious...
CraftyGirl, 27, ☎, g ,
#105791
LETS BANG
Handsome black Guy in the
Eugene/Springfield area looking
to have some fun. My wife wont
fuck me so I’m done trying to
make her, its time to let loose.
Aloe_Black, 33, g ,
#106178
LOOSE-WOMAN WITH QUES-
TIONABLE-MORALS
I am “America” looking for
“Columbus” to DISCOVER ME! I
want explosions, the earth mov-
ing beneath my vibrating loins. I
need a man stallion to fill me
with his love-wand. fuck-
BUCK, 20, #105539
UNPREDICTABLE HUNGRY-
STRIPER PROWLING
My honey-pot is low and needs
something sticky. Submissive at
times, but this cowgirl can ride.
Preferably a bucking bronco ;-).
I’m a saucy whench boys, I need
spanking. AlainaFuck, 21,
g , #105484
CURIOUS
Bi-curious male, clean, fit, seeks
beautiful boy for first time
encounter. I want to adore your
smooth, lean body. A lot to ask
for? Of course. maxd, 40, g ,
#103934
A CUNNILINGUS GENIUS
SEX POSITIVE NYMPHO
Impeccable hygiene is a must.
Intelligence preferred. Be sexu-
ally open, honest, and mature.
Into transvestites, groups, would
love to try a gang bang, into new
experiences. Sex positive, no
shame. I_want_it_all, 30,
#105142
I WANT PLEASURE
I’m bored & tired of this vanilla
world. I like 2 get what I want &
please others. Live life to the full
extent of what you imagine &
what you want. DESIRE, 27,
g , #101108
Lived in Eugene my whole life,
I’m nice, have a good sense of
humor, and I’m looking for a fun
sexy girl. BobaFett, 20, g ,
#106168
FUN WITH MISTRESS?
In a relationship want fun sex on
the side. Open to anything minus
pain. Im fit & sexy. I am looking
for a hot woman, STD free is a
must! takenbutavailable,
22, #106154
LEO LOVE
Looking for that special some-
one with style, humor and imagi-
nation. As long as we can have
fun and explore all the possibili-
ties of our fantasies, happiness
will prevail. leewoodie, 47,
g , #106200
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g , #101518
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Looking for a young man in need
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#106143
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looking for an older man wanting
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Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
I’m a young heterofl exible guy who has been a “sugar baby” for a handful of wealthy older
guys. I love it! I get money, I have fun being with them, and the guys seem to like having me
around. The problem is that I just got with a new guy who is really great except for one thing:
He is HIV positive. He says that his doctors predict he won’t have a shortened life span and
may not even have any symptoms that would make his life uncomfortable. I like the fact that
he told me, and I am open to being with him sexually even though I am HIV negative and want
to stay that way.
He is VERY submissive — he wants to be used and abused sexually, physically, and mentally.
My question is, what kinds of sex acts are okay to do with this guy? I read on one site that him
rimming me is fi ne, and on another that him giving me a blowjob with a condom is safe, too.
But I can’t fi nd a site that specifi cally explains which sex acts are safe and which ones aren’t
when one person is positive and one person is negative.
Help In Virginia
It’s pretty simple, HIV: Sex acts that expose you to his semen and/or blood are defi nitely
unsafe, and sex acts that expose him to your semen and/or blood are mostly safe. Rimming
you, blowing you (even without a condom), getting fucked by you (with a condom) — all very
low risk for HIV transmission. If he’s on a drug regimen and his viral load is undetectable, HIV,
your already-low risks of being exposed while, say, accepting a blowjob (and a check) are even
lower. The risks aren’t nonexistent — all sex acts carry some degree of risk — but if the risks
were any closer to nonexistent, they’d be sitting on nonexistent’s lap.
And bear this in mind: Odds are good that some of the other guys you’ve babied for —
some of your previous daddies — were HIV positive and either didn’t know or didn’t have the
decency to disclose. This guy’s willingness to disclose is evidence not just of his honesty and
decency, HIV, but of his respect for you and his commitment to keeping you safe. This guy is
less likely to ask you to engage in sex acts that are higher risk or unsafe than a guy who isn’t
aware that he’s positive or is actively hiding the fact that he’s positive. And his interest in
being “used and abused” creates lots of hot safe-sex-play options — letting him beat off while
he licks your boots or jerking him off while he’s tied to the bed with your jock in his mouth are
no-risk sexual activities that he’s likely to enjoy immensely.
