SEPTEMBER 21. 2007
Foreign Film Group meets every second and fourth
Sunday to screen foreign films at vanous venues, fol
Cail for a copy of the newsletter and information about
Gay Men » Walking Group invites gay. bi and question
upcoming events (Linda 503 909-2002)
lowed by a group discussion. (pdxgayfilm@yahoo com.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was start
Portland Gay Men s Chorus is open to singers, sup
ed for degreed women, but no degree is necessary Just
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mg men to stroll m vanous neighborhoods around
Portland for fun, fnendship and exercise (10 am
Saturday Tom 503-984-4549)
port members and
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come and join the fun' Pool parties Scrabble and more
(Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswOegrees
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Gay Women s Goff Group welcomes all levels of play
ers (www turfgirti.com.)
volunteers.
1503-226 2588
Portland Lesbian Choir, led by talented artistic director
Ray Elliot, stnves for musical excellence and making fun
subscribe@yahoogroups com.)
filled harmonies and is open and welcoming to all
women Nonaudition rehearsals for the 2007 2008
season begin Sept 19 at Ainsworth United Church of
Christ. Solo and small-group opportunities abound
identifying women who are mto S/M Play parties are held
on the second Saturday of the month (503 231 3992
(6 30-8 30 pm Wednesday 2941 A'E Ainsworth St.
503 727 3306
portlandlesbianchoir@hotmail com
wwwplchoirorg)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance group
for queers and supportive fnends of varying musical skill
levels with annual fall and spring concerts Subgroups
include the Rose City Swing band and a marching band
with flag corps. Come join us!
mfo@rcgfb org www.rcgfb.org.)
1503-790-2170.
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of all
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or musi
cal background, to )oin Wednesday rehearsals. No audi
tion necessary. (503 299 4454 wwwsatorichorus org.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest.
(Denise
503-654 3865
Lynn
503-777-2339
Luhi's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
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dykedadKiiicomcast net www luiuspervyplayhouse org)
kelrav@rdrop com.)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that’s
lust starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376.)
gmail com www myspace com; netrippers )
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are
the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty
Duck Tavern. (9 pm midnight 439 NW Third Ave
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples at
!
503 224 8446 odeathertnt@yahoo com)
Oregon Men Enjoying Natunsm is a social organization
for gay male natunsts/nudists Social gathenng second
Saturday of every month (omenpdx@omenpdx org
wwwomenpdx.org.)
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POX FTM is a social group for female-to male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families and
Ankeny Street Studio Classes for different dance styles
start the first Fnday of each month: country, swing,
tango, cha cha, etc. Call for schedule (503-236-5129
allies, (groups yahoo com/group/PDX FTM)
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The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
bowl.com.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches
(3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St Mailing address:
PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503-722-0438
out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and
pdxbowl@comcast net wwwpdxbowl.com.)
retreats and advocating HIV prevention Meets every
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030 SW 13th
Ave Hugo 503 997 8615orAudencio 503-261 5463.)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome1
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday. 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan-
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle
hoops@yahoo. com)
organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and
educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
events and parties. Women of all orientations can
connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's
Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday
(503-972-2233 www.pdxbadgirlsnet.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social oppor
tunities for gay men interested in recreational motorcy
cle touring and promotes education on safe and legal
machinery. (503-281-4488 brmcprer@yahoo com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
Ball and Fall Vendors Fair (www pdxleatherallianceorg.)
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and interests
(Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunnersorg. www portland
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for
frontrunners org)
potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle
and keep abreast of leather happenings No dues, no
formal organization, no officers or board, just leather
socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665
Join the Rose City Softball Association, Oregon's
largest gay sports organization, for open and women's
divisions of slow-pitch softball. Regular season games
are played throughout the summer at Gordon Faber
Recreational Complex in Hillsboro All levels of expen
plm@direcway. com)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
about a chosen book or to attend selected events.
(6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/group/portland
;
ence are welcome. (4450
wwwrosecitysoftball org.)
NW
229th
Ave
townrambiers com.)
and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's going
on in the area (PDXLesbianNetworksubscribe©
yahoogroupscom.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
waters,
(rubyredfhppers@yahoo.com.
Northwest
mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming
together for social, educational and cultural purposes.
(PO Box 5884. Portland, OP 97228. 503-286-4613 or
www rubyredflippers org.)
