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Portland Gay Men's Chorus is open to singers, sup
port members and volunteers (503-226-2588.
wwwpdxgmc org)
Portland Lesbian Choir is an informal, nonaudition
community chorus for women of all ages to sing,
socialize and share songs, melodies and talents
Directed by Ray Elliot, a talented and expenenced
leader. New members welcome to rehearsals at
Ainsworth United Church of Chnst on an open enroll
ment through fall 2006. (6:30-8:30 pm Wednesday.
2941 NE Ainsworth St. 503-727-3306. portlandles-
bianchoir@hotmail com. www.plchoirorg.)
Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
musical skill levels with annual fall and spring con
certs Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us!
(503-790-2170. info@rcgfb.org. wwwrcgfb org.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is
a fun-loving group of women who enjoy exploring al
aspects of the environment Activities include bird
watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping,
kayaking, star gazing and an occasional "lecture *
No experience necessary. (Iensnews@yahoo.com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time.
Cal for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for mtelec
tual women and those who want to meet them. (Lan
503-233-3557. Join listserv at LesbianswOegrees
subscnbe@yahoogroups.com.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties
are held on the second Saturday of the month.
Satori Men s Chorus welcomes new members of
(503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net. www lulus
all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation I pervyplayhouse.org.)
or musical background, to join Wednesday
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
rehearsals. No audition necessary. (503-299-4454.
meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503 7771376 )
www. satorichorus, org.)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed.
(monogirts06@yahoo com.)
General
Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a
nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232.
aplg jjdx@yahoo.com.)
Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops,
discussions, events and parties Women of ail orienta
tions can connect and ask questions dunng the Kinky
Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second
Tuesday. (503-972-2233. wwwpdxbadgiris net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
and
legal
machinery.
(503-281-4488
brmcprez@yahoo. com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
pnvate and professional, in Washington,. Oregon and
southern Bntish Columbia. Oinner meetings in
Portland area (503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo com
www geocities com/casflyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer. (acbportland@webtvnet.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of
any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups.yahoo com/
group/coqsure.)
Dungeon Men POX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and
novices
always
welcome.
(503-281-2076.
bighnboy@aracnet.com.)
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a rad
ical activist and social group open to self identified
femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity
among femmes, promote femme visibility and
combat femmephobia in the community at large.
(www.notsorryorg/fagpdx)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360
or 503-288-1870. sutaytig@aol.com.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discus
sion group for female-to-male trans men.
(groups yahoo. com/group/FTM PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month, (flataps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men’s Garden Club meets at a different garden
every month to en|oy the diversity of plant materials
that Portland offers the avid gardener Meet others,
share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and
have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday
503-347-5477 rogermosser@comcast. net.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at
the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conver
sation and socializing. The death need not have
occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday
1201 SW Jefferson St. 503-701-9376)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "buck
wall" female ancestors. (famhistnw@aol com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old
est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organ
ization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the first
two Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org.)
Jewish Gay Men s Group—please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aoicom.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good tnends, whether Jewish or not It meets month
ly for potluck dinners and special events. (David
503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Fnday of each month at Gail's
Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm midnight 439 NW Third
Ave. 503-224-8446. orteatherfrat@yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organi
zation for gay male natunsts/nudists. Social gather
ing second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@
omenpdx org www omenpdx org)
PDX FTM is a social group for female to male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families and
allies. (groups.yahoo.com/grouplPDX FTM.)
PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
women 35 and older to socialize while playing board
games like Scrabble and Spades, (games groups
yahoo. com/group/PdxLesboNerds.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
Come play cards and meet the oang New players
always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike
503-641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reach
es out to Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and
retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm 1030SW 13th
Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencm 503-261 5463.)
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Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan-
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle
organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and edu
cational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball
and Fall Vendors Fair, (wwwpdxleatheralliance org.)
year round, including hiking, walking, cross country
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking
(PO Box 2201, Portland.
OR 97208 2201
www adventuregroup org)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team. Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (wwwamarondragons.org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropn
ate tor their skill and fitness level. All skill levels
welcome (5O3-772-186O. mnoregon@comcast.net
www. geocities, com/ncc 1127/forestpdx )
Gay Men's Waking Group invites gay, bi and ques
tioning men to strol in vanous neighborhoods around
Portland for fun, friendship and exercise (7 pm
Wednesday Tom 503 984 4549 )
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (www turfgir1r com)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest.
(Denise 503 654 3865. Lynn 503-777-2339.
kelrav@rdrop. com.)
Net Rippers is a gay men s indoor soccer team that's
just starting up in Portland, (bendoverbeckham(a)
gmailcom. www myspace com/netnppers)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same sex
couples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for differ
ent dance styles start the first Fnday of each month:
country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for sched
ule. (503-236-5129. out dancmg@yahoo.com.
home.att.net/~outdancing.)
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, nvers and bays of
northwest Oregon and southwest Washington.
(www outkayakmg org.)
Portland Gay 6 Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime.
(3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address:
PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503-722-0438
pdxbowl@comcast.net. www.pdxbowl.com)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome!
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
hoops@yahoo com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of ail abilities and interests.
(Gary info@portiandfrontrunners org www portland
frontrunners org)
Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228 5352.
www rosetownramblers com.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board,
just leather socialization for the past 21 years.