I’m a 24-year-old straight guy. I’ve been with my girl for three years, and things are great
— great sex life, great communication, etc. We have lots of sex — but for the last year or so,
she has not been on birth control and we have not been using condoms. We’re not against the
idea of a child, but we aren’t currently going for it. I was always told that pulling out was a 100
percent ineffective method of birth control. So my question is, I guess, could there be some-
thing wrong with one of us? How could we have unprotected sex for a year without getting her
pregnant? We both really want children eventually and are worried it might not happen.
Sent From My iPhone
Withdrawal is a much more effective birth control method than most sex advisers are com-
fortable acknowledging. But facts are facts: A comprehensive study conducted by research-
ers at the Guttmacher Institute found that withdrawal was almost as effective a birth control
option as condoms. (“Better Than Nothing or Savvy Risk-Reduction Practice? The Importance
of Withdrawal,” Contraception, June 2009.)
“If the male partner withdraws before ejaculation every time a couple has vaginal inter-
course, about 4% of couples will become pregnant over the course of a year,” the authors of
the study wrote. That compares pretty favorably with the 2 percent of straight couples who
will become pregnant using condoms perfectly over the course of a year.
In the real world, of course, very few people do anything perfectly. When you take
mistakes, leaks, and broken condoms into account, researchers estimate that 17 percent of
straight couples who rely on condoms will become pregnant in any given year. Not all with-
drawers use withdrawal perfectly, either — amazingly enough, some guys get distracted and
forget to pull out as their orgasms approach — but the research shows that just 18 percent of
straight couples who use withdrawal will get pregnant in any given year.
So odds are good that you’re not infertile, SFMi, just lucky.
I’m a young lesbian. I recently met a girl who’s cute, and I think we’re on the likely-to-
have-sex-soon track. The thing is, she confi ded in me that she’s participated in needle play in
dungeon-party situations. I’m not someone who is turned off by kinkiness just ’cause it’s kinky,
but it seems like even “safe” needle play is a recipe for STI transmission unless you’re playing
with trained medical professionals. She says she gets tested regularly, but still, would it be re-
ally risky for me to sleep with her?
Enthusiastic Reader
Every time I’ve watched needle play in a dungeon-party situation — watched with my hands
clamped over my eyes, peeking through the small spaces between my fi ngers — no one was
being stuck with rusty needles by dirty-handed brutes. All the public needle-play scenes I’ve
witnessed were ostentatiously sterile affairs: These kinksters, some of whom were trained
medical professionals, made a big show of using alcohol wipes, cotton swabs, latex gloves, and
clean sharps. I think it’s fair to ask this girl for more information about her blood and needle
experiences, about the safety precautions that her partners took, and about how recently
she was tested. But rest assured, ER, that the most effective STI transmission routes involve
sticking dicks in people in completely vanilla situations, not clean needles in dungeon-party
situations.
Here’s some information for MILK, the man who is aroused by the thought of being sprayed
with his wife’s breast milk: It is common for newly lactating women to experience strong “milk
ejection refl exes” during sex. This is induced by the hormone oxytocin, which is released during
labor and orgasm, and when the milk “lets down” during breast-feeding. In other words: New
mothers often spray milk when they get off. Most women are embarrassed when this happens,
but at least MILK’s wife will know the fi rst time it happens that her husband isn’t going to freak
out about it.
Breast-feeding Educator’s Sex Tips
Thanks for sharing, BEST.
CONFIDENTIAL TO AMERICAN LADIES: Republicans took the House of Representatives
after campaigning on jobs, debt, and taxes. But it’s been nonstop assaults on Planned Parent-
hood and reproductive freedom ever since. The GOP is always going on and on about how they
want to shrink the size of government, and now we know why: They want to stuff the govern-
ment in your vagina.
CONFIDENTIAL TO CANADIAN EVERYBODIES: Please go to www.shitharperdid.com, have
a laugh, and then do what you can to send Stephen Harper packing or, failing that, deny him a
majority. Pretty please?
Find the Savage Lovecast (my weekly podcast) every Tuesday at thestranger.com/savage.
mail@savagelove.net
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