Attention parents! Is your teen dating? Warning signs of dating violence
One in three adolescents in the U.S.
is a victim of physical, sexual, emotional
or verbal abuse from a dating partner, a
figure that far exceeds rates of other types
of youth violence.
Girls and young women age 16 to
24 experience the highest rate of inti
mate partner violence - almost triple the
national average.
About 72 percent of eighth- and
ninth-graders are "dating."
Only 33 percent of teens who were
in a violent relationship ever told anyone
about the abuse.
Eighty-one percent of parents believe
teen dating violence is not an issue or
admit they don't know if it's an issue.
It may be hard to think of your teen as
having an intimate relationship, let alone
an abusive one. But now more than ever,
your son or daughter needs your support.
Support them by learning what dating
violence is, what it looks like and how
to get help.
What is dating violence?
Dating violence is a pattern of abusive
behaviors used to exert power and control
over a dating partner.
What does dating violence
look like?
Teens and young adults experience
the same types of abuse in relationships
as adults. This can include:
Emotional abuse: Non-physical
behaviors such as threats, insults,
constant monitoring, humiliation,
intimidation, isolation or stalking
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For more details, contact Dee Navarro at 800-922-1399,
ext. 1261 ; 541-444-8261 ; or deen@ctsi.nsn.us.
Siletz Tribal Charitable
Contribution Fund (STCCF)
Tribal Member Advisory Board Member
Recruitment
The Siletz Tribal Charitable Contribution Fund Board currently is accepting
applications from Tribal members for a three-year appointment beginning July
2012 through June 2015. Applications must be received before Aug. 10, 2012.
The Siletz Tribal Charitable Contribution Fund Advisory Board is composed
of seven unpaid members, including a Siletz Tribal Council representative; three
Siletz Tribal members; two non-Tribal members agreed upon by the governor and
Tribal chairman and approved by the Tribal Council; and one non-Tribal member
selected by the Tribal chairman and approved by the Tribal Council from a list
submitted by the governor.
The Board receives travel reimbursement only for attendance at meetings,
distributions and other approved public relations events.
The Advisory Board meets quarterly (January, April, July and October) to
review approximately 100 applications received from charitable organizations or
local governments.
For more detailed information, please visit ctsi.nsn.us/Charitable-Contribution-
Fund or contact Rosie Williams, STCCF secretary.
Siletz Tribal Charitable Contribution Fund
Advisory Board Member Application
Roll No:
Address:
City/State/ZIP:
Telephone: (Day)
from your own life, television, movies
or music.
Ask questions and encourage open
discussion. Make sure you listen to
your teen, giving him or her a chance
to speak. Avoid analyzing, interrup
tions, lecturing or accusations.
Keep it low key. Do not push if your
teen is not ready to talk. Try again
another time.
Be supportive and nonjudgmental so
your teen knows he or she can come
to you for help if the relationship
becomes unhealthy in the future.
Admit to not knowing the answer to a
particular question. This builds trust.
Reinforce that dating should be fun!
Stress that violence is never acceptable.
Discuss options your teen has if he
or she witnesses dating violence or
experiences it themselves.
Remind your teen that he or she has
the right to say no and must respect
the rights of others.
If your teen is in a relationship that
feels uncomfortable, awkward or
frightening, assure him or her that
they can come to you. And remem
ber - any decisions they make about
the relationship should be their own.
While teens experience the same
types of abuse as adults, often the methods
are unique to teen culture. For example,
teens often report “digital abuse” - receiv
ing threats by text messages or being
stalked on Facebook or MySpace.
10 Warning Signs of Abuse
Physical abuse: Any intentional use of
physical force with the intent to cause
fear or injury, like hitting, shoving,
biting, strangling, kicking or using
a weapon
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Name:
Sexual abuse: Any action that impacts
a person’s ability to control his or her
sexual activity or the circumstances
in which sexual activity occurs,
including rape, coercion or restricting
access to birth control
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E-mail:
Applications must be submitted by Aug. 10, 2012, to the address below to
be considered for appointment at the Regular Tribal Council meeting in August.
Return form to Rosie Williams, STCCF, P.O. Box 549, Siletz, OR 97380-0549.
Contact her at 800-922-1399, ext. 1227, or 541-444-8227; or rosiew@ctsi.nsn.us.
While there are many warning signs
ot abuse, here are 10 of the most common:
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Checking your cell phone or e-mail
without permission
Constant put-downs
Extreme jealousy or insecurity
Explosive temper
Financial control
Isolating you from family or friends
Mood swings
Physically hurting you in any way
Possessiveness
Telling you what to do
Helpful Tips for Parents
It’s never too late to talk to your teen
about relationships and dating. It’s a dif
ficult conversation, but a necessary one.
Here are some helpful tips for parents:
Do your own research on teen dating
violence to get the facts before talking
to your teen.
Provide your teen with examples of
healthy relationships, pointing out
unhealthy behavior. Use examples
If you or a loved one are in a violent
relationship, please get help. Contact your
local dating violence hotline or Kelley
Ellis, Siletz Tribal Violence Against
Women Act advocate, at 541-444-9680
or 541-270-9010.
Online Teen Dating Violence
Resources
breakthecycle.org
loveisrespect.org
wiredsafety.org
For more information about the Siletz Tribe,
please visit ctsi.nsn.us.
Council approves 2012 out-of-area
health benefits for Tribal members
The Tribal Council has approved the
following plan for using 2012 out-of-area
health benefits from July 1, 2012, through
June 30, 2013.
To qualify, Tribal members must be
registered for health care with the Siletz
Tribal Health Department and reside
outside of the Tribe’s 11-county service
area. These funds are intended for Tribal
members who are not eligible for Contract
Health Service (CHS).
One of the following benefits is
available:
$400 - Vision
$1,200-Dental
$2,000 - Hearing
$1,000-Medical
Plus $500 maximum pharmacy
through Pequot Rx
Prior authorization by CHS is required
and benefits must be used within 90 days.
CHS must receive claims by the end of
the 90-day funding period. Any funds
not used within 90 days or claims not
received will be returned to the pool for
redistribution.
An individual can only access ben
efits one time per fiscal year.
CHS will authorize for household
members only. Authorization will not be
granted for anyone not residing in your
household. Voicemail messages do not
hold funds; this must be live contact.
Call CHS starting at 8 a.m. on the dates
listed below - 800-628-5720 or 541-444-
1236. If you have not already registered
for health services, please call anytime to
request an application.
Authorization schedule is as follows:
July 2, 2012
Oct. 1,2012
Jan. 2, 2013
April 1, 2013
July 2012
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