OCTOBER 19, 2007
Fta dwcutiw group forming for gay, bi and trans men
Share your perspective regarding portrayals of sexual
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
for their skill and fitness level AH skill levels welcome
(503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast net wwwgeo
mrnonty men m current films Monthly activities include
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
Cal for a copy at the newsletter and information about
cities com/ncc 1127'forestpdx I
upcoming events (Linda 503-909-2002)
ng men to stroll n various neighborhoods around Portland
for fun, friendship and exercise (10 am Saturday Tom
group outings to see films (filmtalk(d)vervon net)
Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth
Sunday to screen foreign films at various venues, fol
lowed by a group discussion (pdxgayfilmisoyahoo com)
Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers,
support members and volunteers 1503-226-2588.
wwwpdxgmcorg)
Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director
Ray Elliot, strives for musical excellence and making fun-
filed harmonies and is open and welcoming to al women.
Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007 2008 season begin
Sept 19 at Ainsworth United Church of Chnst. Solo and
small group opportunities abound (6:30-8 30 pm
Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was start
ed for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just
come and join the fun! Pool parties. Scrabble and more
(Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-
subscribe@yahoogroups com )
Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are into S/M Play parties are held
on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231-3992
dykedadi@comcast net www luluspervypiayhouse org)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376.)
portlandlesbianchomcithotmail com www plchoir org)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are
the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group
Duck Tavern
for queers and supportive friends of varying musical skill
levels with annual fall and spring concerts. Subgroups
503 224 8446 orieatherfrat@yahoo.com)
include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band
with flag corps. Come join us! ¡503 790-2170
info@rcgfb.org www.rcgfb.org)
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musi
cal background, to pin Wednesday rehearsals. No audi
(9 pm midnight 439 NW Third Ave
503-984-4549)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian
activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise 503654 3865
Lynn 503-777-2339 kelrav@rdrop.com.)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples at
Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles
start the first Friday of each month: country, swing,
PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun games
wwwomenpdxorg.)
PDX NetRippers is Portland's queer soccer organization
POX FTM is a social group for female to-male trans
with competitive indoor soccer, outdoor scrimmages,
men and their significant others, friends, families and
allies, (groups yahoo. com/group/PDX FTM)
practices for all levels and regional tournaments (Kyle
bendoverbeckham@gmail com
www myspace com/
Portland
Gay
b
Lesbian
Community
Bowling
Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime. (330 pm
profit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and
Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreation
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches
out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and
retreats and advocating HIV prevention Meets every
Portland, OR 97242. 503-722 0438 pdxbowl@com
Bad Girts is a social and educational leather and
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan-
B/D/S/M dub for self-identified women with an empha
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M. leather and fetish lifestyle
sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions,
organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and
events and parties. Women of all orientations can
educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather
connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's
Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday.
Ball and Fall Vendors Fair (www pdxleatheralhance.org. I
(503-972-2233 wwwpdxbadgirls net.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for
potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor
and keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no for
(unities for gay men interested in recreational motorcy
mal organization, no officers or board, just leather social
cle touring and promotes education on safe and legal
ization
machinery (503-281-4488 brmcprez@yahoo com )
plm@direcwaycom.)
for
past
the
21
years.
(360-896-6665
@yahoo com)
frontrunners org)
letters and photos from someone who loved and trusted you (and whom you once loved)?
Join the Rose City Softball Association Oregon's largest
gay sports organization, for open and women's divisions
of slow-pitch softball Regular season games are played
haps called My Summer with Matt or Me and Orlando at Camp Starlight, detailing kisses,
hand jobs and secret embraces in a musty cabin. But that wouldn’t be nice, would it?)
dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels.
(PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228-5352 www.rose
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits,
golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games
townramblers com.)
(acbportland@webtv.net.)
and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going
on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork-subscribe@
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned
yahoogroups.com.)
