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Babes in Toyland
on an open enrollment through fall 2006.
(6 30-830 pm Wednesday 2941 NE Ainsworth St.
503-727-3306. portlandlesbianchoir(a)hotmail com
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
The
advice and encouragement while having a good time
Call for a copy of the newsletter and information
adventures for women Participants are responsi
ble for providing their own equipment and choos
wwwplchoirorg.)
about upcoming events. (Linda 503-909 2002)
ing outings appropriate for their skill and fitness
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was
started for degreed women, but no degree is neces
level
musical skill levels with annual fall and spnng con
certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
sary Just come and |om the fun! Pool parties,
Scrabble and more (Lam 503-233-3557 Join listserv
and a marching band with flag corps. Come join usl
1503-790-2170. info@rcgfb org wwwrcgfb org:)
at LesbianswOegrees subscnbe@yahoogroups com.)
Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of
identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties
all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation
are held on the second Saturday of the month
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary (503-299-4454
www.luluspervyplayhouse org.)
www satorichorus org.)
dykedadi@comcast net
(503-231 3992
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.)
Forest
Group
are
outings
All skill levels welcome
cooperative
(503-772-1860
www geocities com/
imnoregon@comcast net
ncc1127/forestpdx)
Is it impossible to break the habit
of electrical assistance?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I have always used lots of toys for sex. 1 got into the
Gay Men s Walking Group invites gay, bi and
habit years ago, when I was married to a man and sex
questioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods
around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise
wasn’t thrilling. Now I can’t imagine sex without the
(10 am Saturday Tom 503 984-4549.)
toys; 1 have dildos, vibrators, vibrating saddles and
Gay Women s Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players (wwwturfgirizcom)
Lesbian
Equestrian
Group
gets
together
for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest
(Denise
503 654 3865
Lynn
503 7772339
kelrav@rdrop.com.)
rabbits, and toys that involve complicated functions
with ball bearings. 1 don’t even masturbate without
mechanical assistance.
My girlfriend can get off with her hand any time she
General
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's
Asian fr Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is
Dirty Duck Tavern (9 pm midnight. 439 NW Third
that's just starting up in Portland (bendoverbeck
a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Ave. 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo com)
ham@gmail com www my space com/netrippers)
calls it) to the toys. She wants me to be able to have sex
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social orgam
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex couples
with just her, no toys. Do you think it’s possible to break
zation for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gather
ing second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
omenpdx.org www.omenpdx.org.)
swing, tango, cha-cha, etc Call for schedule
(503-236-5129
out dancmg@yahoo com
Asian and Pacific Islanders.
Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API
(PO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232
aplg jidx@yahoo com)
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
PDX FTM is a social group for female to male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families
Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team
styles start the first Friday of each month: country,
home att net/- outdancing)
wants, and she doesn’t understand my “addiction" (as she
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the habit? Could I have damaged the nerves in my clit? If 1 stop the sex toy habit, will I leam
to come from being touched by my girlfriend, even after all these years of electrical assistance?
It would be great if I could, but I’m terrified to even try because I’m afraid it won’t work.
and allies, (groups yahoo.com/group/PDX_FTM.)
OutKayaking Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
I don’t want to turn her down without giving it a shot. Can you give me some suggestions?
discussions, events and parties. Women of all
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
—Dahlia
orientations can connect and ask questions during
the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm
Come play cards and meet the gang New players
group,, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of
northwest Oregon and southwest Washington
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops,
always welcome 16 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike
(www. outkayakmg org)
503-641-7224.)
Portland Gay fr Lesbian Community Bowling
wwwpdxbadgirlsnet)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing
at Hollywood Bowl Drop-ins welcome anytime
(3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address:
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention
Meets every other Monday at Outside In (6 30 pm
1030 SW 13th Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 or
and
legal
(503-972-2233.
Tuesday.
second
every
(503-281-4488
machinery.
brmcprer@yahoo. com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
private and professional, in Washington. Oregon and
southern Bntish Columbia. Dinner meetings in Portland
area.
(503-701-7922.
casflyers@yahoo.com
www. geocities, com/casflyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah’s Witnesses who are
queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify other-
vyise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king,
etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners
and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515
groups yahoo, com/group/coqsure.)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men s S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and
novices
always
welcome.
(503-281-2076.
bighnboy@aracnet. com.)
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland),
a radical activist and social group open to self
identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create
solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibility
Audencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest
pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular
PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242 503 722 0438
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School All skill levels welcome!
yourself a short break before experimenting sans machinery, and you should be ready for
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday. 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
action in a week or so.
hoops@yahoo.com.)
Some women come much more quickly and easily with vibrators than any other way, so
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
your trial of sex without toys will require patience. Don’t expect instant results; you might
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
(www.pdxleatheralliance. org.)
interests
need to try it a few rimes before you find the right rhythm. Coming without a vibrator might
(Gary
mfo@portlandfrontrunners erg
be as unfamiliar as a new language, but eventually it might just feel like your mother tongue.
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
www portlandfrontrunners org.)
for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather
Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board,
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352
just leather socialization for the past 21 years
www rosetownramblers, com.)
