b
kill you, do not make you stronger. They can
lead to cancer, infertility, agonizing pain, psy-
chological trauma, and with complications…
death.
Tell her immediately, NS, and brace yourself.
I hope you become up front with your sexual
health issues, because people need to know
before they drink the water.
Last weekend I walked into the men’s bath-
room at a popular gay bar. I opened the door
to find my boyfriend having oral sex with
another man. We’re supposed to be monoga-
mous, but this is the second time I’ve caught
him in the act of cheating on me. I wanted to
go to couples counseling, but he refuses, and
says we don’t have a problem. I don’t know
how to fix this, or if it’s fixable at all.
- Broken and Confused
When someone breaks your trust, in any
fashion, it is very important to figure out if
you will ever forgive him or her. There isn’t an
effective therapy or punishment that doesn’t
end in forgiveness. BC, if you’ve had enough,
I suggest you end this before it gets more ugly
than it already is.
Just Out’s Guide to Bars, Food, and Nightlife
SW
Boxes/Red Cap Garage
1035 SW Stark St • 503-226-4171
www.boxxes.com
Fez Ballroom
316 SW 11th Ave • 503.221.7262
www.fezballroom.com
Scandal’s
1125 SW Stark St • 503-227-5887
www.scandalspdx.com
Silverado
Your boyfriend may be trying very hard to be
monogamous, but his resolve was destroyed in
a room full of toilets, 50 feet away from you.
I’d worry about his ability to resist temptation.
Try to have a discussion about capability. Are
you capable of forgiveness? Is he capable of
commitment? I also think therapy sounds like
a great idea. Making a promise in front of a
third party can clarify.
318 SW Third Ave • 503-224-4493
www.silveradopdx.com
NW
Casey’s
610 NW Couch St • 503-224-9062
www.caseyspdx.net
C.C. Slaughters
219 NW Davis St • 503-248-9135
www. ccslaughterspdx.com
Darcelle XV Showplace
BC, this might not be fixable. Only you two
can answer that question. Try to decide before
you both jump back into the mud.
208 NW Third Ave • 503-222-5338
www.darcellexv.com
Embers Avenue
110 NW Broadway • 503-222-3082
Fox & Hounds
217 NW Second Ave • 503-243-5530
Hamburger Mary’s
Submit your anonymous
questions to Dirty Words at editor@JustOut.com
June 2012
19 NW Fifth Ave • 503-688-1200
www.hamburgermarys.com/pdx
jo_bar_guide.indd 1
Hobo’s
120 NW Third Ave • 503-224-3285
www. hobospdx.com
SE
Crush
1400 SE Morrison St • 503-235-8150
www. crushbar.com
Holocene
1001 S.E. Morrison St • 503.239.7639
www.holocene.org
Starky’s
2913 SE Stark St • 503-230-7980
www. starkys.com
Hawk PDX
234 SE Grand Ave • 503-946-8659
www. hawkspdx.com
NE
Joq’s
2512 NE Broadway • 503-287-4210
Local Lounge
3536 NE MLK • 503-282-1833
www.local-lounge.com
Steam PDX
2885 NE Sandy Blvd • 503-736-9999
www.steamportland.com
North
The Eagle Portland
835 N Lombard St • 503-283-9734
www.eagleportland.com
5/20/2012 10:22:06 AM
JustOut.com
47