SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Koinonia Catholic Community is a progressive,
Trinity United Methodist Church is for all people
small faith community that gathers weekly to celebrate
who seek the grace of God and desire to work for
Eucharist at Bridgeport United Church of Christ A wel
peace and justice Child care available (10.30 am
coming congregation, Catholic in tradition and Ecumenical
Ainsworth United Church of Christ >s a multi
racial. multicultural, open and affirming church Sunday
in membership. (6 pm Sunday 621 NE 76th Ave
Sunday 3915 SE Steele St 503-777-3901 7(7/04)
University Park United Methodist Church
503-699-0473 www kornoniacommunity org) (7/05)
believes in giving to the community, canng fix one
worship is at 10 am; church school for children runs
Longview United Methodist Church is welcom
another and making a difference one person at a time
concurrently. (2941 NE Ainsworth St 503-284-8767.
ing and reconciling. (10 am Sunday. 2851 30th Ave
Come celebrate God's diversity with us! (10 am
aucc@teleport.com.) (7/04)
360-425-4927) (7/04)
Sunday 4775 N Lombard St. The Rev Jeannie
Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for
Metanoia Peace Community United Methodist
Knepper 503-289- 7843) (7/04)
Christian meditation and prayer (7 30 pm Thursday
Church is a "house church" that bnngs gay and straight
Waveriy Heights United Church of Christ is open
503-281-0722.) (7/05)
together Daily morning prayer and Sunday evening worshp
and affirming with worship, children's school and child care
(503-281-3697 www tearsoup com/metanoia ) (7/05)
(10 am summer, 11 am school year 3300 SE Woodward
Bridgeport United Church of Christ is a commu
St 503-238-1337 pastor@wavedyuccorg
nity of progressive, political people explonng and cele
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
brating the Christian faith We are sexual minonty and
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
straight, multicultural and multiracial, and our children
are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday 621 NE 76th
9 and 11 am Sunday school for children is held during
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist Congregation
the 11 am service. (2400 NE Broadway 503-281-8868
is an open and liberal religious community offenng inter-
Ave 503-258-0992 www bndgeportucc org) (7/04)
mfo@mccportlandcom wwwmccportlandcom) (7/04)
generational services and religious education for youth
City Church Portland's "oldest gay-affirming
Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland offers
Christian church," offers a spirit-driven church for
several weekly gathenngs Everyone welcome1 (10 am
today's diverse generations. (10 am Sunday commu
Sunday. 7.30 am Tuesday and Thursday 7 30 pm
nion and worship service, 6:30 pm Sunday worship
Wednesday meditation 2025 SE Yamhill St.
service 3830 SE 62nd Ave. 503- 775-5024) (7/04).
503-232-8064 www nichiren-shu.org/portland.) (7/05)
Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming
egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation in Portland
congregation. (11 am Sunday 12727 SE Market St.
Meets several times a month at Portland State University
503-254-6380) Cl 104)
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth is a center
inclusive spritual philosophy similar to 12-step, Unity and
Religious Science Impromptu wedding ceremonies avail
dren’s religious education. (1030 am 1133 NE 181st
able (503-777-0727 wwwportlandcenterorg.)(7/05)
www.eastrose.org.) (7/05)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month with
potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
God liolds worship services and maintains a library of
growth and community. Coffee hours start 9 30 am
materials Learn how the Divine Spirit works throughout
Saturdays at 3 Friends Coffeehouse, 201 SE 12th Ave
your own life in today's world. (10 am Sunday 7904 SE
(503-235-0826. otter@pcez com.) (7/05)
Seventh Day Adventist Kinship is a support organi
zation for queer people, their families and fnends (PO Box
mentoring, therapy, spiritual direction, classes, work
7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-7320 866-732-5677.
shops and retreats (enneagrampdx@aolcom.
office@sdakinshiporg www sdakmship.org) (7/04)
congregation that values and affirms the sacredness of
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes Schedule of events available All women are
all people We invite and encourage everyone to find a
welcome. (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing
place in the family of God. (10:15am Sunday
address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207
27400 SEStark St. Troutdale. 503-661-4520.) (7/05)
503-736-3297. sistersp@teleport.com ) (7/04)
First Unitarian Church of Portland is an open and
Southminster Presbyterian Church is an active
affirming liberal religious community offenng a wide range of
member of the Community of Welcoming Congrega
programs to nurture spiritual growth, community and social
justice. Sunday service 9 and 11 am (1011 SW 12th Ave.
tions Sunday school and nursery care. Classes, com
503-228-6389 www firstumtananportiand org.) (7/05)
interests (9-9.30 am Sunday chapel service. 10 am
Nen Catholic Church celebrates an affirming Mass fol
lowed by a social (7:30 pm Friday Paulist Center.
