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Illinois Valley News, Cave Junction, Ore. Wednesday, March 1, 2017
America needs mentors and life coaches: by Dr. Glenn Mollette
A growing career industry across the
country is life coaching. People are actually
going into private practice opening offices and
spending hours every week giving direction to
people and a listening ear. We have had psy-
chiatrists and other mental health workers for
years but now people are training to help oth-
ers with just the most basic types of problems
and questions.
We live in an age where people are more
desperate than ever for somebody to talk to.
People have problems from spiritual, finan-
cial, to making daily decisions. People wonder
about what to do with their lives. They don’t
know how to get a job or what opportunities
might exist for them. Millions of American
kids pass through 12 grades of school and
graduate clueless about what to do next.
More than ever people need to know that
their lives are not in vain. They do not exist to
just create social media postings in hopes that
a few people will “like” them. They need to
know that if they do not make a television real-
ity show that they are still OK because every
day they exist in their own reality show. The
reality is that each American has an opportu-
nity to have a real life. Life is never free from
hurdles, work, challenges and usually grit and
grind. However, there are ways to navigate the
maze of living life.
Bad things happen to people. People are
brought up in broken homes, by single parents,
in poverty and surrounded by domestic vio-
lence. The scenarios are endless. This is why
more than ever we need everyday life coaches
who can help people with the simplest of life’s
quests.
Young adults up to old age seniors need
guidance. You can find a lot of answers on
Google but often people don’t know the right
questions to ask.
How do I write a resume? What do I put
on a resume? How do I dress for a certain job
interview? Where do I start to find a job? What
are my career choices? How do I choose a
career? How do I know what I am good at do-
ing? How do I save money? How can I make
my life better? How can I avoid trouble? How
do I start a business? How do I obtain financial
aid for college? What do I have to do to be a
schoolteacher, a lawyer, a doctor an engineer
or other professional? My life is bad how can I
change my life? I am unhappy with my physi-
cal condition what can I do to be a healthier
person?
I understand that not every counselor
has an immediate answer to every person’s
questions. However, answers are available and
often a steady mind with a listening ear can
help someone find an answer.
Some people need help from a medical
professional. Some need help from licensed
clinical counselors. Many today just need
some basic common sense direction.
Churches today are utilizing life coaches.
Sometimes it’s a trained minister but other oc-
casions exist where there is a trained life coach
connected to the church whose job is to help
those in the community to find direction and
guidance.
Chicago, Baltimore, Milwaukee, Mem-
phis and every city in America struggling with
violence would be well served to plant guid-
ance coaches, mentors or life coaches through-
out these troubled communities.
In reality, it’s the job every parent should
do. Unfortunately parents have either dropped
the ball, flown the coup or just cannot pull
their own lives together. Sadly in America we
have so many dysfunctional families that life
coaches are needed to help mom and dad as
much as the young teens struggling in these
scenarios.
More law enforcement, more police dogs
and more curfews are not going to solve the
hurt being felt by so many lost young adults in
America. More than ever these young men and
women need community leaders, mentors and
coaches with a listening ear and commonsense
advice for living and achieving a better life.
Glenn Mollette is a syndicated columnist
and author of 11 books. He is read in all 50
states. Visit www.glennmollette.com and you
can contact him at GMollette@aol.com. You
can also Like his Facebook page at www.face-
book.com/glennmollette.
Church News
Community Bible Church
Discipline is not a four letter word
Proverbs 13:18 (NIV) He who ignores discipline
comes to poverty and shame, but whoever heeds correction is
honored.
The word discipline has gotten a bad rap. Some people
act like you are committing a crime if you try to develop a little
self-discipline in a child. Every one of us should endeavor to
exert some self-discipline in our lives. Almost any endeavor in
this life takes some disciplining of ourselves even if it is simply
getting out of bed in the morning. People exert self-discipline
when they go to work, and when they work hard – even if they
don’t feel like it. People demonstrate discipline when they clean
their homes, use care in what and how much they eat, when
they exercise, when they determine to read something rather
than just watch television, or when they study to learn some-
thing new – maybe some history or a new language. Personal
discipline is necessary for people to save money or to say “no”
to buying something they want but don’t need and can’t afford.
It takes discipline to respond with control and reason
when people around you are doing crazy, out of control things.
