APRIL 7, 2006
fall and spring concerts. Subgroups include the
Rose City Swing band and a marching band with
flag corps. Come join us! 1503-790-2170
info@rcgfb.org. www.rcgfb.org.)
Satori Men's Chorus welcomes new members of
all ages and races, regardless of sexual orientation
or musical background, to join Wednesday
rehearsals. No audition necessary. {503-299-4454
www. satorichorus, org.)
General
Asian b Pacific Hander Lesbians and Gays is
a nonprofit community voice for gay, lesbian and
bi Asian and Pacific Islanders. Activities include
potlucks, recreational outings and cultural events.
Friendly environment to meet and connect with
other API. (PO Box 12661, Portland, OR 97232.
aplg j)dx@yahoo.comj
Bad Girls is a social and educational leather and
B/D/S/M club for self-identified women with an
emphasis on safety and education. Workshops,
discussions, events and parties. Women of all
orientations can connect and ask questions dur
ing the Kinky Women's Welcoming Munch at
7 pm every second Tuesday. (503-972-2233.
www. pdxbadgirls. net.)
Border Riders Motorcycle Club provides social
opportunities for gay men interested in recre
ational motorcycle touring and promotes educa
tion on safe and legal machinery. (503-281-4488.
brmcprez@yahoo.com.)
Cascade Flyers are gay, lesbian and bi aviators,
both private and professional, in Washington,
Oregon and southern Bntish Columbia. Dinner meet
ings in Portland area. (503-701-7922. casflyers@
yahoo.com. www.geocities.com/casflyers.)
A Common Bond is a social support network for
former or questioning Jehovah's Witnesses who
are queer, (acbportland@webtv.net.)
Coqsure is a social group for people who were
assigned a female sex at birth but identify other
wise (female-to-male, genderqueer, drag king,
etc.}. First Sunday meetings are open to partners
and families of any configuration. (503-471-1515.
groups, yahoo, com/group/coqsure.)
50+ lesbian social group for women meets on
the third Saturday of the month. (4-7 pm.
503-642-3360 or 503-286-3575.)
FTM Pacific NW OR b WA is a social and dis
cussion group for female-to-male trans men.
(groups, yahoo. com/group/FTM_PacificNW)
Funny Ladies, a social group for nice lesbians 35
and older as well as their friends and loved ones,
holds potlucks on the second Saturday of each
month. (503-639-7488. flataps@yahoo.com.)
Genealogy group forming. Gather with other les
bian researchers to trace your family tree and
tackle "brickwall" female ancestors, (famhistnw
@aol.com.)
Imperial Sovereign Rose Court of Oregon is the
oldest gay, lesbian, bi and trans social/fund-rais-
ing organization in the state of Oregon. Meetings
are the first two Mondays of each month.
(www. rosecourt, org)
Jewish Gay Men's Group— please call for
meeting time and place. (503-246-5939
efraimlevi@ aol.com.)
Keshet is a social connection group for queer
Jews and their spouses, partners, significant oth
ers and good friends, whether Jewish or not. It
meets monthly for potluck dinners and special
events. (David 503-226-7079, ext. 14, or Mike
503-331-1111.)
Lesbians Enjoying Nature and Science (LENS)
is a fun-loving group of women who enjoy explor
ing all aspects of the environment. Activities
include bird watching, nature walks, archaeology,
camping, kayaking, star gazing and an occasional
"lecture." No experience necessary. (Laurie
503-977-2903. Iensnews@yahoo.com.)
Lesbian Garden Club is a group of women who
love gardens and gardening. They exchange
plants, seeds, advice and encouragement while
having a good time. Call for a copy of the
newsletter and information about upcoming
events, (Linda 503-909-2002.)
Lesbians with Degrees is a social group for
intellectual women and those who want to
meet them. (Lam 503-233-3557. Join listserv at
LesbianswDegreessubscnbe@yahoogroupscom.)
Lulu's Pervy Playhouse is a social group for
self-identifying women who are into S/M. Play
parties are held on the second Saturday of the
month. (503-231-3992. dykedadi@comcast.net.
www. luluspervyplayhouse org.)
Men Over 40 is a small, socially supportive
group that meets second and fourth Thursdays.
(503-777-1376.)
