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Creative Connection (formerly Real Connection) is
a social gathering for gay men who are artists,
writers or musicians or who pursue some creative
activity. Noncommercial, nonjudgmental; supporting
personal creativity for novices and professionals
alike Monthly potlucks on the second Friday. (7 pm
Carl 503-284-2971.)
Film discussion group forming for gay, bi and trans
men. Share your perspective regarding portrayals of
sexual minority men in current films. Monthly
activities include group outings to see films.
(filmtalk@verizon.net.)
Lesbians in the Arts Soiree is a monthly social gath
ering for artists, musicians, writers, performers and
others to share and support each other in their cre
ative endeavors. (courtneyawan@spiritone com.)
Portland Gay Mens Chorus is open to singers,
support members and volunteers. 1503-226-2588.
www.pdxgmc.org.)
Portland Lesbian Choir is an informal, nonaudition
community chorus for women of all ages to sing,
socialize and share songs, melodies and talents.
Directed by Ray Elliot, a talented and experienced
leader New members welcome to rehearsals at
Ainsworth United Church of Christ on an open enroll
ment through fall 2006. (6:30-8:30 pm Wednesday
2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306 portlandlesbian
choir@hotmail com www.plchoir org.)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
musical skill levels with annual fall and spring con
certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us!
(503-790-2170. info@rcgfb.org. wwwrcgfb org.)
Satori Men s Chorus welcomes new members of all
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or
musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals.
No audition necessary. (503-299-4454. www satori
chorus.org.)
General
Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a
nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with other
API. (PO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232.
aplg jidx@yahoo.com.)
Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, dis
cussions, events and parties. Women of all orienta
tions can connect and ask questions during the Kinky
Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second
Tuesday. (503-972-2233 www.pdxbadgirls net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
and legal machinery. (503-281-4488. brmcprez@
yahoo.com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in
Portland
area.
(503-701-7922.
casflyers@
yahoo.com www.geodties.com/casflyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of
any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups yahoo,
com/group/coqsure)
Dungeon Men POX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon Masters and
novices always welcome. (503-281-2076 bighnboy
@aracnet.com.)
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a rad
ical activist and social group open to self-identified
femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity
among femmes, promote femme visibility and com
bat femmephobia in the community at large
(www. notsorry org/fagpdx)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360
or 503-288-1870 sutaytig@aol.com.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b \NA is a social and discussion
group
for
female-to-mafe
trans
men.
(groups yahoo com/group/FTM PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and
older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds
potlucks on the second Saturday of each month, (flat-
aps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men's Garden Club meets at a different garden
every month to enjoy the diversity of plant materials
that Portland offers the avid gardener. Meet others,
share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and
have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday.
503-347-5477. rogermosser@comcastnet.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at
the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conversa
tion and socializing The death need not have occurred
recently (7:30 pm second Wednesday 1201 SW
Jefferson St 503-701-9376.)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle
"bnckwall" female ancestors (famhistnw@aol com.)
Impenal Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old
est gay, lesbian, bi and trans sociaVfund-raismg organ
ization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first two
Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org)
Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol com.)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross-country
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking.
IPO Box 2201,
Portland,
OR 97208-2201.
www. adventuregroup org.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and good
friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets monthly for
potluck dinners and special events.
(David
503-226-7079. ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (www amazondragons.org.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a
fun-loving group of women who enjoy exploring all
aspects of the environment. Activities include bird
watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping,
kayaking, star gazing and an occasional 'lecture." No
experience necessary. (Iensnews@yahoo.com.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropri
ate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels wel
come. (503-772-1860 imnoregon@com cast.net
www.geocities, com/ncc 1127/forestpdx.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time
Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002.)
Gay Men's Walking Group invites gay, bi and ques
tioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods around
Portland for fun, friendship and exercise (10 am
Saturday Tom 503-984-4549.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group that was
started for degreed women, but no degree is necessary
Just come and join the fun! Pool parties, Scrabble and
more. (Lam 503-233-3557. Join listserv at
LesbianswOegrees-subscnbe@yahoogroups com.)
Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are
held on the second Saturday of the month.
(503-231-3992 dykedadi@comcast.net www. lulus
pervyplayhouse. org.)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed
(monogirls06 @yahoo com)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail s
Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midmght. 439 NW Third
Ave. 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social
organization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social
gathering second Saturday of every month, (omen-
pdx@omenpdx.org wwwomenpdx.org.)
PDXFTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families and
allies, (groups yahoo com/group/PDXFTM.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW Third Ave Mike
503-641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reach
es out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and
retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th
Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pansex-
ual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organ
izations in the Northwest Regular social and education
al opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall
Vendors Fair, (wwwpdxleatheralliance.org.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
for potluck and socializing Meet men into a leather
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just
leather socialization for the past 21 years.
(360-896-6665. plm@direcway com)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
about a chosen book or to attend selected events.
(6:30 pm
third
Tuesday
groups yahoo com/
group/portlandlesbianbookclub)
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub visits,
golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling, Scrabble games
and movie nights and keeps you aware of what's
going on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork- sub-
scribe@yahoogroups com.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228.
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506. pdxprimetimers@
yahoo com www geocities com/pdxpnmetimers.)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group.
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open
pansexuaValtemative sexuality club in the Northwest,
is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that
are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings,
workshops
and
newsletter.