Northwest
a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
www rubyredflippers org)
male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
She Rocks a supportive rock climbing group for lesbians
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
waters
(rubyredfhppers@yahoo.com
18 and older, organizes year-round climbing and training
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland
Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone
AH levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent
activist and social group open to self-identified femmes
of all genders, seeks to create solidarity among femmes,
welcome.
promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexuaV
the community at large, (www.notsorry.org/tagpdx.)
alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to aU
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503 642-3360 or
orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and
YOUTH
consensual Monthly meetings, workshops and newslet
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE)
503 288-1870 sutaytig@aolcom.I
ter (503 972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com wwwrcdc otg.)
is the only international organization specifically sup
porting young people with sexual minority parents
1121
SW Stark St.
www pdxrrmc com)
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FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and
group for female-to-male trans men. (groups yahoo com/
older building community through social and cultural
activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.)
so he no longer wanted to see me. Now I’m left with this empty feeling inside. I’m not eat
teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com.)
ing, not wanting to date and truthfully not interested in any other “activities,” which for
a gay man is unheard of.
What are your suggestions as to how to handle this matter? Am I destined to meet men
Gay,
Lesbian and Straight Education
—Constant Fan
(GLSEN) stnves to assure that each member of every
older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds
potlucks on the second Saturday of each month
(flataps@yahoo. com.)
(kyienportland@yahoo.com.)
school community is valued and respected, regardless
of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression.
(12700 SW North Oakota St , Suite 180 if 129, Tigard.
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the
West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation
ing for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy veg
etanan or vegan lifestyle A variety of activities and month
and socializing. The death need not have occurred
ly potkicks on the last Saturday (veggieguysicuaol com )
recently (7:30 pm second Wednesday
Jefferson St 503-701-9376.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of
OR 97223
503 525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon org
www glsenoregon org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is
a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color
monthly at Elmer’s, sponsors riding clinics and takes
day tops. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker
Road www womenofthenvers org)
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicat
ed to budding the visibdrty, community participation and
collective leadership of lesbian women of color through
Physical Recreation
a wide variety of social, networking, consciousness
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year
raising and action-onented activities, events and prot
round, including hiking, walking cross country and down
hill skiing rafting and mountain biking (P0 Box 2201,
Portland, OR 97208-2201 www adventuregroup org)
gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund raising organization
in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first two
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and
older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat
Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org.)
team Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic
alone and confused.
Network
Social OUTmgs is a social group for al interested in meet
the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
like this all the time? Is it a game and I don’t know the rules? I hope you can help. I’m
(colage@lmfamity org wwwcolage org.)
ing people and doing activities other than bar hopping.
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social gather
A few days ago we met up and he said his schedule did not allow him a personal life,
times are $7. Please join us! (8am-noon. 503-788-8192
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and
please call for meeting
We found out that we had a lot in common, lived in the same city and shared most of the
and all of a sudden became extremely busy.
F.A.G. POX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical
Jewish Gay Men s Group
D ear M s . B ehavior :
same likes and dislikes. After 14 days of being together every day, he then stopped calling
yahoo.com www.geocities com/pdxprimetimers)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest
Please hold on to your integrity (and your memories) and try to get a better-paying job.
pdxprimetimers@
month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and novices always
welcome (503-281-2076 bighnboy@aracnet.com)
ects. (www happyoursproductions com)
able; you’d probably spend the next 17 lifetimes hooking up with amphibians.
events chosen according to skin level. Monthly meetings
OP
are held at Bagdad Pub. (6 30-7 30 pm second Thursday
3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd www sherocks wetpant com.)
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle 'brick
wall' female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
wrote it, not to the recipient. And karmically speaking, such behavior is also not advis
97228
Portland,
503-286 4613 or 360-693-5506
Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian
Legally speaking, the copyright and right to publish a letter belongs to the person who
I recently met a guy while vacationing, and after the initial meeting he pursued me.
Dungeon Men POX hosts a men's S/M party every other
1201 SW
(Of course, if you really need money, you could also publish a tell-all biography, per
throughout the summer at Gordon Faber Recreational
lesbianbookclub)
group/FTM PacificNW)
D ear I t ’ s P ersonal AND I t ’ s B usiness :
place, but who wants to be the type of person who’d make money by selling private love
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland
(10 am Sunday
honest and broke. What should 1 do?
financial gain is very scummy business. Perhaps it’s not y«ur job to hold the closet door in
Complex m HAsboro. Al levels of experience are welcome
5884,
1 am a fair guy, just desperate and pissed off. He’s a multimillionaire and a fake; I’m
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoocom wwwgeo
Box
already feel like shit when I see him on TV and 1 can hardly afford a ticket to his latest movie.