Monamorous bi group forming for women in
their 40s who are single and professionally
employed. (monogirls06@yahoocomj
Night in Black Leather and The Leather Duck
Club are the first and third Friday of each month
at Gail's Dirty Duck Tavern. (9 pm-midmght
439
NW
Third
Ave.
503-224-8446.
orleatherfrat@yahoo. com.)
Oregon Men Enjoying Naturism is a social
organization for gay male naturists/nudists. Social
gathering second Saturday of every month.
(omenpdx@omenpdx. org www. omenpdx org.)
PDXFTM is a social group for female-to-male
trans men and their significant others, friends,
families
and
allies,
(groups.yahoo.com/
group/PDXFTM.)
PDX Lesbo Nerds invite interesting, intelligent
women 35 and older to socialize while playing
board games like Scrabble and Spades, (games
groups, yahoo com/group/PdxLesboNerds.)
The gay Pinochle Group meets Sundays at
Hobo's. Come play cards and meet the gang.
New players always welcome. (6 pm 120 NW
Third Ave Mike 503-641-7224.)
Poder Latino is a nonprofit social community
voice group for gay, lesbian, bi and trans people
that reaches out to Latinos and Latinas by
organizing events and retreats and advocating
HIV prevention. Meets every other Monday at
Outside In. (6:30 pm. 1030 SW 13th Ave. Hugo
503-997-8615 orAudencio 503-261-5463.)
Portland Bisexual Women is a discussion, social
and support group for bi and questioning women.
(503-347-5817. portlandbiwomen@comcast. net.
www. portlandbiwomen. free servers, com.)
Portland Leather Alliance is one of the largest
pansexual, nonprofit B/D/S/M, leather and fetish
lifestyle organizations in the Northwest. Regular
social and educational opportunities, including
KinkFest, Leather Ball, kind auctions and Fall
Vendors Fair, (www.pdxleatheralliance.org.)
Portland Leather Men meet every second
Saturday for potluck and socializing. Meet men into
a leather lifestyle and keep abreast of leather hap
penings. No dues, no formal organization, no offi
cers or board, just leather socialization for the past
21 years. (360-896-6665. plm@direcway.com.)
Portland Metro Prime Timers is a social group
for mature gay men and those who appreciate
them, coming together for social, educational
and cultural purposes. (PO Box 5884, Portland,
OR 97228 503-286-4613 or 360-693-5506
pdxprimetimers@yahoo.com. www.geocities.
com/pdxprimetimers.)
(Denise 503-654-3865.
kelrav@rdrop. com.)
Lynn 503-777-2339.
National Gay Basketball League is forming a
chapter in Portland to represent Oregon in the 2006
Gay Games, (www.ngba.us/portland/pdx.htmj
Net Rippers is a gay men's indoor soccer team
that's
just
starting
up
in
Portland.
(bendoverbeckham@gmail. com www. myspace
com/netrippers J
Out Dancing teaches dancing for same-sex cou
ples at Ankeny Street Studio. Classes for different
dance styles start the first Friday of each month:
country, swing, tango, cha-cha, etc. Call for sched
ule. (503-236-5129 out_dancmg@yahoo.com.
home. att. net/-outdancing)
OutKayaking, Portland's gay and lesbian sea
kayak group, explores the lakes, rivers and bays
of
Northwest
Oregon
and
Southwest
Washington, (www.outkayaking.org.)
Pacific Coast Boating Club provides opportu
nities for gay and lesbian boaters to come
together for fun on local rivers and promotes
safe boating, (paccoastboatclub@comcast.net.)
Portland Avalanche rugby team is always
seeking new players for practices Tuesdays and
Thursdays through May 17 at East Delta Park.
(6:30-8:30 pm.
10737 N Union Court.
503-715-3122. www. avalancherugby, org.)
Portland Gay b Lesbian Community Bowling
Association is in its 28th season! Meets
Sundays at Hollywood Bowl. Drop-ins welcome
anytime. (3:30 pm 4030 NE Halsey St. Mailing
address: PO Box 42034, Portland, OR 97242.
503-722-0438
pdxbowl@comcast.net.
www. pdxbo wl. com.)
Whether you're a running novice or a seasoned
marathoner, Portland Frontrunners welcomes
gay, lesbian, bi and trans people of all abilities and
interests. (Gary info@portlandfrontrunners org.
www. portlandfrontrunners, org.)
