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Ros« City Gay Freedom Band is a performance
group for queers and supportive friends of varying
musical skill levels with annual fall and spring con
certs. Subgroups include the Rose City Swing band
and a marching band with flag corps. Come join usl
(503-790-2170. mfo@rcgfb org. www.rcgfb org.)
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of
all ages and races, regardless of sexual onentation
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary. (503-299-4454
www. satoricborus. org.)
General
Asian b Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a
nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Fnendly environment to meet and connect with
other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland. OR 97232.
aplg jdx@yahoo.com.)
Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, dis
cussions, events and parties. Women of all orienta
tions can connect and ask questions dunng the Kinky
Women’s Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second
Tuesday. (503-972-2233 wwwpdxbadgids.net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
motorcycle tounng and promotes education on safe
and legal machinery. (503-281-4488 brmcprer@
yahoo.com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators,
both private and professional, in Washington,
Oregon and southern Bntish Columbia. Dinner meet
ings in Portland area. (503-701-7922. casflyers
@yahoo. com. www geocities, com/casflyers.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intel
lectual women and those who want to meet them.
(Lam
503-233-3557.
Join
listserv
at
LesbianswDegrees-subscribe@yahoogroups. com.)
their own equipment and choosing outings appropn-
ate for their skill and fitness level. Al skill levels
welcome 1503-772-1860 imnoregon@comcast net
WWW geocities com/ncc 1127‘forestpdx)
Lulu’s Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties
are held on the second Saturday of the month.
(503-231-3992.
dykedadi@comcast.net
www. luluspervyplayhouse org.)
Gay Men’s Walking Group invites gay, bi and
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that
meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed.
(monogids06@yahoo.com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social
organization for gay male naturists/nudists Social
gathering second Saturday of every month.
(omenpdx@omenpdx.org. www.omenpdx.org.)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
styles start the first Fnday of each month: country,
swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule.
(503-236-5129.
out dancmg@yahoo. com.
home. att. net/—outdancing.)
PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
men and their significant others, fnends, families and
allies, (groups, yahoo com /group/POX _FTM.)
POX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
women 35 and older to socialize while playing board
games like Scrabble and Spades, (games groups
yahoo. com/group/PdxLesboNerds.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
Come play cards and meet the gang New players
always welcome. /6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike
503-641-7224.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc ). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families
of
any
configuration.
(503-471-1515.
groups yahoo, com/group/coqsure)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan
sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair
(www. pdxleatheralliance org.)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon Masters and
novices always welcome. (503-281-2076 bighnboy
@aracnet.com.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second
Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into
a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap
penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi
cers or board, just leather socialization for the past
21 years. (360-896-6665 plm@direcwaycom.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and discus
sion group for female-to-male trans men.
(groups, yahoo com/group/FTM_PacificNW.)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month, (flataps@yahoo.com.)
Gay Men's Garden Club meets at a different garden
every month to en|oy the diversity of plant materials
that Portland offers the avid gardener Meet others,
share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and
have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday
503-347-5477. rogermosser@comcast.net )
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle
"bnckwair female ancestors (famhistnw@aol.com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising
organization in the state of Oregon Meetings are
the first two Mondays of each month (www rose
court.org)
Jewish Gay Men's Group—please call for meet
ing
time
and
place.
(503-246-5939
efraimlevi@aol. com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good fnends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month
ly for potluck dinners and special events. (David
503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is
a fun-loving group of women who enjoy exploring all
aspects of the environment Activities include bird
watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping,
kayaking, star gazing and an occasional "lecture.*
No experience necessary (lensnews@yahoo com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time
Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. I Linda 503-909-2002.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for eques-
trian activities in the Pacific Northwest (Denise
503-654-3865
Lynn 503-777-2339. kelrav@
rdrop com)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team
that's just starting up in Portland, (bendoverbeckham
@gmailcom. www myspace com/netnppers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
50 + lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360
or 503-286-3575.)
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (www.turfgirh.com.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Fnday of each month at Gaits
Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight 439 NW Third
Ave. 503-224-8446. orieatherfrat@yahoo com)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that
reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing
events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention.
Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm.
1030 SW 13th Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or
Audencio 503-261-5463.)
F.A.G. PDX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a
radical activist and social group open to self
identified femmes of all genders, seeks to create
solidarity among femmes, promote femme visibil
ity and combat femmephobia in the community at
large, (wwwnotsorry.org/fagpdx.)
questioning men to stroll in various neighborhoods
around Portland for fun, friendship and exercise.
(7 pm Wednesday Tom 503-984-4549.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to
chat about a chosen book or to attend selected
events.
(6:30
pm
third
Tuesday
groups yahoo com/group/portlandlesbianbookclub)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@
yahoo com. www geocities com/pdxprimetimers. I
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
St wwwpdx-rrmc com)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan-
sexual/altemative sexuality club in the Northwest,
is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles
that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet
ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869
rcdc@teleport com wwwrcdc org.)
Sappho Social Club is a group of women 40 years
and older building community through social and cul
tural activities. (thesapphosocialclub@yahoo com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social
gathenng for gay and bi men who are interested in
a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle A vanety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday.
(veggieguys@aol. com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter
of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors ndmg clinics and takes
day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N
Whitaker Road www hevanet com/chama/wow)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross country
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking
(PO Box 2201,
Portland.
OR 97208-2201
www adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to |Oin Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group, (wwwamarondragons org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women Participants are responsible for providing
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OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, nvers and bays of north
west
Oregon
and
southwest Washington.
