JUNE 16. 2006 COMPLETE SPIRITUALITY AND NONMETRO LISTINGS AVAILABLE ONLINE AT WWW.JUSTOUT.COM Swamp Thing join Wednesday rehearsals. No audition necessary. 1503-299-4454. www. satorichorus. org.) 40s who are single and professionally employed. (monogirls06@yahoo. com.) (Denise 503-654-3865 kelrav@rdrop. com.) General Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck Club are the first and third Friday of each month at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. 19 pm-midnight. 439 NW Third Ave. 503-224-8446 orleatherfrat@yahoo.com.) National Gay Basketball League practices at Chief Joseph Elementary School in preparation to repre­ sent Oregon in the 2006 Gay Games. (7:15-9:30pm Monday. 2409 N Saratoga St edmundgaines@ msn.com. www.ngba.us.) Asian & Pacific Islander Lesbians and Gays is a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events. Friendly environment to meet and connect with oth­ er API. (PO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232 aplg _pdx@yahoo.com.) Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an emphasis on safety and education. Workshops, dis­ cussions, events and parties. Women of all orienta­ tions can connect and ask questions during the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at 7 pm every second Tuesday. 1503-972-2233 www.pdxbadgirls.net.) Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social opportunities for gay men interested in recreational motorcycle touring and promotes education on safe and legal machinery. (503-281-4488. brmcprez@ yahoo.com.) Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators, both private and professional, in Washington, Oregon and southern British Columbia. Dinner meet­ ings in Portland area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@ yahoo, com. www. geocities, com/casflyers.) A Common Bond is a social support network for for­ mer or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.) Coqsure is a social group for people who were assigned a female sex at birth but identify otherwise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king, etc.). First Sunday meetings are open to partners and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515. groups.yahoo, com/group/coqsure.) Dungeon Men PDX hosts a men's S/M party every other month in a Portland dungeon. Masters and novices always welcome. (503-281-2076 bighn- boy@aracnet. com.) 50+ lesbian social group for women meets on the third Saturday of the month. (4-7pm. 503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.) FTM Pacific NW OR & WA is a social and discus­ sion group for female-to-male trans men. (groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM_PacificNW.) Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35 and older as well as their friends and loved ones, holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each month. (503-639-7488. flataps@yahoo.com.) Gay Men s Garden Club meets at a different garden every month to enjoy the diversity of plant materials that Portland offers the avid gardener. Meet others, share ideas, trade plants, show off your garden, and have some fun outdoors! (11 am-1 pm first Sunday. 503-347-5477. rogermosser@comcast. net.) Genealogy group forming. Gather with other lesbian researchers to trace your family tree and tackle "brickwall" female ancestors, (famhistnw@aol.com.) Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the old­ est gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-raising organ­ ization in the state of Oregon. Meetings are the first two Mondays of each month, (www.rosecourt.org.) Jewish Gay Men's Group— please call for meeting time and place. (503-246-5939 efraimlevi@aol.com.) Keshet is a social connection group for queer Jews and their spouses, partners, significant others and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It meets month­ ly for potluck dinners and special events. (David 503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike 503-331-1111.) Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS) is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy exploring all aspects of the environment. Activities include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology, camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasional ''lecture.' No experience necessary. (Vicki 971-998-6040 lensnews@yahoo.com.) Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who love gardens and gardening. They exchange plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while having a good time. Call for a copy of the newsletter and information about upcoming events. (Linda 503-909-2002.) Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for intel­ lectual women and those who want to meet them. (Lani 503-233-3557. Join listserv at LesbianswDegrees-subscribe@yahoogroups com.) Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for self­ identifying women who are into S/M. Play parties are held on the second Saturday of the month. (503-231 -3992. dykedadi@comcast. net. www. luluspervyplayhouse. org.) Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive group that meets second and fourth Thursdays. (503-777-1376.) Monamorous bi group forming for women in their Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social organi­ zation for gay male naturists/nudists. Social gather­ ing second Saturday of every month. (omenpdx@omenpdx.org www.omenpdx.org.) PDXJTM is a social group for female-to-male trans men and their significant others, friends, families and allies. (groups.yahoo.com/group/PDX_FTM.) POX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent women 35 and older to socialize while playing board games like Scrabble and Spades, (games.groups yahoo.com/ group/PdxLesboNerds.) The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang. New players always welcome. (6 pm. 120 NW Third Ave. Mike 503-641-7224.) Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by organizing events and retreats and advocating HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th Ave. Hugo 503-997-8615 or Audencio 503-261-5463.) Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social and support group for bi and questioning women. (503-347-5817. portlandbiwomen@comcast. net. www. portlandbiwomen. free servers, com.) Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest pan- sexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular social and educational opportunities, including KinkFest, Leather Ball and Fall Vendors Fair. (www.pdxleatheralliance.org.) Portland Leather Men meet every second Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather happenings. No dues, no formal organization, no officers or board, just leather socialization for the past 21 years. (360-896-6665. plm@direcway. com.) Lynn 503-777-2339. Net Rippers is a gay men’s indoor soccer team that's just starting up in Portland, (bendoverbeck- ham @gmail. com. www. my space com/netrippers.) Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex couples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different dance styles start the first Friday of each month: country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for schedule. (503-236-5129 out_dancing@yahoo.com. home, att. net/-outdancing.) OutKayaking, Portland’s gay and lesbian sea kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays of north­ west Oregon and southwest Washington. (www. out kayaking, org.) Pacific Coast Boating Club provides opportunities for gay and lesbian boaters to come together for fun on local fivers and promotes safe boating, (pac- coastboatdub@comcast. net.) Portland Gay & Lesbian Community Bowling Association is in its 28th season! Meets Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome anytime. (3:30 pm. 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242. 503-722-0438 pdxbowl@comcast.net. www.pdxbowl.com.) Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and inter­ ests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners.org . www.portlandfrontrunners. org.) Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian square dance club, dances at mainstream and plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR 97228-5352. www. rosetownramblers, com.) Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal and other Pacific Northwest waters, (rubyredflippers@yahoo.com. www. rubyredflippers. org.) Portland Lesbian Book Club gathers monthly to chat about a chosen book or to attend selected events. (6:30pm third Tuesday, groups.yahoo.com/ group/portlandlesbianbookclub.) Soccer players capable of participating in 2006 Gay Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for adult league in Portland. (Carlos 503-282-4907. gay games _soccer@myway. com.) Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group for mature gay men and those who appreciate them, coming together for social, educational and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland, OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506 pdxprimetimers@ yahoo, com. www. geocities, com/pdxprimetimers) Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordinat­ ing efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly meetings for those wanting to participate. (503-736-3292 www. teamoregon2006. org.) Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday 1121 SW Stark St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.) Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pansex- ual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest, is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meetings, workshops and newsletter (503-972-1869. rcdc@teleport.com www.rcdc.org.) Soyboys Vegetarian Men s Group is a fun, social gathering for gay and bi men who are interested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle. A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on the last Saturday. (veggieguys@aol.com.) Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver chap­ ter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors nding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm second Thursday 9848 N Whitaker Road wwwhevanet.com/chama/wow.) Physical Recreation Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities year round, including hiking, walking, cross country and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain biking. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201. www.adventuregroup org.) Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites women 16 and older to join Portland's only out lesbian dragon boat team Be part of the fun and fitness with this dynamic group, (www.amazondragons org.) The Forest Group outings are cooperative adventures for women. Participants are responsible for providing their own equipment and choosing out­ ings appropriate for their skill and fitness level. All skill levels welcome. (503-772-1860. imnoregon@com- cast.net. wwwgeocities com/ncc 1127/forestpdx.) Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of players, (www turfgirlz.com.) Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest. Just Out is published on the first and third Friday of every month. The deadline for submissions is 14 days prior to publication OutReach listings of up to 50 words are provided free of charge to orgamza tions and groups specifically serving the sexual minorities community. All list ings are subject to editing, and inclusion is subject to space limitations, rele­ vance and receipt by deadline Listings expire once a year (in July), and submissions run from the date received until the next scheduled expiration date Listings are automatically deleted upon jUStOUt 47 Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us! (8 am-noon 503-788-8192. teamportlandtennis@yahoo.com.) YOUTH Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere (COLAGE) is the only international organization specif­ ically supporting young people with sexual minority parents, (colage@lmfamily.org. www.colage.org.) Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network (GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of every school community is valued and respected, regardless of sexual orientation or gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North Dakota St., Suite 180 it 129, Tigard, OR 97223. 503-525-1177. glsen@glsenoregon.org. www.glsenoregon.org.) House of MOCHA (Men of Color Healthy b Aware) is a group of gay/bi/same-gender-loving men of color between 16 and 25 who want to engage in activities, socials and community events among their peers. (Kourtni 503-417-7991 www. brotobropdx. org.) Outside Iq operates a clinic for anyone who can't qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as needle exchange services that include those who inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-po6itive and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave 503-535-3800 www. outsidein. org.) Pride Project brings together Washington County queer and questioning youth to plan and attend monthly social events. Also information, referral and advocacy services in Washington County. (Austin 503-260-5792. austin@pridepro)ect org.) Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center (SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23 and younger. Drop- in computer access, pool tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly trans, leadership and art support group meetings. (4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc.org.) expiration. To ensure uninterrupted listing, please submit updated information at least a month prior to the expiration date Complete listings are available online at www.justout.com. Send listings to Just Out (attn Calendar), PO Box 14400, Portland, OR 97293 0400 Fax submissions to 503-236 1257 ore-mailjustouttiujustout.com. Submissions cannot be accepted over the phone Please type your announcements and include full contact information Drama junkie drowns in a small and polluted pond D ear M s . B ehavior : Last year 1 got hot for Hildie, an older woman at work. It was all going fine, though 1 knew she had an ex who was still in the pic­ ture, this other woman named Sari. Sometimes Hildie got sick of being with me and would go be with Sari. This made me feel sick inside, so I tried to stay away. Usually at some point at work, Hildie would come back around to me and 1 couldn’t resist her, so we would start hooking up again. Recently 1 met Sari, through other friends. BY MERYL COHN I see her pretty regularly at this bar where 1 hang out. Anyway, she is now interested in me. She keeps asking me over to her place. I am tempted to go and hook up with Sari, though 1 know this will make Hildie mad. But right now Hildie isn’t with me or with Sari, so maybe there’s no harm? Do you have advice? —MM Ms. Behavior D ear MM: Listen up, you giant black hole of lesbian drama. Way back, when you were a tiny little nematode, your mother told you to keep your paws away from the stove. Did you listen? Nah. Perhaps you crawled around with burned and bandaged hands. Maybe your mother said, “1 told you so.” Will you be able to hear suggestions about how to handle your sex triangle? Unlikely, since it sounds like you thrive on this type of intrigue. You have to be willing to give up the thrill of conquest, loss, despair, etc. It might feel like a lot to give up. You say you’re tempted to hook up with Sari though you “know it will make Hildie mad.” But actually, the real reason you want to hook up with Sari is because it will make Hildie mad. There will be no real satisfaction in this for you, however, because Sari is using you to stimulate Hildie s interest in her. Once Sari gets a reac­ tion from Hildie, they’ll get back together and you’ll be discarded. That’s the small picture. The bigger picture is that you chose this. You need to ask yourself why. The bottom line is that you seem to be swimming in a small and polluted pond. Climb out of the swampy water and look around. The need for drama comes from inside you, but if you can extract yourself from this situation, you might be able to make different choices. D ear M s . B ehavior : 1 belong to a gay bridge club that meets regularly at different people’s homes. Last time, at my apartment, there was a low turnout, only eight of us. After the game, I noticed some small items were missing from my bathroom: some fancy soaps, some expensive hair products and two tiny paintings that have sentimental value. Should I send an e-mail to the people who attended the bridge game, asking them if they know what happened to these items? Or should I send a note to the entire list describing what happened and who was in attendance to warn others who trustingly open up their homes to this group? 1 feel like 1 have to quit the group, so 1 don’t care if people get mad at me. My friends think I should call each of the eight people singly and ask them if they stole the items, but I doubt they’d confess, so what would be the point? —Trumped D ear T rumped : No one is going to admit to having stolen your bathroom booty. Bridge players bluff well and thieves are g