NOVEMBER 3, 2006
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Rose City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
musical skill levels with annual fall and spnng con
certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
and a marching band with flag corps. Come join us!
(503 790 2170 mfo@rcgfb.org www rcgfb.org)
Satori Men s Chorus welcomes new members of
all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary. 1503-299-4454.
www satorichorus.org.)
General
Asian (r Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a
nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Fnendly environment to meet and connect with oth
er API. IPO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232.
aplg j}dx@yahoo. com.)
advice and encouragement while having a good time
Cal for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. I Linda 503-909-2002)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intel
lectual women and those who want to meet them.
(Lani 503-233-3557. Join listserv at Lesbiansw
Degrees-subscnbe@yahoogroups com.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for
self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play
parties are held on the second Saturday of the
month. (503-231-3992 dykedadi@comcast.net.
www luluspervyplayhouse org.)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays (503-777-1376.)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed.
(monogirls06@yahoo.com.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Chib
are the first and third Fnday of each month at Gail’s
Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm midnight 439 NW Third Ave
503-224-8446 odeatherfrat@yahoo.com.)
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organ
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, dis
ization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gath
cussions, events and parties. Women of all orienta
ering second Saturday of every month, (omen-
tions can connect and ask questions during the Kinky i
pdx@omenpdx.org. wwwomenpdx.org.)
Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second
PDX_FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
Tuesday. 1503-972-2233 www pdxbadgirls.net)
men and their significant others, friends, families and
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
allies. (groups.yahoo.com/group/PDX FTM.)
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
women 35 and older to socialize while playing board
and legal machinery. 1503-281-4488. brmcprez@
games like Scrabble and Spades, (games.groups
yahoo com.)
yahoo. com/group/PdxLesboNerds)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
pnvate and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in
always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike
Portland area 1503-701-7922. casflyers@yahoo.com.
503 641-7224.)
www. geocities, com/casffyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families
of any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups.yahoo
com/group/coqsure.)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and
novices always welcome. (503-281-2076 bighn-
boy@aracnet. com.)
F.A.G. POX (Femme Affinity Group Portland),
a radical activist and social group open to self
identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create
solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibil
ity and combat femmephobia in the community at
large, (www.notsorry org/fagpdx)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm. 503-642-3360
or 503-286-3575.)
FTM Pacific NW OR ft WA is a social and discus
sion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups
yahoo.com/group/FTM PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month, (flataps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men s Garden Club meets at a different garden
every month to enjoy the diversity of plant matenals
that Portland offers the avid gardener Meet others,
share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and
have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday
503-347-5477 rogermosser@comcast net.)
Gay Men Who Have Lost Their Partners meets at
the West Cafe to provide an opportunity for conver
sation and socializing. The death need not have
occurred recently. (7:30 pm second Wednesday
1201 SW Jefferson St. 503-701-9376.)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "buck
wall" female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old
est gay. lesbian, bi and trans sociaHund-raising organ
ization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first
two Mondays of each month, (www rosecourt org)
Jewish Gay Men s Group please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939. efraimlevtuuaol com)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month
by for potluck dinners and special events. (David
503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is
a fun-loving group of women who enioy exploring all
aspects of the environment. Activities include bird
watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping,
kayaking, star gazing and an occasional "lecture."
No experience necessary (lensnews@yahoo.com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds.
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that
reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing
events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention
Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6 30 pm
1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or
Audencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan-
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFost, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair.
(www.pdxleatheralliance org.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second
Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into
a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap
penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi
cers or board, just leather socialization for the past
21 years. (360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to
chat about a chosen book or to attend selected
events. (6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo
com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@
yahoo com www geocities.com/pdxpnmetimers)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
St www.pdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan
sexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest,
is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles
that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet
ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869
rcdc@teleport com www rcdc.org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
and older building community through social and cul
tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social
gathenng for gay and bi men who are interested in
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday
(veggieguys @aol. com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chap
ter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club,
meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and
takes day tnps. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N
Whitaker Road www hevanet com/chama/wow )
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross-country
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking
(PO Box 2201, Portland,
OR 97208-2201
www adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to |oin Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (wwwamazondragons org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women. Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropn
ate for their skiH and fitness level All skill levels
welcome. (503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast.net
www geocities. com/ncc 1127/forestpdx)
Gay Mon s Walking Group invites gay, bi and
questioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods
around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise.
(7 pm Wednesday Tom 503-984-4549)
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (www.turfgidz.com.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for eques
trian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise
503 654 3865
Lynn 503 777-2339
kelrav@
rdrop com)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's
just starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@
gmail com wwwmyspacecom/netrippers)
Out Oancing teaches dancing for same sex couples
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
styles start the first Friday of each month: country,
swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule.
(503-236-5129.
out_dancmg@yahoo. com.
home att net/- outdancing.)
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of north
west
Oregon
and
southwest
Washington
(www outkayakmg org.)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime.
(3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address:
PO Box 42034, Portland. OR 97242 503-722 0438
pdxbowl@comcast net www.pdxbowl com.)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School All skill levels welcome!
