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happy to give you a moment to catch up and
find some joy in your heart, but whether you
find that joy or not, this is what we’re doing.
Big words, no? That’s my stance on queer par-
enting when I’m feeling strong. Other times,
as a visibly pregnant, not-so-visibly-lesbian
birth worker in a profession that often reflects
the mainstream, I find myself operating from
an If You Ask, I Will Tell place. I often hope
they don’t ask, that they don’t verbalize their
assumption, because it doesn’t feel safe to tell.
Sometimes the weight of the assumptions foist-
ed on me as I move through the day is heavier
than I want to hold.
So, are we honoring the legacy of Stonewall by
choosing to parent? Sometimes I have ideas
that surely we have bigger fish to fry as a so-
ciety than whether two queers want to parent,
making this a very non-radical act. When I ac-
cept where we are as a people, though, I accept
that what Cathy, I, and all parents who step out
of the mother-father dyad are doing is fiercely
radical. To bring up a generation who has big-
ger frameworks in which to move about is very
much the stuff of revolutions.
Cathy Busha and Anna Deligio are
expecting their first child Summer 2012.
Reach them at www.JustOut.com
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