Rosetown Ramblers, Portland's gay and lesbian
square dance club, dances at mainstream and
plus levels. (PO Box 5352, Portland, OR
97228-5352. www rosetownramblers, com.)
Ruby Red Flippers, a group of gay and lesbian
scuba divers in the Portland area, teaches new
recruits and takes dives in Tacoma, Hood Canal
and other Pacific Northwest waters, (rubyredflip-
pers@yahoo. com. www. rubyredflippers. org.)
Soccer players capable of participating in 2006
Gay Games July 15-22 in Chicago sought for
adult league in Portland. (Carlos 503-282-4907.
gaygames _soccer@myway. com)
Rainriders Motorcycle Club meets weekly at
the Roxy. Ride your bike or just come meet the
group. Everyone welcome. (10 am Sunday.
1121 SW Stark St. www.pdx-rrmc.com.)
Team Oregon, the umbrella sports group coordi
nating efforts for Outgames 2006 in Montreal and
Gay Games 2006 in Chicago, holds monthly
meetings for those wanting to participate.
(503-736-3292 www. teamoregon2006 org.)
Rose City Discussion Club, the largest open pan
sexual/alternative sexuality club in the Northwest,
is open to all orientations, fetishes and lifestyles
that are safe, sane and consensual. Monthly meet
ings, workshops and newsletter. (503-972-1869
rcdc@teleport.com. www.rcdc.org.)
Team Tennis meets Sundays at University of
Portland. All levels of play welcome. First time is
free, subsequent times are $7. Please join us!
(8 am-noon. 503-788-8192. teamportlandtennis
@yahoo.com.)
Soyboys Vegetarian Men’s Group is a fun,
social gathering for gay and bi men who are inter
ested in a healthy vegetarian or vegan lifestyle.
A variety of activities and monthly potlucks on
the last Saturday, (veggieguys@aol.com)
Women of the Rivers, the Portland/Vancouver
chapter of the Women on Wheels Motorcycle
Club, meets monthly at Elmer's, sponsors
riding clinics and takes day trips. (7:15 pm
second Thursday. 9848 N Whitaker Road,
www. hevanet. com/chama/wow.)
Physical Recreation
Adventure Group organizes a variety of activities
year round, including hiking, walking, cross-coun
try and downhill skiing, rafting and mountain bik
ing. (PO Box 2201, Portland, OR 97208-2201
www. adventuregroup org.)
Amazon Dragons Paddling Club invites
women 16 and older to join Portland's only out
lesbian dragon boat team. Be part of the fun
and fitness with this dynamic group.
(www. amazondragons, org.)
The Forest Group outings are cooperative
adventures for women. Participants are respon
sible for providing their own equipment and
choosing outings appropriate for their skill and
fitness level. All skill levels welcome.
(503-772-1860
imnoregon@comcast.net.
wwwgeocities.com/ncc 1127/forestpdxJ
Gay Women's Golf Group welcomes all levels of
players, (www turfgirlz.com.)
Lesbian Equestrian Group gets together for
equestrian activities in the Pacific Northwest.
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Children of Lesbians and Gays Everywhere
(COLAGE) is the only international organization
specifically supporting young people with sexual
minority
parents.
(colage@lmfamily.org.
wwwcolage.org.)
Gay, Lesbian and Straight Education Network
(GLSEN) strives to assure that each member of
every school community is valued and
respected, regardless of sexual orientation or
gender identity/expression. (12700 SW North
Dakota St., Suite 180 ft 129, Tigard, OR 97223.
503-525-1177.
glsen@glsenoregon org
www. glsenoregon org.)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as nee
dle exchange services that include those who
inject hormones. Provide transitional housing for
youth 20 and younger and for those HIV-positive
and younger than 23. Need volunteers of all ages
(10 am-6 pm Monday Friday 1132 SW 13th Ave.
503-535-3800 www. outs idem org.)
Pride Project brings together Washington County
queer and questioning youth to plan and attend
monthly social events. Also information, referral
and advocacy services in Washington County.