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday 2231 N Flint Ave pdxgay
hoops@yahoo. com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org
www.portlandfrontrunners org)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352
www rosetownramblers com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scu
ba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits
and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other
Pacific Northwest waters. (rubyredflippers@
yahoo com. www rubyredflippers org.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordinat
mg efforts for Outgames and Gay Games, holds
monthly meetings for those wanting to participate
1503-736-3292 www teamoregon2006 org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome First time is free,
subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon
503-788-8192 teamportlandtennis@yahoo com.)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization specif
ically supporting young people with sexual mmonty
parents. (colage@lmfamily org www colage org)
Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender
identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St ,
Suite 180 ft 129, Tigard. OR 97223 503 525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon org)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware)
is a group of gay/bi/same gender loving men of color
between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers
(Kourtm 503-417-7991 www.brotobropdxorg)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject
hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger
than 23. Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm
Monday Friday. 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-5353800
www outs idem org.)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events Also information, referral and
advocacy services in Washington County (Austin
503-260-5792 austm@pndeproiect org.)
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
gay. lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop-
in computer access, pool tables and an informal
place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art
support group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday.
4-11 pm Fnday 2100 SE Belmont St 503-872 9664
www.smyrc.org.)
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Denial Ain't Just
a River in Egypt
Cheater's girlfriend needs to pull
her head out of the sand
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I don’t know what to believe about my girlfriend,
Diane, so please give me your opinion. Here’s what
happened last weekend: I go to pick up my dog from
my friend Angela, who’s been dog-sitting. Angela isn’t
home, so 1 search her bedrixim for a pen to leave a
thank-you note. To my surprise, 1 find Diane’s old
glasses on Angela’s bedside table. Still no pen, so 1
keep searching. 1 notice Diane’s old college T-shirt on
Angela’s desk chair. Eventually, 1 find Diane’s vibra
tor in the bedside drawer. (A few years ago, when she
had housemates, Diane wrote her initials with nail
polish on the bottom of Mr. Wand.)
1 call Diane and ask what her glasses, shirt and vibrator are doing in Angela’s bedrixim.
Diane says she has no idea. So I call Angela, who confesses that she is secretly in love with
Diane and stole these items so she could feel closer to Diane. 1 think this is so bizarre that
it must be true. I have to trust Dane, right? My friends think she's a liar. What do you think ?
—Diane’s Girlfriend
D ear D iane ’ s G irlfriend :
Your search for a pen was an excuse, which means you were already suspicious. But
once you found clues, you chose to deny them. You’d rather believe that Angela came
over and rifled through Diane’s drawers, then went home and constructed a mini-shrine
in her bedroom. You never question how she came upon the vibrator; might you believe
that Diane innocently left it on the kitchen table, and Angela merely slipped it into her
purse or her vagina when no one was looking?
Denial serves the purpose of protecting you from that which is too difficult to
know—but only to a point. Maybe you need to believe that Diane hasn’t betrayed you.
Maybe if you walked into Angela’s house and Angela was naked on the dining room
table with Diane’s fingers inside her, Diane could convince you that she was giving
Angela a pelvic exam because she’s concerned about Angela’s health.
You need to face up to the truth and then decide what you want to do about it. Can
you tolerate it? Do you want an open relationship? Is Diane willing to tell the truth and
stop seeing Angela? Are you ready to find a new dog sitter?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 recently ended a long relationship. Things have changed during the 12 years I was
out of circulation. Now it’s easy to meet people online, and lots of women are looking
for sex without commitment, which is fine with me because I’m gun-shy after my
breakup. So, I’ve dated five different women during the past several months.
My dilemma is about body hair. Two of the women I’ve met are into Brazilian wax
ing. One of them, Heather, wants to take me to the place where she gets waxed and pay
for me to try it. I’m always up for a fun outing, but 1 don’t know how I feel about the
totally hairless kx>k on me. 1 like it on her, and it’s nice to go down on someone who is
totally smooth. I’d consider getting waxed to please Heather, but since Heather and 1
aren't serious, 1 worry about how other women will respond. Will some women be turned
off? 1 don’t have anyone 1 can ask about this, and I figured you would know.
—New to This Stuff
D ear N ew to T his S tuff :
It’s generally worth the extra effort to do something that your sex partner finds erotic.
Her response will be rewarding, and you might find that you actually have more sensation
without hair. Even if it turns out that you don't like the way it looks or feels, you won’t have
to live with it for long; pubic hair generally grows hack in about a month. Meanwhile, if
the next person in your long line of trysts happens not to like it, she doesn’t have to come
rack for seconds.
Some women may be reminded of prepubescent girls when they see your hairless
mound, which could squash their desire, at least for 30 days. But others will undoubt
edly find your smtxith pudenda irresistible and will want you constantly. They'll touch
you under the table in restaurants and drag you into cars and alleyways, unable to con
tain the urge to lick and fuck you. They will do it over and over, amazed by the easy
access, the unencumbered sweet and slick juiciness.
Either way, if this is what you mean by a fun outing (as opposed to, say, a museum or
a poetry reading), you're sure to have a lovely time. •
VlF.RYL C ohn is the author of Do What I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and
-esbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send questions or
correspondence to mshehavioiQaol.com.