(360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
Northwest waters (rubyredflippers(u'tyahoo com
www rubyredfhppersorg.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to
chat about a chosen book or to attend selected
events. (6:30pm third Tuesday groups.yahoo.com/
group/portlandlesbianbookclub)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland
All levels of play welcome. First time is free, sub
sequent times are $7. Please join usl (8 am-noon
503- 788-8192 teamportlandtennis @yahoo. com.)
Portland Lesbian Network organizes brewpub vis
its, golf events, hiking, kayaking, cycling. Scrabble
games and movie nights and keeps you aware of
what's going on in the area. (PDXLesbianNetwork
subscnbe@yahoogroups.com.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228.
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxpnmetimers@
yahoo com www geocities, com/pdxprimetimers.)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group.
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
St. wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open
pansexual/altemative
sexuality club
in
the
Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and
lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual
Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter
(503-972-1869. rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc.org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
and older building community through social and cul
tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a
healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday.
(veggieguys@aol. com.)
Women of the Rivers, the PortlancWancouver chapter
of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes
day tnps (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N
Whitaker Road www womenofthenvers org )
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization specif
ically supporting young people with sexual minonty
parents (colage@lmfamilyorg. wwwcolage org.)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender
identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St.,
Suite 180 4129, Tigard, OR 97223 503-525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon. org www glsenoregon org)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware)
is a group of gay/bi/same gender loving men of color
between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers.
(Kourtni 503-417-7991 wwwbrotobropdx org )
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject hor
mooes Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and
younger and for those HIV positive and younger than
23. Need volunteers of all ages. (10 am-6 pm
Monday Fnday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800
www outsidein org)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events Also information, referral and
advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin
503-260-5792 austm@pndepro/ect org.)
Physical Recreation
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop in
computer access, pool tables and an informal place to
hang out Weekly trans, leadership and art support
group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
2100 SE Belmont St. 503 872 9664 wwwsmyrc org)
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Single White
Female
I can't stop thinking about my roommate.
Should I ask her out?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I recently got a roommate through Craig’s
List. We are both single and 23. Sal and 1 haven’t
hung out much. Recently I accidentally saw her
coming out of the shower and can’t stop think
ing about her. Would that ruin my good room
mate situation if I tell her how I feel? It’s really
hard to find someone I want to live with, and
1 don’t want to screw that up. Will these feelings
go away? I only have one friend who I could talk
to, and he says I just need to get laid.
Sal is muscular with her clothes on and
secretly smooth underneath. Now I keep
wondering how she’d look if she were pregnant.
Is it too weird to ask someone out if you already live with her? Help!
—Messed Up
D ear M essed U p :
What you’re feeling may actually be lust or some kind of longing for a mommy—
envisioning Sal pregnant with a big round belly and bursting breasts is the big clue.
But please don’t be embarrassed; nearly everyone has such moments, conscious or
not, of wanting to reconnect to the original source, the first bosom.
You don’t need to immediately figure out why you feel the way you do; you can
sort it out while you slowly get to know Sal better. Asking her to go to the movies
or to have dinner with you would be a noncommittal way to find out what she’s
really like beneath her tight and muscular-yet-secretly-feminine appearance. (Please
note that Ms. Behavior said “beneath’’ and not “inside.”)
Premature proclamations of love can be embarrassing if you later find out that
you were spouting bullshit when really you just wanted to get jiggy. See how you feel
when you spend time together. If there’s chemistry between you when you spend
time together, you’ll both know it, and maybe your dream of having babies with her
(or at least pressing your moist and hungry bodies together) will come true. If there
isn’t chemistry, your feelings will probably soon pass, and you won’t have to worry
about finding a new roommate.
Meanwhile, it does sound like you need to get laid. As soon as possible.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
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My friend Katie was recently dumped by her girlfriend. Katie wants to remain friends
because she wants to still be the other mom to Lauren’s 4-year-old daughter, Sonia.
Katie (who is wealthy but not filthy rich) plans to buy Lauren a car and a condo so that
she and Sonia don’t have to “change their lifestyle.” I think it’s crazy, but Katie says
that it’s just like a divorce settlement and that straight people do it all the time.
Anyway, here’s the part that worries me: Lauren has a new girlfriend, and it seems
like Katie doesn’t know. 1 suspect that Lauren and the new GF are waiting until Katie
pays for the condo and the car before they let everyone know about their relationship.
I am tom about whether to say something to Katie. I’m not one of her closest
friends, hut I care about her. On one hand, 1 feel like 1 should tell her so that she
doesn’t feel like a fool; on the other, I think it’s none of my business. What do you
think?
—Katie’s Friend
D ear K atie ’ s F riend :
Historically, relationships often do involve commerce agreements—a donkey for
your virgin daughter’s hand in marriage, or a condo for continued participation in your
toddler’s life. Such agreements aren’t objectively bad, as long as all parties (including
the virgin and the toddler) are happy with the arrangement and participating freely.
Since you’re not Katie’s close friend, you can’t be sure about what she knows
about Lauren’s dating life, and you shouldn’t judge the choices she makes. It’s
unlikely that Katie believes that offering her gigantic gifts will keep Lauren from
ever having another partner. And still, Katie might be willing to exchange a condo
and a car for the possibility of being involved in Sonia’s life, even if Lauren has a
new girlfriend, and even if everyone else thinks it’s a had idea. Is she risking the
possibility that she’ll ultimately feel like a fool? Sure. But if it’s OK with Katie, it
should be OK with you. •
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