Washington: Spirituality
Abundant Life Center is A Community for Spiritual
10006 NE Ninth Ave, Vancouver The Rev Kathleen
Vengin 360-573 2626 www abundant-life-center org)
(7/05)
East Vancouver United Methodist Church is
reconciling and welcoming. (10 am Sunday
5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693-4761.) (7/04)
munity service activities and events for all ages and
First Congregational Church United Church of
Christ, holds services in an open and affirming congre
gation (10 am Sunday worship, 11:15 am adult educa
tion. 1220 NE 68th St., Vancouver. 360-693-1476
Sunday community worship service 12250 SW Denney
vanucc@aol.com.) (7/04)
Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073. staff@southmm.com
Metropolitan Church of the Gentle Shepherd
www.southmin.com.) (7/04)
in Vancouver welcomes you. (10:30 am and 6:30 pm
St. Andrew Catholic Church invites all to join a
Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets quarterly for
a walking meditation and wisdom circle on the labyrinth
(www gaylabyrinth com.) (7/04)
Broadway St The Rev. Harriet Barshofsky
diverse faith community for prayer and fellowship. (9.30 am
Sunday 806 NE Alberta St. 503-281-4429.) (7/04)
and friends Various locations throughout Oregon
Fellowship a Welcoming Congregation, provides a
Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional,
liturgical worship where we expenence God's reconcil
ing love that sets all people free. (9 and 11 am Sunday.
(Bruce 503-286-9111. brucepdxor@attbi com
1315 SW Park Ave 503-227-2439
wwwintegntyusa.org.) (7/04)
360-695-1480.) (7105)
Michael Servitus Unitarian Universalist
St James Lutheran Church a Reconciled in
Integrity is a group of sexual minonty Episcopalians
home for the liberal religious spint (9.30 and 11:15 am
Sunday 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver 360-695-1891)
(7/05)
www stiameslutheranportland org.) (7/05)
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses spiritual direc
tors from various world religious traditions, who are
available for guidance, classes and retreats (Second
Floor. 3910 SE 11th Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been welcom
ing all people since 1863 (12:10 pm Wednesday and
7:45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and child care at
10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave. 503-223-6424 ) (7/OS)
www.interTaithspiritualcenter.com.) (7/05)
Keshet Portland is a potluck group for Jewish mem
bers of the sexual minorities community and their part
ners. spouses and supporters. Its purpose is to help
build bridges with the larger Jewish community
Monthly social, religious and cultural events (David
or Laney 503-226-7079. ext 14.) (7/04)
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Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church. United Church of
Christ is an open and affirming congregation offenng wor
ship and church school Child care provided and wheelchair
Trinity Episcopal Cathedral a welcoming and
affirming congregation, invites all to worship services
and ongoing programs in spntual development, com
munity outreach, music and arts education. (8 am
Sunday Rite I chapel service 10 am Sunday Rite II
accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning hour. 10:30 am wor
ship 700 Manon St NE. Salem 503-363-3660 ) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church Two Rivers is a
cathedral service 147 NW 19th Ave 503-222-9811
Christian church with primary outreach m the sexual minori
ties community (630pm Sunday 1166 Oak St.. Eugene )
www tnmty-episcopalorg) (7/05)
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younger and for those HIV positive and younger than
23. Need votunteera of aS ages. (IOam-6 pm
Monday-Friday 1132SW 13th Ave. 503-535-3800
Washington: Youth
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www formimstry.com/usorucofcucocc ) (7/05)
Sunday worship. Bible study follows am worship. 2200
2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955) (7/05)
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United Church of Christ Congregational is an open
Living, transforming lives with love. (10 am Sunday
SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations,
Gay and Lesbian Outreach (GALO) of St Philip
Central Oregon: Spirituality
111 E Fifth St. 541 296-2909 ucccongl@netcnct net.
The Enneagram Community of Portland offers
Faith United Methodist Church is a welcoming
2025 NE 23rd Ave.. Gresham 503-665-8741 7(7/05)
Sunday school. 10:30 am worship (9:30 am summer!