(503-972-1869
rcdc@teleport com www.rcdc org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
and older building community through social and cul
tural activities, (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo.com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday
(veggieguys@aol.com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter
of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes
day trips (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N
Whitaker Road www womenoftherivers org )
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Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (wwwturfgirlzcom.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for eques
trian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise
503-654-3865.
Lynn
503-777-2339
kelrav@
rdropcom.)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's
just starting up in Portland, (bendoverbeck
ham@gmail. com www myspace com/netnppers)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
styles start the first Friday of each month: country,
swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule
(503-236-5129.
out dancing@yahoo.com
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OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of north
west Oregon and southwest Washington, (www.out
kayaking.org)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at
Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime.
(3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address:
PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503-722-0438
pdxbowl@comcast. net www pdxbowl com.)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome!
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
hoops@yahoo.com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org.
www portlandfrontrunners org.)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352.
www rosetownramblers, com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
Northwest waters (rubyredflippers@ yahoo.com.
www. rubyredflippers org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland
All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent
times are $7. Please join us! (8 am noon 503-788-8192.
teamportlandtennis@yahoo. com)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization specif
ically supporting young people with sexual minority
parents. (colage@lmfamilyorg wwwcolage org)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/
expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180
*129,
Tigard,
OR
97223.
503-525-1177.
glsen@glsenoregon. org. www.glsenoregon. org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware)
is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color
between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers.
(Kourtni 503-417-7991 www.brotobropdx.org)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can t
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and
younger and for those HIV positive and younger than
23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm
Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800
www. outs idem org.)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also information, referral and
advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin
503-260-5792. austin@pndeproject org.)
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop
in computer access, pool tables and an informal place
to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support
group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday
2100 SE Belmont St 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc.org.)
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Tattle Tale
Should I expose a liar?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I was at a party recently where we
played What’s the Worst Thing You Ever Did,
a drinking game in which people went around
the room confessing secrets.
Ella, a friend of a friend, confessed that she
lied on a government application to get a
grant. Most people confessed silly or ridiculous
secrets, but this woman clearly broke the law
and acted unethically. 1 feel like it is my Juty
to tell someone (e.g., the organization that
gave her the grant), but my girlfriend says 1
should just let it go. Worse is that we are like
ly to end up in social situations with this liar, and 1 will be forced to be nice to her.
What is the etiquette here? Am 1 bound by the fellowship of the game and the
party to keep her lousy secret?
—Uneasy
D ear U neasy :
Perhaps Ella’s lie prevented someone more deserving from receiving the grant,
but unless the game was called “Tattletale” or “Snitch,” you should not run to the
government agency and complain. Ella’s misdeed is hardly admirable, but it’s not
like she admitted to selling babies or torturing puppies, is it?
Unless someone reveals that he or she intends to hurt someone, the implicit
understanding of such games is that secrets will not be revealed to others after the
party. Would you expect someone to snitch about your secret? What if someone
told your ex-girlfriend that you once sat on another woman’s face by accident while
you were still dating? Maybe you’re so good and pure that you’ve never made a lit
tle mistake. But you should know that telling on others doesn’t make your good
ness more substantial.
Only you know whether you can bear to be nice to Ella in a social situation.
But if His Holiness the Dalai Lama is your model for kindness, you should proba-
bly at least deign to say hello.
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D ear M s . B ehavior :
Our good friends Miriam and Dora are inseminating, as are we. The problem is
that they are using the same sperm bank we are, and they are also going to go for
Jewish sperm like we are, which limits the pool even further.
1 am afraid we will end up with the same donor, since we have similar tastes and
values. Do you think it’s invasive for us to ask them to coordinate with us, so that
our children don’t end up having the same father? 1 have a specific donor in mind
already, and 1 don’t want them to sign up for the same one. It seems weird and
unboundaried to leave it to chance.
No one else seems to be the least bit worried about this. How can 1 bring the
topic up without seeming like a total control freak?
—Big Mama
D ear B ic ; M ama :
You haven’t said why it bothers you to use the same sperm as your friends. If
you’re concerned that your spawn will grow up and marry a nearby half-brother or
half-sister, subsequently giving birth to mutant babies, it’s not likely. Should such
a melodrama arise, you’d simply reveal the horrible truth, just as parents do in a
soap opera. (Actually, if you feel compelled to protect against inadvertent incest,
you’ll need to ban your child from ever having sex with anyone with unknown
birth parents.)
You probably can’t broach the topic of coordinating sperm donors without
seeming like a total control freak, because, well, you are a total control freak. But
it’s time for self-examination: Why are you so possessive of a particular sperm
donor, given the impersonal context of insemination? It’s not as if the donor is your
boyfriend and Miriam and Dora want to extract his semen doggie style. Are you
the kind of person who gets upset if, say, you have a yellow house and your neigh
bor paints her house yellow, or a friend buys shoes like your shoes? Is your need for
control particular to spwge? Or are you just competitive with your friends?
Your partner is right; you should try to let it go. But if you really feel the need
to direct the situation, then findjout which sperm donor Miriam and Dora plan to
use and pick someone else. It’s a more effective solution than attempting to ban
them from using your dream donor. •
MERYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and
Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send
questions or correspondence to msbehavun@aol.ann.
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