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4X JU stout FEBRUARY 20, 2009 Tuesday 1503-972-2233 www pdxbadgirts net) first Sunday brunt 1234@gmail com.) Bookwomen is a lesbian discussion group that meets monthly to share stones, favonte authors, top 10 lists and opinions and reviews of the assigned book 1503-684-0305 mikkata(a>comcast net) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players always welcome 16 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor tumties for gay men interested in recreational motor cycle tounng and promotes education on safe and legal machinery 1503-281-4488. brmcpret@yahoocom.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997 8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia Dinner meetings in Portland area. 1503-701-7922 caslbyers<<uyahoo com www geocitiescom/castlyers.) activities m the Pacific Northwest. /Denise 503-654-3865 Lyrm 503-777-2339 kelrav urdrop com I Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance styles start the first Fnday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc Can for schedule (503-236-5129 damel@outdancmg info. www outdancing info.) OutKayakmg Portland’s gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon and southwest Washington Iwww outkayakmg org) PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun games Fnday nights September through April. Imfo@pdxpride- Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest ! bowl.com.) pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish PDX Netflippers is Portland's queer soccer organeabon with lifestyle organizations in the Northwest Regular A Common Bond is a social support network for former competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrimmages, practices social and educational opportunities, including or questioning Jehovahs Witnesses who are queer for a* levels and regional tournaments /Kyle bendoverbeck- KmkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair. Iwww (acbportland@webtvnet.l ham@gmak.com. www myspace com/netnppers.) pdxleatheralliance org.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were Portland Gay 8 Lesbian Bowling Association Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise celebrates 30 years with its 2007-08 season Meets potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle (femate-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sundays from Labor Day through Memorial Day at and keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no Sunday meetings are open to partners and families Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm. formal organization, no officers or board, just leather of any configuration. 1503-471-1515. groups yahoo 4030 NE Halsey St Mailing address P0 Box 42034, socialization for the past 21 years. 1360-896-6665 com/group/coqsure) Portland, 0B 97232. 503-693-6261. pdxbowl@yahoo. plm@direcway.com.) ' com. wwwpdxbowl.com.) FAG PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), ! Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to a radical activist and social group open to self Portland Gay Basketball Association chat about a chosen book or to attend selected identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create welcomes all skill levels, (groups.yahoo. events. (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibility com/group/PortlandGayBasketballAssociation.) and combat femmephobia in the community at j com/grnup/portlandlesbianbookclub.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned large. Iwww notsorry.org/fagpdx.) Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub vis marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, its, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and inter games and movie nights and keeps you aware of third Saturday of the month 14-7 pm 503-642-3360 or ests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org www what's going on in the area IPDXLesbianNetwork- 971-216-1173. sutaytig@aol.com.) portlandfrontrunners. org.) subscribe@yahoogroups. com.) FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion Portland Riptides, anew queer master's swimming Portland Metro Prime Timers was established as group for female-to male trans men. Igroups.yahoo team, seeks interested members. Iportlandnptides@ a social group for older gay men as well as younger I gmail.com.) com/group/FTM PacificNW) men who enjoy their company. Meetings include Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and Rose City Softball Association is Oregon s largest queer potluck meals, dining out, bingo and celebrations older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds sports organization All levels of play are offered in both of special occasions. IPO Box 5884, Portland, potlucks on the second Saturday of each month women's and open slow pitch divisions, from beginner OB 97228. 360-254-1718 or 503-286-4613 ltlataps@yahoocom.) to advanced, in a safe, friendly environment. Imember- pdxprimetimers@yahoo. com. www geocities, ship@rosecitysoftball.org. www.rosecitysoftball org.) com/pdxprimetimers.) Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian square Rainbow Eastenders is a group of active senior gay and socializing. The death need not have occurred dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. men who meet at Rainbow Vista in Gresham to social recently. 17 30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW IPO Box 5352, Portland, 0B 97228-5352. www rose ize, travel and attend outings, including holiday parties, Jefferson St. 503-701-9376.) townramblers com.) ocean cruises and dining out. Come make some new friends. 111 am third Saturday 1350 W Powell Blvd. Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian Ruby Red Flippers a group of gay and lesbian scuba researchers to trace your family tree and tackle 'brick i 503-667-5575 ian@rainbowvista.com.) divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and wall" female ancestors. Ifamhistnw@aol.com.) takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Rose City Discussion Club, the largest and old Northwest waters. (rubyredflippers(d)yahoo.com. est open pansexual/alternative sexuality club in Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedi www rubyredllippers, org) the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes cated to building the visibility, community participation and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. and collective leadership of lesbian women of color She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for Monthly meetings, social, workshops and newslet through a wide variety of social, networking, conscious lesbians 18 and older, organizes year-round climb- ter lrcdc@teleport.com. www rcdc org.) ness-raising and action-oriented activities, events and ' ing and training events chosen according to skill projects. (wwwhappyoursproductionscom.) level. Monthly meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and 1 16:30-7:30 pm second Thursday. 3702 SE Hawthorne older building community through social and cultural Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest Blvd www.sherockswetpaint.com.) activities lthesapphosocialclub@yahoo.com.) gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organiza tion in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first two Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gath Mondays of each month. (www.rosecourtorg.) All levels of play welcome, and the first time is free. ering for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy I8am-noon www teamportland-tennis.org.) vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meeting monthly potlucks on the last Saturday lveggieguys@ time and place. 1503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol.com.) aol.com.) YOUTH Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good Tuesday Twilight Tastings meets for casual tastings of Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) fine wines and inspired food at West Cafe. 16-8 pm third friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for pot is the only international organization specifically sup Tuesday 1201 SW Jefferson St. BSVP to 503-784-4807 luck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, porting young people with sexual minority parents. or 503-227-8189.) ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Icolage@lmfamily.org. www colage.org.) Women of the Rivers, the Portiand/Vancouver chapter of Lesbian Garden Club welcomes women at all levels Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network Women on Wheels Motorcycle International, encour of experience and offers two plant exchanges and four (GLSEN) sttives to assure that each member of every ages women who love to nde to gather for good times, social events annually with additional spontaneous school community is valued and respected, regardless support and growth in the sport through social meet tours. A small fee is requested for membership, which of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. ings, professional seminars, nder training and organized includes a quarterly pnnted calendar and an invitation 112700 SW North Dakota St.. Suite 180 *129, Tigard, and pickup rides. Monthly meetings at MacTamahan s to join a pnvate Yahoo group. ILonnda 503-909-2002. 0B 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon.org Taproom. (6:30 pm second Thursday 2730 NW 31st www.lgcpdx.org.) www. glsenoregon. org.) Ave. www womenoftherivers.org.) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was start House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) ed for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color come and join the fun! Pool parties, Scrabble and more. Physical Recreation between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, (Larw 503-233-3557. Jom listserv at LesbianswDegrees- socials and community events among their peers. Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year subscribe@yahoogroups.com) (Kourtni 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx.org.) round, including hiking, walking, cross-country and down h* skiing, rafting and mountain biking. IPO Box 2201, Luta i Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self iden Pride Project brings together Washington County tifying women who are into SM Play parties are held Portland, OB 97208-2201 www.adventuregroup.org.) queer and questioning youth to plan and attend on the second Saturday of the month. 1503-231-3992 monthly social events. Also information, referral Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites Women 16 dykedadi@comcast.net www luluspervyplayhouse org) and advocacy services in Washington County. (Mo and older to jorn Portland’s only out lesbian dragon boat 503-260-5792. mkenny@cascadiabhc.org. www. Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic myspace. com/39241130.) group (www amarondragons org) meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Night in Black Leather and The Leether Duck Club are the first and third Fnday of each month at Gad's Dirty Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midnight 439 NW Third Ave 503-224-8446 orieatherfrat@yahoo.com.) Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization for gay male natunsts/rmdists Social gathering second Saturday of every month, Iomenpdx@omenpdx.org. www omenpdx org) POX FTM is a social group for female to-male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies. (groups.yahoo.com/group/PDX FTM.) Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly, alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Friday. 