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band and a marching band with (lag corps. Come join
us! (503 790-2170 info@rcgfb org. wwwrcgfborg.)
503-233-3557 Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-
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Gay Women's Goff Group welcomes all levels of
players (www.turfgirk com.)
Satori Man's Chorus welcomes new members of all
ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation or
musical background, to join Wednesday rehearsals.
No audition necessary. (503-299-4454 www. satori
chorus.org.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self
identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are
held on the second Saturday of the month.
(503-231-3992 dykedadi@comcast.net www lulus
pervyplayhouse. org.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest.
(Denise 503-654-3865
Lynn 503-777-2339
kelrav@rdrop. com.)
General
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group
that
meets
second
and
fourth
Thursdays.
(503-777-1376.)
Asian & Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a
nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi
Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland. OH 97232
aplg_pdx@yahoo.com)
Bad Giris is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self identified women with an empha
sis on safety and education. Workshops, discussions,
events and parties. Women of all orientations can
connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women’s
Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday
(503-972-2233. wwwpdxbadgirfs.net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recreational
motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe
and legal machinery. (503-281-4488 brmcpret@
yahoo com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both
private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and
southern British Columbia. Dinner meetings in
Portland area. (503-701-7922. casftyers@yahoo.com.
www geocities.com/casftyers)
A Common Bond is a social support network for for­
mer or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are
queer. (acbportland@webtvnet.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise
(female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First
Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of
any configuration (503-471-1515. groups yahoo com/
group/coqsure)
Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every
other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and
novices always welcome. (503-281-2076. bighnboy
@aracnet.com.)
F.A.G. POX (Femme Affinity Group Portland), a
radical activist and social group open to self-identified
femmes of all genders, seeks to create solidarity
among femmes, promote femme visibility and
combat femmephobia in the community at large.
(www notsorry org/fagpdx)
50-1- lesbian social group for women meets on the
third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm 503-642-3360
or 503-286-3575.)
FTM Pacific NW OR&WA is a social and discussion
group
for
female-to-male
trans
men.
(groups yahoo. com/group/FTM_PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month. (flataps@yahoocom.)
Gay Men's Garden Club meets at a different garden
every month to enjoy the diversity of plant materials
that Portland offers the avid gardener. Meet others,
share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and
have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday
503-347-5477 rogermosser@comcast.net)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian
researchers to trace your family tree and tackle
"backwall" female ancestors (famhistnw@aol com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raismg
organization in the state of Oregon Meetings are the
first
two
Mondays
of
each
month.
(www rosecourt org)
Jewish Gay Men's Group please call for meeting
time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews
and their spouses, partners, significant others and
good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month
ly for potluck dinners and special events. (David
503-226-7079, ext 14, or Mike 503-331 1111.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a
fun-loving group of women who enjoy exploring all
aspects of the environment Activities include bird
watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping,
kayaking, star gazing and an occasional "lecture " No
experience
necessary
(Vicki
971-998-6040
lensnews@yahoo com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love
gardens and gardening They exchange plants, seeds,
advice and encouragement while having a good time
Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about
upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for mtellec
tual women and those who want to meet them. (Lam
Monamorous bi group forming for women in their
40s who are single and professionally employed.
(monogirls06@yahoocom.)
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club
are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's
Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave
503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo. com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organiza­
tion for gay male naturists/nuJists. Social gathering
second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omen
pdx.org www omenpdx.org.)
PDX FTM is a social group for female-to-male trans
men and their significant others, friends, families and
allies. (groups yahoo com/group/PDX_FTM.)
PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
women 35 and older to socialize while playing board
games like Scrabble and Spades, (games groups
yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's.
Come play cards and meet the gang. New players
always welcome. 16 pm. 120 NW Third Ave Mike
503-641 7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice
group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reach
es out to Latinos and Latmas by organizing events and
retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every
other Monday at Outside In. (6:30pm 1030 SW 13th
Ave Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest
pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest Regular social
and educational opportunities, including KmkFest,
Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair, (wwwpdxleather
alliance org.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday
for potluck and socializing Meet men into a leather
lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No
dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just
leather socialization for the past 21 years
(360-896-6665 plm@direcway.com.)
Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat
about a chosen book or to attend selected events.
(6:30 pm third Tuesday groups yahoo com/group!
portlandlesbianbookclub)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for
mature gay men and those who appreciate them,
coming together for social, educational and cultural
purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland. OR 97228
503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxpnmetimers@
yahoo, com. www geocities com/pdxpnmetimers)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the
Roxy Ride your bike or just come meet the group
Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark
St. wwwpdx-rrmc.com.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open
pansexual/alternative sexuality club in the North­
west, is open to all orientations, fetishes and
lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual.
Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter.
(503-972-1869 rcdc@teleport.com wwwrcdc org.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men's Group is a fun, social
gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a
healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of
activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday.
(veggieguys@aol.com.)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chapter
of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets
monthly at Elmer's, sponsors riding clinics and takes
day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N
Whitaker Road www hevanet com/chama/wow )
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross country
and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking.
(PO Box 2201,
Portland.
OR 97208-2201
www adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16
and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon
boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this
dynamic group Iwwwamaxondragonsorg)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures
for women Participants are responsible for providing
their own equipment and choosing outings appropri
ate for their skill and fitness level All skill levels
welcome. (503-772 1860 imnoregon(<i)comcast net
www geocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx)
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National Gay Basketball League practices at Chief
Joseph Elementary School in preparation to represent
Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games. (7:15-9:30 pm
Monday 2409 N Saratoga St. edmundgames@
msn com. www ngba us)
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team that's
)ust starting up in Portland. (bendoverbeckham@
gmail. com. www myspace com/netnppers)
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples
at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance
styles start the first Friday of each month: country,
swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule.
