MARCH 21, 2008
Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth
Sunday to screen foreign films at various venues, fol
lowed by a group discussion. (pdxgayfilm@yahoo.
com.)
Portland Gay Man's Chorus is open to singers, sup
port members and volunteers. 1503-226-2588. www
pdxgmc.org.)
Portland Lesbian Choir, a nonaudition community
women's chorus, encourages women of any musical
skill level to participate in its 21st season of singing,
skin building and socializing, led by interim direc
tor Casey Moffett-Chaney. Rehearsals take place at
Ainsworth United Church of Christ. 16:30-8:30 pm
Wednesday. 2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306.
portkmdlesbianchoir@hotmail.com. www.plchox.org.)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group
for queers and supportive friends of varying musical
skill levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Sub
groups include the Rose City Swing band and a march
ing band with flag corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170.
info@rcgfb.org. www.rcgfb.org.!
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or
musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals.
No audition necessary. 1503-2424244. www.sator-
ichorus.org.)
General
Asian it Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non
profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian
and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks,
recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly envi
ronment to meet and connect with other API. (PO Box
12661, Portland, OR 97232. aplg_pdx@yahoo.com.)
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/
S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis
on safety and education. Workshops, discussions,
events and parties. Women of all orientations can
connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's
Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday.
¡503-972-2233. www.pdxbadgiris.net.)
Bookwomen is a lesbian discussion group that meets
monthly to share stories, favorite authors, top 10
lists and opinions and reviews of the assigned book.
1503-684-0305. mikkata@comcast.net :)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488. brmcprez@
yahoo.com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland
area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com. www.
geocities.com/casflyers .)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were as
signed a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families
of any configuration. (503471-1515. groups.yahoo.
com/group/coqsure.)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and nov
ices always welcome. (503-281-2076. bighnboy@
aracnet.com.)
FAG. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a
radical activist and social group open to self-identi
fied femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity
among femmes, promote femme visibility and combat
femmephobia in the community at large, (www.not-
sorry.org/fagpdx.)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-642-3360 or
971-216-1173. sutaytig@aol.com.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion
group for female-to-male trans men. (groups.yahoo.
com/group/FTM_PacificNW.)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and
older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds
potlucks on the second Saturday of each month.
(flataps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at
the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversa
tion and socializing. The death need not have occurred
recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday. 1201SW Jef
ferson St. 503-701-9376)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brick-
wafl' female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedi
cated to building the visibility, community participa
tion and collective leadership of lesbian women of
color through a wide variety of social, networking,
consciousness-raising and action-oriented activities,
events and projects, (wwwhappyoursproductions com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old
est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raismg orga
nization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first
two Mondays of each month (www rosecourt org.)
Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevi@aol.com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others
and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets
> monthly for potluck dinners and special events. (David
503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was
started for degreed women, but no degree is nec
essary. Just come and join the fun! Pool parties,
Scrabble and more. (Lani 503-233-3557 Join listserv
at LesbianswDegrees-subscribe@yahoogroups. com.)
Lulu's Pervy Hayhouse is a social group for self-iden
tifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held
on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992.
dykedadi@comcast.net. www.luluspervyplayhouse.
org.)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's
Dirty Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave.
503-224-8446. orieatherfrat@yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organiza
tion for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gathering
second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omen-
pdx.org. www.omenpdx.org.)
POX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families and
allies. (groups.yahoo.com/group/PDX FTM.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave. Mike
503-641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches
out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and
retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th
Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan-
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle
organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and
educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather
Ball and Fall Vendors Fair. (www.pdxleatherafliance.
org.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board,
just leather socialization for the past 21 years.
(360-896-6665. pkn@direcway.com.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
about a chosen book or to attend selected events.
(6:30 pm third Tuesday, groups.yahoo.com/group/
portlandlesbianbookclubj
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits,
golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games
and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's go
ing on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@
yahoogroups.com.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers was established as
a social group for older gay men as well as younger
men who enjoy their company. Meetings include
potluck meals, dining out, bingo and celebrations of
special occasions. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228.
360-254-1718 or 503-286-4613. pdxprimetimers@ya-
hoo.com. www.geocities.com/pdxprimetimers.)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group.
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday. 1121 SW Stark
St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest and oldest
open pansexuaValtemative sexuality club in the North
west, is open to all onentations, fetishes and lifestyles
that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings,
social, workshops and newsletter. (rcdc@teleport.
com. www.rcdc.org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and
older building community through social and cultural
activities, (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo.com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday.
(veggieguys@aol.com.)
Women of the Rivers, the PortlanrWancouver chapter
of Women on Wheels Motorcycle International,
encourages women who love to ride to gather for
good times, support and growth in the sport through
social meetings, professional seminars, rider training
and organized and pickup rides. Monthly meetings at
MacTamahan's Taproom. (6:30 pm second Thursday.
2730 NW 31st Ave. www.womenoftherivers.org.)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year
round, including hiking, walking, cross-country and
downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (POBox
2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201. www.adventure-
group.org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (www amazondragons.org.)
Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly,
alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Friday.
3031SE Powell Blvd. 503-234-0237.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate
for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome.
(503-772-1860. imnoregon@comcast.net. www.
geocities.com/ncc 1127/forestpdx'l
Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques
tioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods around
Portland for fun, friendship and exercise. (10 am Satur
day. Tom 503-98445491
JUStpUt 35
How Dry I Am
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Sober dyke no longer craves wild sex. What to do?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I hooked up with Tina last summer, when I was drinking a lot, still hurting from my last re
lationship and just looking for recreational sex. We started
out having great sex (everywhere!) and both continued
hooking up with others.