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spmtual
wwwenneagramportland.com.) (7/05)
and heterosexual people who wish to worship in a
Christ-centered, warm, canng. multiage/race/cultural
and affirming congregation in The Dalles. (920 am adult
Eckankar—Religion of the Light and Sound of
Milwaukie Ave. 503-233-1595. www eckankar org.) (7/05)
Zion United Church of Christ an open and
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bi. trans
for worship, growth and leadership that adheres to an all-
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and chil
Ave.. Gresham 503-665-2628. office@eastroseorg.
members and nurture spmtual growth living by Unitarian
Universalist principles (4 pm Sunday 3915 SE Steele
faith community. (11 am Sunday 110 30 am summer!.
Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187. Portland. OR
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist a
and adults We welcome gay. lesbian, bi and trans
St 503-777-3704 www wyeast.pnwduua.org.) (7/05)
Congregation P’nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant,
97242-0187. 503-248-4500. wwwpnaiorpdx.org.) (7/05)
www waverlyucc.org.) (7/05)
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queer and questioning youth to pian and attend monthly
social events. Also information, refonral and advocacy
services’in Washington Comity, (MeHy MtíMK
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to gay. tesben. bi. trwis and questioniriq youth m
Vancouver. Wash Meets every Tuesday m the base
ment of Youth Houae (58 pm ti l2Coi»nbia$l
John 360-6951325.) (7/(15)
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Willamette Valley: Youth
(SMYRC) Offens support and recreation to gay. les
Education
ffatworfc (GLSEJD strive« to assure that each mem
ber of every school community is valued and respect
ed, regardless of sexual orientation or gender
identity/expneesian (12700 SW North Dakota St.
Suite 180 »129. Tigertl. 0(397223 503-525-1177.
glsen@gisenoregon.org . www.gkencxegon.org) (7/05)
MdMQueii. a program of Losra Mates a Famiy.
provides advocacy to sexual minority youth Offers
resources »nd support In the community and the school
systems, with a focus on support for queer and quea-
tioning youth of color (Kristy503-228-3892
bian. bi and trans youth 23 and younger Drop-in com
puter access, pod tablee and an mfonnoi ptace to hang
out. Weekly support meetings include Trans Youth
Group ami the creative group Person^ Deity Prow.
(^8 pm Monday and Weátesday. 4 f
Friday
and Saturday 2100 SE B^nont St 503-872-9664
TTY503-2319286 www onyrc org)(7/(S)
r’iuttigueer@lmlamilyorg)(7.l04)
OMtaMto I m operates a ciinc for anyone who cant
quaSy for the Oregon Health Plan as wei as needle
exchange services that mdude those who inject hor
mones. Provide transitional houatng for youth 20 and
Yooth Group f-x ages
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information and fun «Eugene. Free, confidential, adult-
facilitated (Drop it 4-6 pm Friday Amazon Community
Center. 2700 H»yard St 541-684^466.) (7/05)
Lesbfon. Gay( Bisexual. TroMqpendee Youth
Group for ages 25 and younger meets every Monday
in Eugene (5 pm. Komoma Center, 1414 Kincaid St.
541-346-1134.7(7/04)
Eastern Oregon: Youth
LMef offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian, bi.
trans and queefiorwg youth m Eastern Oregon. (1021
SW 5tf> Ave. Ontario 541-889-3119 or 866-248-8369.
eockOeocil org www eod.org.) (7/06)
Send your
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Gay people have
gotten horribly greedy
these days. Have you
noticed?
I’m writing because I
can’t keep quiet about
all the greed that I see
in people. Now, every
one who gets married
signs up for bridal reg
istries! 1 swear I’m going
poor with all the pre
sents I HAVE to buy.
What can a poor
gay person do? Is it OK
to not buy from the registry? I’d rather
make them a painting or something
cheaper than a toaster or expensive
pot and pans. Please let me know how
to get around breaking my bank.