It takes self-discipline to raise children, to care for a spouse, or
even to care for a pet. Discipline can be contagious, learned by
example. I knew a pastor that often said that “More is caught
than taught.” He used this in relation to child raising, but it is
true in every circumstance or relationship.
Some people lament that they just don’t have any
discipline and that’s sad, because I believe a disciplined life can
be gained by starting in one area to discipline yourself and then
expanding from there. Maybe it’s time to discipline yourself
to go to church and learn about the Lord. I’m sure you would
find yourself greatly encouraged as you would see a growing,
disciplined life.
See you Sunday. (Discipline yourself to be there!)
In Christ,
Pastor Dave
Ministry at CBC
Sunday
Morning Worship 10:30 a.m.
Praise and Prayer 6 p.m.
Wednesday
AWANA 6:15-8 p.m.
Preschool – Grade 6
Community Christian Academy
Preschool – High School
Senior Exercise Class
Monday, Wednesday, & Friday
9-10 a.m. in Dining Room
Good Shepherd Lutheran Church
I only have eyes for you
Have you ever noticed how the deepest
emotional encounters, the deepest instances
of sharing love between one person and an-
other usually occur when we’re standing face
to face? In that moment, we see no one except
each other. There is nothing else; that moment
holds everything.
Whether that moment comes between
parent and child, husband and wife, or
redeemer and redeemed, we become a part
of something much bigger than ourselves.
There’s more going on than what physical
eyes can see or understand. We have entered
a mystery that can neither be defined nor
discussed; only experienced.
That’s what happened to Peter, James,
and John in Matthew 17:1-19. They “looked
up and saw Jesus himself alone.” They didn’t
see Moses or Elijah, each other, the cloud,
or the mountain. Everything and everyone
was present in Jesus himself alone. This was
as much their transfiguration as it was his.
They didn’t just see the light, they became
the light; all humanity illumined with and by
divinity.
It’s important to remember that Jesus
didn’t change into something that he hadn’t
been before that night on the mountain. He
was always filled with the glory of God:
radiating the divine light. He didn’t become
something new, but the disciples did. Their
sight was healed, their vision corrected, and
their blindness removed.
Every time we experience a transfigur-
ing event our vision is healed and we see in a
new a different way. We see with God’s eyes.
Transfiguration is not so much about what we
see as how we see. It’s the difference between
seeing with physical eyes and seeing with
heavenly eyes.
There are moments like that in every
life. Lovers gazing at each other see more
than just another person; they see the mystery
of love. Or the first time you saw your child
or grandchild; you were seeing more than a
baby; you were face to face with the mys-
tery of life. And what about the last time you
made a confession, and experienced forgive-
ness. You came face to face with the mystery
of grace amidst brokenness. Or what about
the days and nights spent at the bedside of a
loved one; watching and waiting for them to
be raised up and carried into new life. We sit
there, quietly, face to face with the mystery of
death.
These are the moments of transfigura-
tion. Each one of them is distinct, unique,
and unrepeatable. Yet somehow, they are
the same. Each one is so authentic, so real,
they glow with the light of God’s presence.
They are moments of pure grace. We can’t
make them happen. We can only be there to
experience them when they do happen. In
that moment, everything around us seems to
fall away. There are no distractions. It is a
moment of complete presence, attention, and
union. It’s a moment when we come face to
face with another person, with ourselves, and
ultimately with God. In that moment, we can
truthfully say, “I only have eyes for you.”
Seventh-day Adventist Church
Depression Test
Take this depression test by rating yourself with the follow-
ing scores after each question: 3 for nearly every day, 2 for about
half the days, 1 for less than ¼ of the time and 0 for not at all.
In the last two weeks have you been bothered by any of the
following problems? (Write your score after each problem.)
1. Sadness or of emptiness; or feeling down, depressed or
hopeless.
2. Decrease interest or pleasure in doing things.
3. Unhealthy decrease in appetite; or unusual or unwanted
loss or gain in weight.
4. Trouble falling or staying asleep or sleeping too much.
5. Experiencing fatigue; feeling tired or having little energy.
6. Thoughts that you would be better dead or … consider-
ing harming yourself or others in some way or being pre-occupied
with death or symbols of death.
7. Feeling bad about yourself; feeling like you are a failure
or that you have let yourself or your family down.
