Dear Uncle Mike,
My name is James. I'm 12 years old. Last
month, a girl asked how to tell if a boy likes her.
I’d like to know how to tell if a girl likes you.
There's this girl I think about all the time. We
kind of know each other but not really. When we
see each other she smiles but I've been too chicken
to talk to her. Is there something I can say or do to
find out or get her to like me? What do girls like?
Thank you.
James S., Portland
'The Inner
I ndividual , G roup , C ouple C ounseling
O rganizational C onsulting • T eaching
Ociir T attics
The first thing you need to know about girls is that they're human. You know, just like you. The
second thing you need to know is that girls are more different than you can imagine.
The first thing Uncle Mike would do is find out if she's at all interested in you. You can do this¡in
one of two ways: swallow your fear and walk up and say hi, or have someone you both know ask her. It
she isn't interested, it's not the end of the world even though it will feel like it. Trust Uncle Mike, you
fall in love again. And again and again.
If she likes you, she likes you. If she doesn't, she doesn't. It's not a bit more complicated than that.
Is there something you can say or do to get her to like you? Yes and no.
. . . . .
Ask yourself this: who do I like and why do I like them? Most of us like people who like us. They
show they like us by being our friend, by treating us with respect, by caring about our feelings, by
making us laugh, by listening to us, by helping us, picking us up when we're down, sharing our dreams,
and letting us be the best we can be.
,
There's nothing you can do to make this girl like you. Except to be someone youd like. Be honest
and open with your feelings. Treat her like the precious person she is. Every chance you get, do
something to make her happy. Do nothing to hurt her. At least once a day, tell her she's pretty.
Beyond this little hoss, you're on your own. Give it your best shot. If it happens, it happens. It it
doesn't it doesn't. Look at it this way: if a girl this great isn't the one, imagine what the one who is
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Dear Uncle Mike,
I'm having trouble reconciling fate and free will. Any thoughts.
Wrestling in Seaside
Living in Seaside would make anyone wonder about fate. Does Uncle Mike have any thougths? Is
this a serious question?
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First off, Uncle Mike doesn't believe in fate. Uncle Mike believes in karma. Fate is what Someone
else gives you. Karma is what you give yourself.
.
Karma is the metaphysical application of cause and effect. As opposed to sinners in the hands of an
angry God, we're the inescapably interesting result of our actions. What is karma. Karma is whatever
you're experiencing. There are no accidents, no quirks of fate. Whatever is, is right. If we bum, our
decisions lit the fire. If we dance, our choices wrote the tune.
Like you, Uncle Mike lives at the center of a spherical mirror that relentlessly reflects what he does_
Action and reaction isn't a lifestyle, it's a law: a parity principle woven into every chain of events. After
years of protest. Uncle Mike was forced to admit all that stuff about reaping and sowing was right on the
mark He spends less time spitting into the wind and snivelling now.
It's a mistake to dismiss karma as a belief system unsupported by physical data. Perhaps the greatest
accomplishment of science has been to transform the blind date of faith and reason, into a workable
marriage. Current theory and experiment show that the world behind this one is more like a thought than
a thing8 existing only as possibility. Yes, some things are more possible than others (no matter what
you believe, it'll take you the rest of forever to strike a match 01. a wet cake of soap), but a simple truth
remains what we make of the world is intimately linked to what the world turns out to be. What we
see and do, is what we get. The world is a fluid display of our perceptions of it and the result of our
responses to it. Our expectations generate our actions, our actions determine which of the many possible
events is the one that actually occurs. Fate is unmoving and mysterious. Karma is a creative act
For thousands of years, teachers have recommended seeing the world through the eyes of a child, to be
at one with its unspeakable loveliness and to love every bit of it as if it were ourself. For thousands of
years they've told us that the universe is alive and that all of life is holy. Walk around with an attitude
like that for awhile and you'll pick up the subtle difference between fate and karma.
As someone has pointed out: the only possessions we have are those we’ve given away.
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