(Austin 503 260-5792 austm@pndeproiect.org)
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center
(SMYRC) offers support, recreation, counseling
and referral to gay, lesbian, bi and trans kids 23
and younger. Drop-in computer access, pool
tables and an informal place to hang out. Weekly
trans, leadership and art support group meetings.
(4-9 pm Wednesday, 4-11 pm Friday. 2100 SE
Belmont St. 503-872-9664 wwwsmyrc.org)
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JUStQUt 35
News Flash
Ms. B translates partner's message
for mismatched lesbian
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My partner, Stacy, and I moved in together a year
ago. Shortly after we moved in, she revealed that she
didn’t feel sexually attracted to me. 1 wasn’t surprised.
I’d felt relieved by our lack of chemistry; overwhelm
ing desire has felt like a nuisance in past relationships
because it makes it hard for me to control my emo
tions (e.g., jealousy and confusion). So, 1 thought a
relationship based on companionship and mutual
respect, not lust and drama, would help me feel more
emotionally stable.
But Stacy feels something is missing. She wants
that crazy, out-of-control feeling that sometimes hap
BY MERYL COHN
pens at the beginning of a relationship and says if she
can’t have it with me, this relationship isn’t for her. She’s already attracted to someone at work.
1 tell Stacy that she’s shortsighted, that the crazy, out-of-control feeling usually only lasts for
six months and that what’s really important is what remains after that goes. We get along well,
have similar values and enjoy each other’s company. Isn’t that what really matters?
Can this relationship work? I’d like to stick around because 1 think Stacy will eventually
realize how good we are together. My friends say that I’m crazy and that 1 should leave before
I get hurt. What do you think?
—Sensible Susan
Ms. Behavior
D ear S ensible S usan :
Hello? You are missing Stacy’s very important news flash. Sometimes it’s hard to hear
unpleasant information, so perhaps you need Ms. Behavior to translate: Stacy needs some
thing that she’s not getting, and she’s not going to stay with you. She wants hot sex, which
you and she don’t have together. That’s the take-home message, so please consider it and do
what you need to do to take care of yourself. Self-preservation in this case means ending the
relationship before Stacy comes home with a rosy glow, smelling like her co-worker.
A lack of sexual chemistry isn’t your fault; it doesn’t mean you’re not interesting or appeal
ing. It just means you and Stacy don’t click sexually, which apparently matters very much to
Stacy, even if it doesn’t matter to you. You’d like to ignore Stacy’s feelings because you don’t
want what she’s saying to be true. From your point of view, overwhelming sexual attraction
causes trouble. From Stacy’s point of view, it’s essential to a good relationship. This difference
in values is unworkable.
Talk to a therapist about your inability to maintain emotional balance in the face of sex
ual chemistry. If you work on this for a while, maybe next time you won’t be afraid to fall in
love with someone who is a good companion but also makes you breathe hard.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My boyfriend and I got married in Massachusetts last summer. We’ve been together for
several years, so 1 didn’t think marriage would change our day-to-day lives.
However, Alan has started acting odd: He has unexplained hours away from home, he is
often rude to me, or at least brusque, and once he got very drunk and started calling me
names. He has apologized profusely for these outbursts, and 1 forgive him. Alan works in a
high-pressure industry and often feels stressed.
Still, 1 am beginning to wonder if I made a big mistake. Could our marriage be responsi
ble for the change in Alan’s behavior?
—Unhappy
D ear U nhappy :
A deepening commitment can cause all sorts of bizarre behavior, particularly if you’re not
talking to each other about what the deepening commitment means. What do each of you
believe about marriage? For some people, getting married is a matter of ensuring their legal
rights or an opportunity to get cheaper health insurance. For others, it’s a public romantic
proclamation to a loved one or an oath of “forever.” And of course, there are those shallow
people who just like being the center of attention at a party.
It sounds like Alan hasn’t expressed his perhaps-unconscious feelings of conflict. Does he
suddenly feel suffocated by thejdea of marriage? Is he attaching some scary meaning to it? Since
he’s profusely remorseful for his outbursts, it sounds like he wants to work it out with you.
Talk with him about what marriage means to him during a calm time. Allow him to dis
cuss his fear or ambivalence, and try not to freak out, no matter what he says. This might be
a gixxl time for couples’ therapy. Hopefully, you won’t have to divorce him to allow him to
reclaim his equilibrium. ©
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