Dungeon Men POX hosts a men s S/M party every other
360-693 5506 pdxpnmetimers@yahoo.com. wwwgeo
month in a Portland dungeon Masters and novices always
welcome. (503-281-2076. bighnboy@aracnetcom.)
cities com/pdxpnmetimers )
training events chosen according to skill level. Monthly
meetings are held at Bagdad Pub. (6:30-7:30pm second
Thursday 3702 SE Hawthorne Blvd wwwsherocks
ings are open to partners and families of any configura
tion. (503-471-1515 groups.yahoocom/group/coqsure)
FAG. POX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a radical
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy.
Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone
activist and social group open to self-identified femmes
welcome.
of all genders, seeks to create solidanty among femmes,
promote femme visibility and combat femmephobia in
wwwpdx-rrmccom.)
the community at large, (wwwnotsorryorg/fagpdx.)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360 or
(10 am Sunday.
1121
SW Stark St.
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansexuaV
teamportiandtennis@yahoo com.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discussion
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years and
group for female-to-male trans men. (groups yahoo.com/
group/FTM Pacific NW)
older building community through social and cultural
activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com .)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and
Social OUTings is a social group for all interested in
older as well as their fnends and loved ones, holds
meeting people and doing activities other than bar-hop
potlucks on the second Saturday of each month.
(flataps ©yahoo. com.)
ping. (kyleinportland@yahoo com.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at the
ing tor gay and b< men who are interested in a healthy veg
West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversation
and socializing The death need not have occurred
etanan or vegan lifestyle A vanety of activities and month
ly potlucks on the last Saturday tveggioguys@aol.com)
1201 SW
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to tigce your family tree and tackle "buck
wall" female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men’s Group is a fun, social gather
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter of
the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes
day trips (715 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker
Road www womenoftheriversorg )
ed to building the visibility, community participation and
collective leadership of lesbian women of color through
a wide vanety of social, networking, consciousness-
raising and action-oriented activities, events and
projects, (wwwhappyoursproductions com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the oldest
gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/Tund raising organization
in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere ¡COLAGE)
is the only international organization specifically
supporting young people with sexual minority parents
(colage@lmfamily org wwwcolageorg)
Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) stnves to assure that each member of every
school community is valued and respected, regardless
of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression
(12700 SW North Dakota St , Suite 180 * 129, Tigard.
OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregonorg
Adventure Group organizes a vanety of activities year
round, including taking, walking, cross-country and down
hill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201,
Portland, OP 97208-2201 wwwadventuregroup org.)
Mondays of each month, (www.rosecourt.org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and
older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat
team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic
Jewish Gay Men s Group
group (www amaiondragons org)
When it’s happening, it feels like some sort of game,
hut it’s a game I don’t even want to play! What do you recommend?
—Bothered in Butchdum
D ear B lithered in B utchdom :
Oh, dear. A Bothered Butch is a sad sight, all red-faced and itchy and stuffed into a man
ly suit with nonbreathable fabnc. You need to be restored to your naturally graceful, agile state,
where your stride is long and confident and your skin is smooth and unruffled.
This is why Ms. Behavior dropped all other potential questions to rescue you from your
discomfort. You’ve been unwittingly dragged into a “butcher than thou” competition, and
like a Rottweiler w-ho’s had her hind quarters sniffed by a Dogo Argentino, you’re not so
sure it’s a gcxxl idea to sniff back.
But please don’t despair. Since you and your partner just met this couple, you could
no matter just how butch rhe old-school butch might be. Ms. Behavior has two (oppos
ing) suggestions for you to chixise from, depending on which feels more natural to you:
1. Next time you plan to see your new friends again, be sure to first spend some time
kx/ating and cultivating your Top Dog essence. Sit quietly and focus until you connect to
your expansive manly energy. Breathe deeply into it. Love it. Massage it. Remind yourself
that no one can take it from you and that nothing can eclipse it. Practice sitting with your
2. Remind yourself that you are a complex and layered person. Marvel at how well-
integrated you really are. Feel your generosity of spirit as you allow the old-school butch
to be the butchest person in the room. Let her pour your drinks, pull out your chair and
hold the door for you. Stare admiringly when she adjusts her “balls.” Know, deep inside,
that your butchness isn’t at stake, that you are choosing to be the bigger person and that
you are resilient enough to be unharmed by your flexibility and kindness.
Either way, take a break from your state of hypervigilance. True hutches are often very
tired people. You might find that if you relax, the rrrega-butch will relax, too.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
A gay male couple 1 know are getting married after 10 years, and there are two
separate bachelor and “bachelorette" parties. One of the grooms happens to be a self
House of MOCHA (Mon of Color Healthy b Aware) is
proclaimed queen, and he’s going to dress in drag for the bachelor(ette) party.
a group of gay/bi/same gender-loving men of color
between 16 anil 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't qual
ify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
Physical Recreation
BY MERYL COHN
www glsenoregon org.)