(360-896-6665. plm@direcway.com.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to
scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new
chat about a chosen book or to attend selected
events. (6:30pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/
recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and
other Pacific Northwest waters (rubyredflippers@
group/portlandlesbianbookclub.)
yahoo.com wwwrubyredflippers org.)
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub vis
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland All levels of play welcome. First time is
its, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble
games and movie nights and keeps you aware of
free, subsequent times are $7 Please join us! (8 am
what's going on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork
noon.
subscribe@yahoogroups com.)
yahoo.com.)
503-788 8192
purposes. (P0 Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@
(COLAGE) is the only international organization
yahoo, com www. geocities com/pdxpnmetimers)
specifically supporting young people with sexual
for female to-male trans
men.
(groups yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month. (ffataps@yahoo Com)
parents
but enough is enough. Any thoughts about how to bring up Queer Weight Watchers or Gay
St wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
Jenny Craig?
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open
pansexuai'alternative sexuality club in the North
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless
of
sexual
orientation
or
sation and socializing The death need not have
rcdc@teleport com www.rcdc.org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same gender loving
and older building community through social and cul
tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo comj
men of color between 16 and 25 who want to
Soyboys Vegetarian Men’s Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in
engage in activities, socials and community events
among
their
peers
(Kourtni
503-417-7991.
www. brotobropdx org)
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
dedicated to building the visibility, community
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as nee
participation and collective leadership of lesbian
women of color through a wide variety of social,
(veggieguys@aol.com.)
dle exchange services that include those who
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chap
ter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club,
youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive
meets monthly at Elmer s, sponsors riding clinics
and takes day trips (7:15 pm second Thursday
9848 N Whitaker Road www womenofthenvers org.)
inject hormones Provide transitional housing for
and younger than 23 Need volunteers of all ages
(10 am 6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave
503-535-3800 www outsidem org.)
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund raising
Pride Project brings together Washington County
organization in the state of Oregon Meetings are
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
the
first
two
Mondays
of
each
month.
(www rosecourt, org.)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meeting
time and plaice (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com.)
year round, including hiking, walking, cross country
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking
(PO Box 2201, Portland.
OR 97208-2201.
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month
ly for potluck dinners and special events (David
503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331 1111.)
Lesbian Garden Chib is a group of women who love
www. adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
primary concern is Josh’s health (rather than feeling repelled by his newly beefy buttocks and
belly)? If the serious discussion fails, try preparing healthy meals for the two of you to eat
together (except when Josh is at work, where he probably keeps a cookie jar under his desk).
If the direct methcxl doesn’t work, consider using a system of behavioral training—e.g., with
holding blowjobs when Josh gorges on doughnuts and rewarding salad-eating with anal sex.
If all else fails, you might have to ask the gods to help you love Josh in his newly engorged
state. Hopefully, you will grow (spiritually) as Josh grows bigger.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I had a thought, and I had to share it with somebody at this hour of night. When I was
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
young stud of 50.1 love it!
Now, single again as I kx>k forward to my 60th birthday, I find that my ideal man is a wild,
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
Baby Boom Banger
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop
in computer access, pool tables and an informal
place to hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art
dynamic group (www amazondragons org J
wwwsmyrc org.)
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gender
glsen@glsenoregonorg www glsenoregon org.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
Is there something I can do to get Josh to go on a diet? I don’t want to be a control queen,
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
meetings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972 1869
projects.
is unprecedented. Help!
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conver
oriented
activities,
events
and
Iwwwhappyoursproductions com.)
turnoff and a downer. He says he’s always had a weight problem, but this kind of porking up
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group
(colage@lmfamdy.org
identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St,
networking, consciousness raising and action-
now is the time to ask.
minority
Suite 180 4129. Tigard, OR 97223 503-525-1177.
Happy Ours Productions is a grassroots group
fantasized about. If you’ve never tried a threesome, a rodeo fantasy or having your ass licked,
www colage org.)
lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual Monthly
Genealogy group forming Gather with other lesbian
partner to do something new and highly stimulating, perhaps something you’ve always
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
west, is open tb all orientations, fetishes and
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle
"bnckwair female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
ner. Focus on slow and sensual touching, without emphasizing the need to come. Ask your
My boyfriend, Josh, has gained 75 pounds since we got together last year. It’s a sexual
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at
occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday
1201 SW Jefferson St 503-701-9376 )
arousal before you start. Get some erotic books or videos. Practice alone and with your part
D ear M s . B ehavior :
YOUTH
group
reclaim them if the experiment doesn’t work.
teamportlandtennis@
large, (www.notsorry.org/fagpdx)
FTM Pacific NW OR fr WA is a social and dis
Remember to try not to be anxious about giving up your special toys. You can always
Meanwhile, you can stack the deck in your favor by increasing your relaxation and
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
cussion
ness. You might feel temporarily desensitized from all that buzzing; however, a few days
away from the power tools should be an adequate remedy for a numbed-out clit. So, give
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol.com.)
Vibrating doesn’t permanently damage your clit, nor does masturbation cause blind
pdxbowl@comcast net www pdxbowl com)
and combat femmephobia in the community at
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm 503-642-3360
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