(www outkayaking. org)
Portland Gay fr Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime
(3:30 pm 4030 Nt Halsey St. Mailing address
PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242 503-722 0438
pdxbowl@comcast net www pdxbowl com.)
Portland Gay Basketball Association practices at
Tubman Middle School. All skill levels welcome!
(7:30-9:30 pm Monday. 2231 N Flint Ave
pdxgayhoops@yahoo. com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests. (Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners.org
www podlandfrontrunners org)
Rosetown Ramblers. Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels. (PO Box 5352. Portland, OR 97228 5352
www rosetownramblers, com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian
scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new
recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and
other Pacific Northwest waters. (rubyredflippers@
yahoo com www rubyredflippers org.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordmat
ing efforts for Outgames and Gay Games, holds
monthly meetings for those wanting to participate
(503-736-3292 www teamoregon2006. org)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is
free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us!
(8 am-noon 503-788-8192 teamportlandtenms@
yahoo.com.)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization specif
ically supporting young people with sexual minority
parents. (colage@lmfamily org. www colage org)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender
identity/expression (12700 SW North Dakota St.,
Suite 180 /fl 29. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon org www glsenoregon org.)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware)
is a group of gay/tu/same-gender-loving men of color
between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities,
socials and community events among their peers.
(Kourtni 503-417-7991 www brotobropdx. org.)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject
hormones Provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger
than 23. Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm
Monday Friday 1132SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800
www outsidein org.)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also information, referral and
advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin
503-260 5792 austin@pndepro)ect org )
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop
in computer access, pool tables and an informal
place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art
support group meetings (4-9 pm Wednesday.
4-11 pm Fnday 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664
wwwsmyrc.org.)
In a Bind
How do I diplomatically divulge to dykes
that I dabble with dick?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I am single and open and having fun with lots of
different people right now. I’m giving myself a year
or two before I’d consider getting into another
serious relationship.
Although 1 label myself a 100 percent dyke, one
of my current playmates is a straight guy. It’s not a big
deal; I think of Jake as another flavor that 1 happen [o
enjoy. He’s cool and easy to be with and always ready
for sex. 1 don’t even have to talk if I don’t want to. We
have no ties to each other, so it’s fun.
The problem is that some of my other playmates
think it’s nasty that 1 see Jake regularly for sex. 1 don’t
want to stop seeing him. Generally, I’m not into lying.
So, can you think of a way that I can tell the ladies that I sometimes cozy up to dick
that would help them accept it? (We always use a condom, so STDs aren’t an issue.) It
seems to be putting a damper on my love life.
—Playing the Field
D ear P laying the F ield :
You might think of Jake as one big, juicy low-maintenance sex toy, but the other
lesbians in your life won’t be so generous. They’ll view him as an actual hairy, grunting
man—perhaps transformed in their imagination into the worst possible horror: a corporate
creep or a caveman, whichever they believe is worse—which will make them uncomfort
able, because if you have sex with him, that means you’re a lesbian who is not like them,
and what does that do to their definition of lesbians?
Worse still, maybe you actually are like them, which might indicate that they could
still harbor a secret desire to sleep with men, too, in some tiny, deep pocket of their
souls. How threatening! Some might find it necessary to disown you, to drown you, to
extinguish you from the sisterhood.
,
But you asked if you should tell your female playthings that you have sex with a man.
Well, it seems only fair to tell any sexual partner whether or not you’re having sex with
other people, but there’s no reason to specify gender. If, however, a female date asks you
directly, perhaps because she’s heard through the rumor mill that you’re a penis hound, you
shouldn’t lie and pretend that you don’t have sex with men. If you’re lucky, you’ll find an
occasional dyke who’ll actually be aroused by the thought of you sitting on a dick.
Undoubtedly, Ms. Behavior will get e-mails from bisexuals, insisting that because
you enjoy sex with Jake you’re actually bisexual and should face up to it. However, your
lack of romantic feelings for Jake coupled with your having clearly defined yourself as a
lesbian is good enough for Ms. Behavior. So, listen up, lovely bisexuals: Occasionally
dykes do sleep with men!
D ear M s . B ehavior :
1 recently took a job with an advertising agency in a large building, on the 64th floor.
Every morning on the elevator, several women from other floors flirt with me. My friends
think this is hilarious, since 1 am a gay man and always have been.
I am out at my job and generally in my life, but 1 do not see fit to “come out” during
a 45-second elevator ride. My friends say that this means 1 am closeted and that my
smiling at these women and talking with them without letting them know I’m gay
means I’m homophobic. What do you think?
—Elevator Man
D ear E levator M an :
It would be presumptuous to preemptively shout: “I’m gay! I’m gay! I love to suck
cock!” to every woman who smiles at you in the elevator.
It sounds like you’re perceived as cute and nonthreatening by this gaggle of flirting
women. This means your clueless friends are probably incorrect to assume the elevator
women believe you’re available. In fact, it’s quite likely that they're flirting with you
because you're gay.
Here's a news flash, in case your friends have been living under a big gay boulder for the
past decade: Straight women actually like gay men! They want to be friends with gay men!
Most straight women who’ve never even seen Will Grace have always wanted their own
Will. You probably seem sweet enough to qualify, which is a compliment to you.
So, no, it doesn’t sound like you’re suffering from internalized homophobia. But if you
feel compelled to prove it, you could always offer to wear a pair of Spandex culottes, sing
Liza’s greatest hits and kiss one of your male friends the whole way up to the 64th flwr. ©
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