(Kourtm 503-417 7991. www brotobropdx org )
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group dedicat
figure out how to stay grounded in these situations.
Ms. Behavior
knees far apart. Speak with a gravelly voice. Notice how unshakable your essence really is.
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alternative sexuality club in the Northwest is open to all
503-288-1870 sutaytig@aolcom.)
recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday
Jefferson St. 503-701-9376 )
She Rocks, a supportive rock climbing group for
lesbians 18 and older, organizes year round climbing and
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland.
Al levels of play welcome First time is free, subsequent
times are $7. Please join us! (8 am noon 503-788-8192
onentations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and
consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newslet
ter. (503-972-1869 rcdc@tefeport.com. wwwrcdc org.)
natural state.
So, you’ll need a strategy for next time, to keep you feeling comfortable and balanced,
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First Sunday meet
and find myself trying to be more butch than my
iiberbutch.
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits,
golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games
'
I get oft balance. I suddenly don’t know how to “be”
not have been prepared for how off balance (and perhaps diminished?) you felt around the
A Common Bond is a social support network for former
Coqsura is a social group for people who were assigned
a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to-
I’ve never spent much time figuring out where
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland’s gay and lesbian square
lesbianbookclub)
(acbportland@webtv. net.)
women was an older, sort of old-school butch and
her partner more soft-butch-to-classically-femme.
dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels.
(PO Box 5352, Portland, OP 97228-5352. www rose
area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com wwwgeo
cities, com/casflyers.)
or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are-queer
with a lesbian couple we had just met. One of the
It’s an uncomfortable feeling, and I wish I could
Asian h Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a non
profit community voice for gay. lesbian and bi Asian and
Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreation
sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions,
My partner and I recently spent the afternixin
women who are what 1 think of as very, very butch,
always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike
503-641-7224.)
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an empha
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I tit on the butch spectrum, but when I’m around
General
meet and connect with other API. (PO Box 12661,
Portland. OP 97232. aplg jxjx@yahoo.com.)
Why am I so uncomfortable
around this old-school dyke?
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of north
west Oregon and southwest Washington, (www out
kayaking org)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at
Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime.
al outings and cultural events Friendly environment to
Butcher Than Thou
out dancmg@yahoo com home att net/- outdancing)
PDX Pride Bowling League is recruiting for fun games
Friday nights September through Apnl. (inlo@pdxpride
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exchange services that include those who inject
hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and
younger and for those HIV positive and younger than 23.
Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm Monday
I think this is awesome and will be tons of fun, but 1 would like to bring a gift. Do you
have any suggestions about what would be an appropriate gift without it being raunchy?
1 suppose the gift could be on the gag gift level, but I don’t want to be completely taste
less. If it were a girlfriend’s party, I would consider bringing her a hot pair of panties or
something. All ideas are welcome! Thanks.
—Party Guest
Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535 3800 www out
sidein.org.)
Pride Project bnngs together Washington County
D ear P arty G uest :
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events Also information, referral and
When a self-proclaimed queen gets married, the gift possibilities are wide open. Think
Fits Bowling invites you to come join this fun, friendly,
advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin
about anything a young bride might like and mix it with something that a groom would
alternative league at AMF Pro 300 Lanes. (7 pm Friday
3031 SE Powell Blvd 503-234-0237.)
503-260-5792 austin ©pridepro/ect org.)
friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for
potluck
dinners
and
special
events.
(David
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay,
503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
their own equipment and choosing outings appropnate
for their skill and fitness level All skid levels welcome
please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimtevi@aol.com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and
their spouses, partners, significant others and good
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
(503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast.net
cities com/nccll 27/forestpdx.)
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Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
appreciate.
A hot pair of panties would actually be fine. Y ihj could also consider a tiara, tasteful pom,
lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop-in
computer access, pool tables and an informal place to
a waxing kit (or even a waxing treatment to be given during the party, which would be extra
hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support
group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday. 4-11 pm Friday
entertaining for guests), handcuffs, a day at the spa, baby doll pajamas, a manicure or pedi
2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 www smyrc.org.)
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cure, a facial, a boa, a pair of sparkly sandals, etc. Of course, since the couple have been togeth
er for 10 years, they might be more geared toward comfort than hot sex, so you could also try
an attractive hot water bottle, slippers, a set of Will & Groce DVDs or a riding crop. ©
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