3031SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237 ) The Forest Group, an outdoor activities social group, welcomes lesbians of all ages and skill levels to hike, snowshoe, ski, kayak, camp and more (forestgroup pdx@yahoo com) Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques tioning men to stroll m various neighborhoods around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (10 am Saturday Tom 503-984-4549) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool tables and an infor mal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings. 14-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664 www.smyrc.org.) Queerzone identifies and meets the needs of queer homeless youth by providing advocacy, safety, sup port, resources, referral and a safe place for them to socialize and get the help they need. ¡6-8pm Monday, New Avenues for Youth, 812 SW 10th Ave. 6-8 pm Tuesday. Outside In. 1132 SW 13th Ave 4-11 pm Saturday, Sexual Minority Youth Besource Center, 2100 SE Belmont St.) Act Your Age Midlife crisis leaves partner in limbo D ear M s . B ehavior : My partner, Eleanor, is going through a midlife crisis. I’ve tried to he patient with her extravagant purchases, cosmetic surgery and flashy cars. I’ve endured her flirta tions with women from work. I’ve even humored her by buying her tiny little hip huggers that kx>k ridiculous on her because I know she likes to lixtk like she’s 22 even though she’s 44. But now she’s gotten into a habit of not coming home at least twice a week. She g<x?s out with friends after work and then calls at midnight and says she’s had t<x> much to drink and she can’t drive. She declines my offers to pick her up. She stays with her “friend” Stacey from work. At this point I believe they’re having a full-blown affair. BY MERYL COHN I have waited for this all just to blow over, thinking that it’s better not to make waves and that Eleanor would just get it out of her system. I’ve chosen to act as if everything is normal and have gone on with life as usual. I’ve continued doing Eleanor’s laundry, making her meals and taking care of the house. I also care for our five pets and our garden. My two closest friends say maybe this is what I think 1 deserve because this is what my mother did when my father didn’t come home. But now I’m starting to feel like an idiot. Should I continue to wait it out? Or should 1 let Eleanor know that her behavior is “un- acceptable,” which is what my friends are encouraging? —Eleanor’s Wife Ms. Behavior D ear E leanor ’ s W ife : It’s “unacceptable” if your partner clips her toenails on your pillow or talks about vaginitis at a family barbecue. But if she’s t<x> busy throwing back rusty nails and nailing her co-worker even to come home, you’re way beyond the “unacceptable” conversation. It’s time to muster up your courage and tell Eleanor to cut the crap or leave. Don’t cook her dinner or press her shirts or take care of her in any way (especially pretending that hip huggers look gixxl on her). If she wants to keep your relationship, let her show you that it matters to her. You suggest that a little twist in your personality was established way back when your mother was a doormat, and perhaps that’s why you don’t feel you deserve anything better from your relationship. Maybe your mother’s self-esteem was crushed by your father’s philander ing, and her pretense that everything was normal was somehow comforting to you during that time. But you’re a grown-up now, and you don’t have to sign up to be victimized by your partner’s second adolescence. Tough love. D ear M s . B ehavior : Ed and I have been together for 11 years. We both are financially comfortable, and we share everything. Or so 1 thought. We finally got around to sitting down with an estate plan ner a couple of weeks ago. 1 thought it would all be straightforward but was shocked to learn that Ed intends to leave his share of the house to his two kids, not to me. Ed doesn’t have much money; his half of the house is most of what he owns. I know his kids are important to him, but 1 don’t understand how he could expect me to either leave our home or liquidate my assets to buy out his kids. Ed’s argument is that 1 have enixigh without his half of the house and that his kids don’t own anything. However, 1 feel he doesn’t understand the emotional component of this discussion, how it makes me feel when he demonstrates that his kids are more important to him than 1 am. 1 don’t think we’ll be able to work this out. 1 feel the choices he’s making are unforgivable. What should we do? —Pissed Off D ear P issed O ff : It’s surprising that you and Ed haven’t had this conversation before the 11-year mark. On the other hand, fear of conflict sometimes scares people into silence, which ultimately creates PDX Gay Board Gamers meets monthly in Northwest Gay Women's Goff Group welcomes all levels of play a crisis when the topic of money does finally come up. At this point, you need a third party (a ers. Iwwwturfgirlicom.) Portland to play everything from old-time gems (Life, shrink or a mediator) to help you figure out how to discuss this sensitive topic without tearing Monopoly) to new classics (Settlers of Catan, Puerto Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian Rico) Bring your favonte game along! (11:30 am-5 pm your relationship apart. Ultimately, part of working things out will mean that you’ll need to understand Ed’s wish Just Out is published on the first and third Friday of every Listings are automatically deleted upon expiration To ensure month The deadline for submissions is 14 days prior to uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at to protect his kids. One suggestion that might be worth considering is an arrangement where publication least a month prior to the expiration date Complete listings Ed leaves the house to his kids with the provision that you’re free to live there until you die. OutReach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of are available online at www justout.com ' charge to organizations and groups specifically serving Send listings to Just Out (attn Calendar), P 0 Box 14400, Of course, it won’t be pretty if they stand around and wait for that to happen. the sexual minorities community All listings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, relevance and receipt by deadline Listings expire once a year (in July), and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date Portland, OR 97293 0400, Fax submissions to 503 236 1257 or e-mail justout(<i)justout.com Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information M eryl C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or correspondence to msbehavior@aol. com.
