■—“la december S. 2003 » COMMENTARY The IN publication for the OUT population F ounded 1983 • J ay B rown V ol. 21 N o. 3 and R enee L a C hance D ecem b er 5 , 2 0 0 3 FEATURE BREAKING THE BINARY BARRIER: The myths, the madness and the mirror of bisexuality p 22 NEWS NORTHWEST • Mayor Vera Katz honors legendary drag queen. Cascade AIDS Project volunteers; presenting a new way of thinking about trans identity pp 9-15 NATIONAL • Federal Marriage Amendment introduced in U.S. Senate; 7-year-old boy scolded in front of classmates for talking about his lesbian moms pp 17-19 WORLD • Gay ex-president o f Zimbabwe dies pp 20-21 ARTS AND C U L T U R E WHAT'S POPPIN'T • Fddie Murphy blows it again P 32 FILM • Die, Moinmie, Die and Prey fo r Rock & Roll P 33 THEATER • Toad City Productions takes on Rumi P 35 DIVERSIONS • Mumble Divas do Romantic Mythtakes; no more Fairchild; Confluence Fills your cold winter heart with song; Jesus has two mommies; PGMC takes a holiday tour p 36 COLTORE • Grant High pulls off feminism, ’80s glam and drag queens— with no complaints p 37 MOSIC • Freshly rehabbed from a meth addiction, Rufus Wainwright peers .MX) years into the future p 39 COLUMNS M S. BEHAVIOR • To tell or not to tell p 31 by M arty D a v is Happier holidays ’Tis the season to be yourself chixYse to lixik elsewhere for activities and companionship. Again, hat’s your pleasure this holiday season.7 Are you a there is a place for you. Many of our community groups and organiza­ "ho ho ho,” happy holidays type or more of a “hah tions have events scheduled during the holidays— everything from humbug".7 Whatever it is that jingles your hells, outdixir hikes to game nights to single events at coffeehouses. there can he no doubt about it: The holidays, and If you don’t find what you’re looking for or what you need, don’t accompanying stresses, are everywhere we look. give up or become disheartened. Instead, create your own opportunity. These coming days and weeks and what we make of them represent Write a personal ad, take the initiative, he hold. All personal ads don’t another of life’s choices. They can he whatever it is you wish them to have to be looking for romance, sex and love. Ask for what you want. be (w'ithin reasonable gay and lesbian boundaries, of course). Ask tor what you need. Does the idea of playing cards on a wintry For the shoppers and gift-givers among us, we present to you the night tickle your toes.7 Want to go howling or roller-skating, play board Just Out Gilt Guide, our annual tutorial and ode to consumer delights. games, learn chess.7 Tut out the word. Invite some strangers— yes, Should economic constraints, religious diversity or personal prefer­ strangers, as in “friends you haven’t met yet”— to join you. ences disallow holiday shopping, here’s another plan for your consider­ Meet in a friendly, safe-to-all space. Meet at Touchstone Coffee ation. Dispense with the checkkxik, grab your Just Out instead, and House, Blend, 3 Friends or Haven. All o f these are head off to your favorite coffee shop to relax, ponder and plan for the many holiday offerings that our It you are one who races comfortable, welcoming spaces that encourage and ./ .,i r cater to friends, both new and old. These are places delightful and creative community presents and offers We season WIW re0rf meant for conversation and fun. W hile enjoying the as its gift to you. Among the offerings available to you is the annu­ COnCemS or distress sPace> though, please do remember to buy a beverage al Portland Gay Men’s Chorus holiday concert. . • J L ' an^* yes, a pastry, too. After all, it is the holidays. pleOSe COnSider thot A word, if I might, to those groups that list their Blending seasonal favorites with choral mastery and a touch of camp, this could well he your only festive t h a r a n r o n n n n r f n n i iia c meetings and events in the calendar, with an invitation for newcomers to join. Please, consider that it can often seasonal opportunity to sing along with hunky men. Were ure opportunities This year you have multiple opportunities to attend ¡O t fin d tn O cowfort o n d intimidating for someone new to join a “group in i i . j . i . . progress.” Be friendly, be welcoming. I’ve been to far too the concert; hopefully one will fit into your schedule. QllieS (Wring WIS liwe. many such gatherings where I’ve seen newcomers tenta­ This truly is the best of the best. tively stand off from the circle and not know how to For a complete listing of concert schedules, approach or enter. If you’re a group inviting new people to attend, including Confluence and PGMC, please check out the calendar sec­ please have a plan, have a greeter, take the time to acknowledge that tion of Just Out. Our Dec. 19 issue will present complete details on all new person, smile, welcome and encourage them to approach and join. the events planned for New Year’s Eve. It sounds like such a simple thing, hut too often the welcome isn’t Shopping, concerts, dances and parties fit into many of our lives, offered, and someone who ventured out with hopes of meeting new hut not all of us. For some the holidays can he a time of loneliness, friends returns home feeling lonelier than when he or she left. separation and anxiety. If you are one who faces the season with fear, Remember when you were this new person.7 New to town, newly out, concerns or distress, please consider that there are opportunities for newly single.7 Remember how it felt.7 A simple smile and hello can he finding comfort and allies during this time. Should you he inclined to a wonderful holiday gift to someone. find solace in the traditional religious aspects of Christmas, please is season do not get locked into or become emotionally trapped hy know that a multitude of welcoming congregations invite you to join false expectations. It is, after all, your holiday, ttx). Make it he what you in their services and their activities. Many of these churches have spe­ need it to he. If your reason for celebrating this year is all about The Lord cial programs and services geared toward gay, lesbian, hi and trans folk. o f the Rings, then so he it. See the damn movie five times if that’s what Many have ads in this issue that detail programs and services, while you want to do. There are no rules. Celebrate your time, your pleasure others are listed in the OutReach section of the paper. and your enjoyments. Celebrate yourself this holiday season. jHI W hile many among us do find comfort in religion, others will ü J*J U j 'J J EPIQOEEREAN • A winter's meal p 34 00T WITH IT! • Say hi to Hcyd P 36 THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO M ARC . A night at the opera p 41 Ju s t o u t U pub lish ed o n th e firs t an d th ird F r i­ d ay of ea ch m o n th . 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