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# 1 0 2 20 4
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CURVY TAILED SCORPIO
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g , #1 0 2 07 0
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i am sexy male 22 years of age
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Back into dating scene. Better to
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per. Seeking someone to wet
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WISHYOU WERE HERE
ROPE MAN
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BORED
Finding myself in a unique situa-
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AIM TO PLEASE
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# 10 1 7 2 5
25YR OLD VIRGIN
good looking, great body, good
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2 5, ☎,, #101722
LOOKING FOR SUB
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# 10 1 5 8 5
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Savage Love
WORDS OF PURE WISDOM by Dan Savage
You usually get mail about the sex lives of your readers, being a “sex advice columnist”
and all, but I have a problem that has nothing to do with sex. I have a parenting problem, and
given that you are a fellow parent, I’m hoping you have some insight.
My brother is a social conservative; I’m a politically engaged liberal. I can’t change him,
but I’m disturbed because his son, whom we’ll call “George,” is 13 years old and has taken on
many of his dad’s more intolerant views. For instance, whenever I suggest that my toddler-
age son could have a girlfriend or a boyfriend when he grows up, George says, “Being gay is
just wrong.” He also uses the word “gay” as a pejorative, as in “That’s so gay.” George takes
every possible opportunity to let us know that he thinks homosexuality is wrong and dirty.
George loves my son, and my son clearly thinks the world of George. So I have two
questions:
1. Do you have any suggestions as to how to convince a 13-year-old boy that homosexuali-
ty is okay? I have no parental authority here.
2. Is there an ethical problem with me trying to convince George to adopt my values in
spite of my brother’s intention to raise his son with “his values”? Or, put another way, does
my trying to sway George without my brother’s permission give my brother license to use
words like “fag” in front of my son without my permission?
Advancing Liberalism In Youth
Don’t be such a liberal pussy, ALIY. You’re letting a 13-year-old boy-bigot smack you
around! It’s time to stop wringing your hands and start wringing the little bastard’s neck.
Your nephew feels free to share his opinions with you—and that’s great. Kids have a right
to express themselves. But you are an adult — HELLO! — and you have a right to express your-
self right back. And you can express yourself every bit as bluntly as George. “Being gay is just
wrong,” says the nephew. “You’re just wrong, you little shit,” says the uncle. (That’s how my
uncles addressed me.) Then you advise your punk-ass nephew to read a book, learn some-
thing about the subject and maybe talk to a real live gay person before he opens his fool
mouth to you again on the subject.
Fathers are free — sadly — to teach their sons whatever ridiculous bullshit they care to. I’m
teaching my son, for instance, that the theory of gravity is just a theory and that invisible
wads of magic chewing gum hold everything down. Your brother, however, can’t expect you to
censor yourself around his misinformed, opinionated son to protect the kid from the realiza-
tion that, hey, maybe — just maybe — there are other opinions out there and maybe his dad is
wrong about homosexuality. So put your brother on notice: If his son is going to share his
opinions — your brother’s opinions, but whatever — with adults who disagree with him, then
your nephew is going to get into arguments with adults, arguments that — with you, at least —
your nephew is going to lose.
Because you’re going to stop being such a liberal pussy, ALIY.
If your brother insists that you STFU about your pro-gay views around his kid, you have a
right to insist that he and his son STFU about their anti-gay views around YOUR kid, who
might — the chance is small, but there’s a chance — grow up to be gay.
Your nephew, of course, could be gay himself. Lots of closeted gay teens and tweens seize
“every possible opportunity” to let their relatives “know [they] think homosexuality is wrong.”
I’m tempted to add, “And here’s hoping your piece-of-shit nephew is a fag — it would serve
your brother right.” But odds are good that your nephew, if he is gay, would grow up to be a
very messy gay adult, thanks to the zap his dad put on his head, and we’ve got enough messy
gay men lurking in the shrubbery already, so here’s hoping the nephew is straight.
Finally, ALIY, no one is going to take away your liberal card if you stop working your tod-
dler son’s potential future gay boyfriends into conversation. It’s not a crime against progres-
sive values for a parent to assume that his son will most likely be straight when he grows up
because — and you might want to sit down for this, you liberal pussy — most of our sons will
be straight when they grow up. It’s hardly child abuse, ALIY, to refrain from asking others to
entertain the possibility that your toddler son will one day enjoy taking it up the ass.
Seriously.
And if you are going to speculate, ALIY, how dare you stop at gay? A boyfriend or a girl-
friend? What if he’s bisexual and wants boyfriends and girlfriends? Or what if he’s poly and
wants scads of boyfriends and girlfriends? Or what if he’s asexual and doesn’t want anyone?
Or, hell, what if he’s into inanimate objects like that British guy who got arrested for fucking a
bicycle? Or into dead animals like the nut in Wisconsin who got arrested for fucking a dead
deer? Or what if he’s a cuckold fetishist and wants a girlfriend who has other boyfriends who
blow loads in her that your son gets to slurp out of her pussy when she gets home while talk-
ing about how much he loves “cream pie”? Shall I go on?
I shan’t, ALIY, because there’s no need. Contemplating — to say nothing of forcing others
to contemplate — our children’s future sex partners and interests is unnecessary. We parents
shouldn’t be in denial about children’s sexuality, of course, and we should make sure our chil-
dren receive excellent sex education. But beyond that, we should demonstrate a quiet
reserve, a respect for our children’s privacy, and refuse to indulge in gratuitous speculation.
We can also demonstrate acceptance by being accepting, by letting our kids know that it’s
okay with us if they’re gay or bisexual — or straight — through our actions and, at carefully
chosen moments, through our words.
Otherwise, ALIY, our primary responsibility as parents is to STFU, as the kids say, launder
crusty come socks without comment and let them be who and what they are.
I’m a female college student and a feminist. I expect equal pay, equal treatment and fair-
ness when it comes to chores at home. But I have fantasies of domestic discipline. Some
days I’d like to rush home and clean the apartment and make dinner for my boyfriend wear-
ing only an apron. Then I’d appreciate it if he’d find some excuse, something I did wrong, and
spank me until I cry before he has wild sex with me.
I’ve got plenty more fantasies where that one came from.
My guy, being open-minded, would be up for this. But how on earth do I set effective
boundaries? How can you be taken seriously as an equal when you tell your boyfriend that
you’d like him to dominate you outside the bedroom (the cooking and cleaning aspect) on
occasion? I want this to be a periodic, not a consistent, dynamic. It’s totally unrealistic to
pretend to be BETTY CROCKER all the time.
No Clever Acronym
SHIT
HAPPENS
Get a necklace or a bracelet, NCA, that you wear only when you want the boyfriend to
take charge. You decide when that bracelet or necklace goes on; you decide when it comes
off, which puts you in control, paradoxically, of your own submission.
When you’re wearing it, of course, you’re BETTY CROCKER (whoever she is), and the
boyfriend has your consent to order you about, spank your ass and fuck you senseless. When
it’s off, you’re equals. Easy!
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