During the past couple of months, 1 have stopped drink
ing and am trying to “cultivate self-esteem,” as my Alco
holics Anonymous sponsor suggests, which for me involves
desiring a stable relationship instead of acting on all of my
sexual impulses. It turns out that Tina is a good person and
that I’d like to be with her. She wants us to commit to our
relationship but also to be “sexually wild.”
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of play
ers. (www.turfgiriz.com.)
The problem is that, for me, commitment and wild sex
don’t go together, especially without alcohol. 1 don’t know
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for eques
trian activities in the Pacific Northwest. (Denise
503^654-3865. Lynn 503-777-2339. kelrav@rdrop.
com.)
how to explain to Tina that I’m no longer into tying her
up or having a lesbian sex toy party or doing it in public
places. I’m afraid that Tina will think I’m boring or that I
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
styles start the first Friday of each month: coun
try, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule.
(503-236-5129. out_dancing@yahoo.com. hornead,
net/-outdancing.)
misrepresented myself. I also fear that maybe I am boring when 1 don’t drink.
How can I explain that I’m not the wild woman that she thinks I am? Can our relationship
still work?
Out Kayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, nvers and bays of north
west Oregon and southwest Washington, (www.
outkayaking.org.)
D ear L iar L iar P ants on F ire :
PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun
games Friday nights September through April. (info@
pdxpridebowLcom.)
PDX NetRippers is Portland's queer soccer organiza
tion with competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrim
mages, practices for all levels and regional tourna
ments. (Kyle bendoverbeckham@gmail.com. www
myspace. com/netrippers.l
BY MERYL COHN
—Liar Liar Pants on Fire
Your switch in behavior from Party Whore/Bondage Woman to Demure Girlfriend might be
confusing at first, particularly since it’s not what Tina signed up for when she first started dating
you. It might take her some time to understand that shucking your panties at the Stop & Shop
or the public library is actually related to tossing back too many vodka tonics. There’s no way to
know if she’ll accept the fact that your slutty behavior is more about booze than it is about her.
At the same time, it’s too soon to tell how you’ll feel once you’re sober for a while. Some
Portland Gay b Lesbian Bowling Association cel
ebrates 30 years with its 2007-08 season. Meets
Sundays from Labor Day through Memorial Day at Hol
lywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm.
4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address: PO Box 42034,
Portland, OR 97232.503-693-6261. pdxbowl@yahoo.
com. www.pdxbowl.com.)
people assume that they can’t sing or dance or meet new people at parties without the benevo
lent assistance of alcohol, but often, after a period of sobriety, they find that they can do all
those things and more.
Your relationship is far from doomed. Take it slowly. Hopefully, you’ll soon discover an
Portland Gay Basketball Association welcomes all
skill levels. (groups.yahoo.com/group/PortlandGay-
BasketballAssociation.)
you’ll at least have an opportunity to work on your communication skills as you explain to Tina
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and inter
ests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org. www
portlandfrontrunners.org.)
the ninth hole.
Rose City Softball Association is Oregon's largest
sports organization for the gay and lesbian community.
With open and women's divisions at all levels, RCSA
plays slow-pitch softball games on most Sundays
throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational
Complex in Hillsboro. Join a team or form a new one!
(4450 NW 229th Ave. membership@rosecitysoftball.
org. www.rosecitysottball.org.)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352. www
rosetownramblers, com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pa
cific Northwest waters, (rubyredflippers@yahoo.com.
www.rubyredflippers.org.)
She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for les
bians 18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and
training events chosen according to skill level. Month
ly meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7:30pm
second Thursday. 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd, www
sherocks. wetpaint, com.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordinat
ing efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay
Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for
those wanting to participate. (503- 736-3292 www
teamoregon2006.org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Port
land. All levels of play welcome. First time is free,
subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon.
503-788-8192. teamport1andtennis@yahoo.com.)
unknown talent for fucking like an uninhibited monkey when you’re stone-cold sober. If not,
why you’d rather cuddle on the couch than participate in the local lesbian golf team’s orgy on
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’ve been reading your column for many years, and I’m a big fan of your witty responses.
Lately, I’ve noticed that many of your letters are about issues that could pertain to anyone, even
straight readers.
Frankly, I’d continue to read your column even if I had to pick up Car and Driver or Good
Housekeeping, but here’s my question: Do you think we still need gay and lesbian newspapers
and advice columns? If we’re all about getting the same rights as straight people, such as mar
riage, why should I read the gay newspaper that carries the column? (1 don’t mean this an insult;
I think it’s a good newspaper, but I wonder about why we need gay newspapers at all.) And,
while we’re on the topic, why doesn’t your column appear in a mainstream paper?
—Tony
D ear T ony :
Ten or 15 years ago, Rosie and Ellen were in with the mothballs and we didn’t have The
L Word or Will & Grace or Queer as Folk or the Logo television channel. Gay people who needed
answers to their everyday questions had nowhere to turn. It was from this drought that Ms.
Behavior’s column was born. Some issues still remain specific to gay and lesbian culture; Abigail
Van Buren and Miss Manners probably don’t know much about felching or ecstasy or why les
bians like to watch gay-boy pom, so Ms. Behavior does still have her special niche. Of course,
it doesn’t mean that Ms. Behavior couldn’t write about straight relationship issues and hetero
muff-diving or blowjobs for GQ and Sassy, but no one has asked yet.
Anyway, most queers aren’t Martians. Hopefully, it’s not too surprising that our issues aren’t
dramatically different from those of our straight brethren.
But when will there stop being a need for gay and lesbian newspapers? Maybe when main
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