—Poor Dude in Boston
Out W About Youth meet ev®y Thursday m Corvafis
(7 pm. 1165 Monroe Ave 541-7543906.) (7/04)
Rafabo* You* is a safe, confidential suppcrt group
for young gay men. lesbians, bisexuals, transgender,
questioning inri frioids in Salem. (68 pm Wednesday
690 State St www. safernrambowyouth org 7 (7/04)
outreach listings to:
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D ear P oor D ude : n B oston :
Something in your tone leads Ms.
Behavior to suspect that you’re bitter,
not poor. Could it be because you
haven’t yet found someone you’d like
to marry?
Straight people have signed up for
bridal registries (and kept Tiffany’s in
business) since the Flintstone era and
no one ever complained. But now that
queers can finally wed, everyone’s
grousing, as if their gay and lesbian
friends are mugging them for gifts.
You don’t need to buy expensive
presents for your “greedy” marrying
friends; a small token gift or even a
nice card with your good wishes is suf
ficient. It is, after all, the thought that
counts, but your thoughts don’t sound
so sweet right now.
Some marrying couples, especially
those who’ve lived together for years,
include a “no presents” notation on
their invitation or ask that donations
are made to a favorite charity instead.
Perhaps you and your future fiancée
will do something like this.
Other inexpensive gift possibilities:
Write a sting (if you know how), cook
the happy couple a fabulous meal or
two, or take some photos for their
album. But don’t give them a painting
as a wedding gift unless you’re sure
your paintings are lovely. You’ll need
an objective opinion about this, so ask
someone other than your mother, your
partner or your therapist.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
I work for an arts production compa
ny with a very progressive attitude, so,
naturally, there are several gay and les
bian employees, and everyone (gay and
straight alike) seems to expect us to
have some kind of rainbow camaraderie.
I do get along very well with most of
my gay and lesbian co-workers; in fact,
one of them is one of my closest friends.
I’m writing because rhe behavior of
another of my co-workers has managed
to drive some of us away from interact
ing with her. For example, even casual
questions like “How was yixir week
end?” or “Did you watch The Sopranos
last night ?” lead to her giving 30-
minute responses, and
every excruciating
detail is about her; she
shows absolutely no
interest in hearing any
thing about anyone
else’s lives.
Her self-involve
ment seems to have no
limits: When Vermont
began offering civil
unions, she and her
partner raced cross
country for a ceremo
ny that we are still
reminded about; they
are now planning to get married in
Massachusetts as well.
And when rhe gay baby bœm
became popular—you guessed it, her
partner was inseminated, and the
result was twins, who then became the
focus of every conversation. Before the
twins, the women raised dogs, which
she blabbed on and on were the best
breed on the planet. The same goes for
their obsession with material gixxls:
They have the fastest computer, the
biggest home theater, etc. Frankly, my
dear, we don’t give a damn.
My co-worker is a nice enough
person, but her All About Me atti
tude has caused some of us to go to
great lengths to avoid speaking to her,
which makes me uncomfortable—
especially since she’s my immediate
supervisor. Do I try to inform her of
the problem? If so, how?
—10 Words or Less
D ear 10 W ords or L ess :
A corrective conversation might
work with a babbling underling, par
ticularly if the problem is a concrete
one, like lateness or wearing tube tops
to work. But you won’t cure your
supervisor’s Narcissistic Personality
Disorder with a little chat, and it’s not
a good idea to try.
She probably thinks her stories are
fascinating, and telling her otherwise
would make her insecure, which
would force her to turn you into her
nemesis (for telling her the truth) or
her hero (for telling her the truth).
Either role is lousy at work.
If you feel she’s interfering with
your productivity, you could speak
with someone in human resources or
with someone at a higher level. If
she’s merely annoying, you’ll probably
just need to live with it and perhaps
use it as a Rinding expenence with
your co-workers who also suffer.
And be glad that she moves from
chatter about canines to televisions to
babies to marriage, rather than just one
thing, like endless tales about her apncot
poodles ami their new hairstyles.
© Meryl Cohn 2004
MERYL C JOHN is the authirr <if Do What
I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to Gay
and Lesbian Etiquette (Hou^rm
Mifflin). Signed copies are avaiLiHe
directly from the authnr. Send questions or
correspondence to mshehavior@aol.com.