8. Decrease in your ability to think or concentrate on com-
Places of Worship
BRIDGEVIEW
COMMUNITY CHURCH
5181 Holland Loop Rd., CJ
541-592-3923
“Come Join the Worship!”
Sunday Worship 10:30 a.m.
Pastor Sonny Moore
www.bridgeviewcc.org
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7th DAY ADVENTIST
265 S. Old Stage Rd., CJ
Sabbath School - 9:30 a.m.
Saturday Worship 11 a.m.
Pastor Christian Martin
Church (541) 592-3218
Madrone Adventist School
541-592-3330
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IMMANUEL UNITED
METHODIST CHURCH
200 Watkins St., CJ
Phone 541-592-3876
Pastor Charles Chase
Sunday School - 9:15 a.m.
Sunday Worship - 9:15 a.m.
Child-care for small children
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Illinois Valley Praise Center
28569 Redwood Hwy. CJ
Non-denominational
Bible-believing Church
Sunday school - 9:30 a..m.
Sunday Service 10:30 a.m.
Thursday Seekers 7 p.m.
Youth group Thursday - 7 p.m.
www.ivpraisecenter.com
COMMUNITY BIBLE CHURCH
Pastor Dave Gordon
113 S. Caves Ave., CJ
Office: 541-592-3896
Email: cbccca@gmail.com
Sunday Worship - 10:30 a.m.
Christian Academy
Pre-K to 12th grade
Awana - Wednesdays - 6 p.m.
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ST. PATRICK OF THE FOREST
CATHOLIC CHURCH
407 W. River St., CJ
541-592-3658
Fr. William Holtzinger, Pastor
Mass - Sunday 11 a.m..
Sacrament of Reconciliation
Sunday - 10:30 a.m.
Holy Days TBA
* * *
TAKILMA BIBLE CHURCH
10343 Takilma Road, Takilma
Pastor Dan Robinson
Bible Study / Prayer Time
9:30 a.m.
Morning Worship 11 a.m
Wednesday Bible Study
7 p.m
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First Baptist Church of Selma
18285 Redwood Hwy., Selma
541-597-4169
Pastor Monty Pope
Sunday School - 9:45 a.m.
Worship - 11 a.m.
GOOD SHEPHERD
LUTHERAN CHURCH
East River Street
& Lewis Court, CJ
Annemarie Richardson
Lay Pastor.
Sunday School - 9:15 a.m.
Sunday Worship - 10 a.m.
Church Phone: 541-592-2290
www.goodshepherdlutheraniv.net
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VALLEY EVANGELICAL
FREE CHURCH
498 Laurel Road, CJ
P.O. Box 1248
Pastor Marvin Porter
Sunday School - 9:45 a.m.
Worship Service - 11 a.m.
evfree@frontiernet.net
541-592-6160
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FOUNTAIN OF LIFE
ASSEMBLY OF GOD
451 S. Junction Ave., CJ
541-592-3956
Pastor Mark McLean
Morning Worship
9:30 & 11 a.m.
Wednesday - 7 p.m.
Adult Bible Study
* * *
ST. MATTHIAS EPISCOPAL CHURCH
25904 Redwood Hwy., CJ
541-592-2006
Rev. Bryant Bechtold
Sunday Worship
Service 10:30 a.m.
THE CHURCH OF JESUS
CHRIST OF LATTER-DAY
SAINTS
209 S. Junction Ave., CJ
Sacrament Meet - 10 a.m.
Sunday School - 11:20 a.m.
Priesthood, Relief Soc. -
12:10 p.m.
Bishop
Larry Hammersmith
541-592-3919
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Illinois Valley Baptist Church
541-592-6149
102 S. Redwood Hwy.
(in the County Building)
Sunday Worship 10:30 AM
Wednesday Bible Study, Prayer
& Youth Program 7:00 PM
Friday Ladies Bible Study
11:00 AM
mon tasks such as reading or learning and/or making difficulty
making good decisions.
9. Others (or you) have noticed physical movements or
speech have been slower than normal; or instead that you have
more agitation, restlessness, or irritation with yourself or others.
Add up your scores. This is what category you fall into based
on your score: 0-6 is none, 7-10 is mild, 11-19 is moderate and
20-27 is severe. For more information about our depression and
anxiety recovery program call Kathy at 541-291-7016.