(503-236-5129.
out_dancing@yahoo.com.
home.alt.net/- outdancing.)
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea kayak
group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of
northwest Oregon and southwest Washington
(www outkayakmg. org)
Portland Gay & Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays
at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime.
(3:30 pm. 4030 NL Halsey St. Mailing address
PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242. 503 722 0438
pdxbowl@comcast net wwwpdxbowl com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay,
lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests.
(Gary mfo@portlandfrontrunners org
www.portlandfrontrunners. org)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus
levels (PO Box 5352, Portland. OR 97228 5352
www. rosetownramblers com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba
divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and
takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific
Northwest waters (rubyredfhppers@yahoo.com
www rubyredflippers org.)
Soccer players capable of participating in 2006 Gay
Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for adult league
in Portland (Carlos 503 282-4907 gaygames soccer
@myway.com.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordinating
efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay
Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for
those wanting to participate
(503-736-3292.
www teamoregon2006 org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome First time is free,
subsequent times are $7 Please join us! (8am-noon
503-788-8192 teamportlandtenms@yahoo. com.)
YOUTH
Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization
specifically supporting young people with sexual
minority parents. (colage@lmfamily org www
colage.org.)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and respected,
regardless of sexual orientation or gender identi­
ty/ expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite
180 #129, Tigard. OR 97223 503 525-1177
glsen@glsenoregon.org www glsenoregon org)
House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b
Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving
men of color between 16 and 25 who want to
engage in activities, socials and community events
among their peers. (Kourtm 503-417-7991.
www brotobropdx org.)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can’t
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle
exchange services that include those who inject
hormones Provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger and for those HIV-positive and younger
than 23. Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm
Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503 535 3800
www outsidein. org)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also information, referral and
advocacy services in Washington County (Austin
503-260-5792. austm@pridepro/ect org)
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC)
offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to
gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger Drop
in computer access, pool tables and an informal
place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art
support group meetings (4 9 pm Wednesday.
4-11 pm Friday 2100 Si Belmont St 503 872 9664
www.smyrc.org.)
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35
Bringing Up
the Rear
What should I do about my girlfriend's
penchant for anal sex?
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I’ve recently started dating someone who
intimidates me sexually.
Anna has a thing for anal sex with a
dildo (with me doing her). I’d never done it
before, but the first time Anna asked me to
do it, I said, “Sure, why not?” 1 didn’t realize
she’d want me to do it every time we made
love! It's not my favorite thing, but she
loves it, so 1 usually say yes.
She sometimes lets me lick her and fuck
her the regular way, too, but only when I’m
persistent. Often, when I go to touch her, she
tries to move my hand right to the back end!
I’ve never met a woman who likes anal sex better than anything else. 1 can’t
help but wonder: If Anna and I stay together, does it mean I’m signing up for a
lifetime of anal sex? Is this a fetish?
—Butts Are OK, But I Like Pussy Better
D ear B utts A re OK, B ut I L ike P ussy B etter :
It’s hard to know if Anna’s desire for anal penetration is a preference or a
fetish. Either way, it’s a lot more ass sex than you’re used to.
Sex, like other parts of a relationship, usually involves negotiation. If it works
well, it doesn't explicitly sound like, “You do this for me and then 1’11 do this for
you.” (Or, “You can enter my front door now if you promise to knock on my back
door later.’’) Hopefully it’s more fluid than that, at least if you trust each other
and freely express what you want.
If you and Anna stay together long enough to relax, get comfortable and exper­
iment, you might find that you enjoy multiple ways of being together. (With any
luck, some of them will involve her other body parts.) Butt [sic] if it turns out that
Anna is entirely a back-door girl, you’ll have to see if you develop a taste for it.
You don’t need to figure it out right now: Live in the moment. In fact, take a
note from Anna, and relax your sphincter.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
About a year ago, I said goodbye to my friend Nic, who had used me for
money. Nic was my last friend, and 1 have spent the past year without a friend
or confidante, mainly due to my poor social skills.
Recently, I have felt a strong urge to contact Nic. It is often overwhelming.
I am not the only one who has felt alone. Scott, my ex-boyfriend, just wrote
me an e-mail with the closing, “I love you so much.”
How do 1 deal with these needs without skidding backward?
—JoeS.
D ear J oe S.:
You haven’t offered a lot of information, so it’s hard to tell how Nic was using
you. Did he treat you like an ATM/sugar daddy, or might you have overreacted
to his borrowing money one too many times?
The phrasing of your last sentence (“How do 1 deal with these needs without
skidding backward”) is interesting. Do you equate your need for friendship with
weakness? What do you mean by “skidding backward”? Do you fear that you can’t
say no to Nic if he asks for money, or are you concerned with some other sort of
skidding? When you’re with Nic, do you automatically resume bad social
behavior—say, shcxiting drugs and blowing icky men for money—or are you
talking about emotional despair? Unfortunate fashion choices?
In any case, what’s up with Nic being your “last friend”? Are the people in
your life really that disposable? Your issues seem to leave you feeling isolated and
desperate. If your social skills are as poor as you say and you’re unable to make
new friends, you'll probably need assistance that goes far deeper than just joining
the local queer cycling dub or marching band.
Get thee to a therapist! It’s time for you to discuss why it’s so difficult for you to
sustain friendships and why you’re so confused about your ex-boyfriend Scott. Here’s
a pointer: Start from the very beginning. (We re talking Mommy’s hx»bs.) ©
M eryi . C ohn is the author of Do What 1 Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay and
Lesbian Etiquette. Signed copies are available directly from the author. Send
questions or correspondence to mshehaeior@aol.com.