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests.
(Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunnersorg www. portland
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian square
(PO
BY MERYL COHN
on eBay or to the tabloids. 1 could blackmail him, but
It sucks that you’re having money troubles, but betraying a former friend and lover for
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
(4450 NW 229th Ave www rosecitysoftball org I
purposes
Ms. Behavior
Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome!
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgayhoops
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
ings are open to partners and families of any configure
tion. (503-471-1515. groups yahoo com/group/coqsure)
I need money and could make a nunt selling the stuff
—It’s Personal AND It’s Business
about a chosen book or to attend selected events
(6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/group/portland
A Common Bond is a social support network for former
pictures of him that he sent me years ago. I know he
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
pnvate and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer
left of value is a stack of the guy’s love letters and nude
cast net wwwpdxbowl com )
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
cities com/casflyers)
serious business debts, bur it’s not enough. All I have
that’s illegal. Selling the letters and pictures is my right, I think. 1 might feel like shit, but 1
netnppers)
4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address PO Box 42034,
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th
star and way in the closet. No one knows he’s queer.
never expected it could come back to haunt him, but
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at
Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463 )
broke it off. We were in love. Today, this guy is a movie
OutKayakmg Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak group,
explores the lakes, rivers and bays of northwest Oregon
and southwest Washington, (wwwoutkayakng org)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
meet and connect with other API (P0 Box 12661,
Portland, 08 97232 aplgj)dx@yahoo.com.)
a bunkmate that lasted for three summers before he
My problem is this: I work two jobs, but the pay is
Asian 8 Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non
al outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to
ing 15 years ago, 1 had a secret relationship with
crap and I’m strapped for cash. I sold my car to pay off
Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx org
come. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224)
I have an ethical problem. At summer camp start
tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule (503 236-5129
Friday nights September through April. (mfo@pdxpride
play cards and meet the gang. New players always wel
Should I sell dirt on a queer movie star?
out dancmg@yahoo com home art net/-outdancing.)
bowlcom.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's Come
Closet Case
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Gay Women s Golf Group welcomes all levels of play
ers. (wwwturfgiriz com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organization
for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social gathenng second
tion necessary (503-299-4454 wwwsatonchorusorg)
General
Gay Men's Waking Group invites gay, bi and question
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between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers
(Kourtm 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx.org)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify
D ear C onstant F an :
Don’t take the rejection so personally. It’s not you, it’s him. Maybe he only wanted
a vacation fling. Maybe 14 days is his limit. Maybe he’s a fragile little soul who can’t
tolerate both sex and intimacy with the same person.
Ms. Behavior does not think you’re destined to meet men like this all the time. Some gay
men really do want sex and intimacy all in one package and can even sustain it for more than
a fortnight. But next time you meet someone you really like, try to step into it a bit more slow
for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange
ly (instead of latching to each other like leeches or lesbians). Imagine that entering a rela
services that include those who inject hormones Provide
tionship is like going into the freezing ocean. Don't be afraid, but start with your toes and get
transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for
those HIV positive and younger than 23 Need volunteers
of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th
used to the temperature before you plunge all the way in, risking sh<x:k and hypothermia and
Ave 503-535-3800 wwwoutsidemorg)
unattractive teeth-chattering. Going slowly in a relationship will protect your heart from
Pride Project bongs together Washington County queer
shriveling, rhe same way gradually entering the ocean protects other tender body parts.
and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social
events. Also information, referral and advocacy servic
es in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792
austm@pndeproiect org)
group (www amazondragons org)
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 read your recent response to “Bothered in Butchdom," which was absolutely wonder
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay,
ful, courageous and much-needed information [“Butcher Than Thou,” Sept. 21 J. As
3031 SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237.)
lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in com
puter access, pool tables and an informal place to hang
a woman who identifies as a soft butch, among other things, sometimes you just don’t
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group
know how to act or simply be.
potluck dinners and special events (David 503 226-7079,
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
their own equipment and choosing outings appropriate
meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday 2100 SE
Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www smyrc org:)
time and place (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com.l
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and
their spouses, partners, significant others and good
friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for
Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, fnendly,
alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Fnday
I must also commend “Bothered in Butchdom” for submitting a question. Keep up with
the superb columns!
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