Tolentino hosts weekly meals, projects during Women’s Health Month
Cecilia Tolentino, community health
advocate in the Salem Area Office, hosted
four events during Women’s Health
Month in May.
The events were held on Wednesday
evenings and were a great success! Each
event consisted of a delicious meal,
handouts, a special project to make and a
drawing for a gift certificate.
Tolentino enlisted the help of Bev
Owen, area office supervisor, and Yvonne
Messmer, housing finance manager, for
the events.
Participants made herbal eye pillows
and scented bath salts. They also tried
loaves of homemade flax seed bread.
Cecilia Tolentino displays homemade
Courtesy photos by Andrew Johanson
granola made at the events.
Everyone eats a good meal, makes their granola and takes time to relax and visit.
Notes, con’t from previous page
are in charge of our emotions. We feel as
we believe. As we change our convictions
and behavior, we can change our feelings.
When things don’t go your way, you
may believe it’s horrible that you’re being
inconvenienced. It may be inconvenient,
but it isn’t horrible.
Understand also that your children
are not the symbol of your success in
life. If they do not behave “properly” or
“succeed,” you have not suffered a catas
trophe. Your personal asset inventory, not
your children, can reassure you of your
personal worth.
When things do not go well with
your children, you may feel guilty about
“failing them” or about your own lack
of success. We believe that expression
of guilt is a cover-up - the expression of
good intentions we do not really have.
Most of us say we feel bad about
not paying more attention to our parents
or relatives or about not stopping some
bad habit. By expressing our guilt, we
try to convince others and ourselves that
we really are thoughtful people even
though we don’t translate our intentions
into actions.
For some, the expression of guilt
removes the necessity of acting. Obvi
ously, however, feeling guilty can’t
change things. Action can!
Another hindrance to progress may
be your own self-defeating patterns. The
following are some faulty assumptions
that interfere with personal growth and
influence poor relationships:
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“I feel that I want to be loved or approved
of by everyone in my community.”
“I must be competent in all aspects of
child training before I can consider
myself personally worthwhile.”
“It’s a catastrophe when things don’t
turn out the way I would like.”
“There really isn’t much we can do
about our problems. When it comes
right down to it, we are really victims
of circumstances.”
“Disobedience from my child is a
personal challenge to my authority
as a parent.”
“Children’s background - their genes
and their environment - determines
their present behavior. There is very
little we can do to bring about change.”
“I, as the parent of my children,
am responsible for my children’s
misbehavior. Since my children are
only a product of what has happened
between them and me, they wouldn’t
misbehave if I were a more effective
person. I have only myself to blame.”
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accept our concerns with our children as
challenges that can be overcome.
If we relate to our children with
as much respect as we show our good
friends, mutual respect will get us through
difficult times.
A parent who has a strong sense of
identity as a person of value does not find
it necessary to live through her or his chil
dren. Such a parent is free to courageously
face the challenges of life.
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