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ADVICE
SPIRITUALITY
Metro: Spirituality
Ainxwortii United Church of Christ is a multi
racial, multicultural, open and affirming church
Sunday *o rsh p is at 10 am. church school for chj-
dren runs concurrently (2941 NE Ainsworth St
503 284 8767 auccQteleporl com ) (7/04)
Anawim Community of gay men m eets weekly
for Chnstian meditation and prayer (730 pm
Thursday 503 281-0722) (7/04)
Tha City Church Portland's 'o ld est gay affirming
Chnstian church." offers a spint driven church for
today s diverse generations (10 am Sunday commu
nion and worship service. 630 pm Sunday worship
service 3830 S E 62nd Ave 503 775-5024 ) (7/04)
Congregation P’nai Or (Faces of Light) is a vibrant,
egalitarian. Jewish Renewal congregation n Portland
Meets several tunes a month at Portland State University
Campus Ministries. (PO Box 42187. Portland. OP
972420187 503-248-4500 www pnaiorpdx org.)(7104)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist
a welcoming congregation, offers Sunday
service and children s religious education.
The Nichiren Buddhist Temple of Portland
offers several weekty gatherings Everyone welcome 1
(10 am Sunday. 730 am Tuesday and Thursday
730 pm Wednesday meditation 2025 S E YamhA St
503-2328064 www rucNren shu org/portland 7(7/04)
Northwest Two-Spirit Society of Portland
welcom es new members from the native LG BT (Two-
Spm ts) community to (om our council and organize or
attend monthly meetings (Amanda 503869 0076 or
thesebraidsOgo com ) (7/04)
Peace Church of the Brethren is a welcoming
congregation (11 am Sunday 12727 S E Market St
se rvice 12250 S W Denney Road. Beaverton
503-644 2073 staffOsouthmm com
w w w southmm com ) (7/04)
(930 am Sunday 806 NE Alberta St
503 281 -4429 ) (7/04)
11 am Sunday 1315 SW Park Ave 503 2272439
www st/ameshitheranportlandorg) (7/04)
Portland Center for Spiritual Growth ■$ a
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863 (12 10 pm Wednesday
and 7 45 and 10 am Sunday Sunday school and
child care at 10 am 1432 SW 13th Ave
503-223-6424 7(7/04)
Portland Radical Faeries meet twice a month
with potlucks and circles at the full moon and the new
moon Open to all men seeking alternative spintual
growth and community Coffee hours start 9 30 am
Saturdays at 3 Fnends Coffeehouse. 201 SE 12th
Ave (503-235-0826 olterOpcer com ) (7/04)
Waveriy Heights UCC is open and affirming with
w orshfi. children's school and child care (10 am
Sunday 3300 SE Woodward St 503238 1337
www waverlyucc.org.) (7/04)
Wy'east Unitarian Universalist
Congregation is an open and liberal
religious community offenng intergenera
tional services and religious education
for children, youth and adults It wel
com es gay, lesbian, bi and trans mem
bers. It nurtures spintual growth and pro
motes living by Umtanan Universalist
pnnciples (4 pm Sunday. 5 pm in sum
(10 30 am Sunday 1133 NE 181st A ve.
Gresham 503-665 2628 eastroseG
teleport com www easlrose.org ) ( 7/04)
Faith United Methodist Church is a
welcoming community of Chnstians in
Troutdale that values and encourages all
people in finding a place of belonging m
the family of God Sunday worship at
1015 am; Adult Education at 9 am. chil
dren and youth at 10 30 am W ednesday
Prayers 6 6 30 pm (27400 SE Stark St
503 661 4520)1 7/04)
mer 3915 S E Steele St 503 777-3704
www wyeast pnwd uua org 7(7/04)
Zkm United Church of Christ, an
open and affirming congregation, is open
to gay. lesbian, tx. trans and heterosexu
al people who wish to worship in a
Chnst centered, warm, caring,
m ultiage/race/cultural faith community
First Unitarian Church of Portland is
an open and affirming liberal religious com
munity offenng a wide range of programs
to nurture spintual growth, community and
social justice Sunday service 9 and 11 am
(I I am Sunday 2025 NE 23rd Ave.
Gresham 503 665 8741.) (7/04)
(1011 SW 12th Ave 503-228-6389
www hrstumtananportland org ) (7/04)
Washington:
Spirituality
Gay Men's Labyrinth Project meets
quarterly for a walking meditation and
wisdom circle on the labynnth
Abundant Life Center is A New
Thought Community for spintual awaken
mg and transforming lives through love
A safe place where children learn to
embody spintual pnnciples (10 am
(Dale 503 2332026. ext 3
www interfaithspmtualcenter com J (7/04)
Integrity is a group of sexual minonty
Episcopalians and fnends. Various locations
throughout Oregon (Bruce 503 286-9111.
Sunday 10006 NE Ninth Ave
Vancouver Rev Kathleen Vengm,
360 573 2626) (T/04)
bnicepdxor@attbi com
www mtegntyusa org ) (7/04)
Interfaith Spiritual Center houses
East Vancouver United Methodist
Church is reconciling and welcoming
(10 am Sunday 5701 MacArthur Btvd
360 6934761. 7(7/04)
spintual directors from various world reli
gious traditions, who are available for guid
ance. classes and retreats (Second Floor.
3910 SE 11th Ave 503233 2026. ext. 3
www interfaithspmtualcenter com.) (7/04)
Keshet Portland is a potluck group for
Jew ish members of the sexual mmonties
community and their partners, spouses
and supporters Its purpose is to help build
bndges with the larger Jew ish community.
Monthly social, religious and cultural
events (David or Laney 503 226 7079.
ext 14 7(7/04)
First Congregational Church
United Church of Chnst. holds services
in an open and affirming congregation
You lo v e d th e m o vie, n o w see th e p lay. A rta tta c k T h e a tre
p re s e n ts J e ffr e y th ro u g h D e c . 1.
Lesbian Christian Fellowship meets for study
and social outings Committed C hnstians and still-
unsures welcome (Barbara 503 760-5791. ) (7/04)
Longview United Methodist Church is wel
coming and reconciling (10 am Sunday 2851 30th
Ave 360 425 4927 ) (7 /04>
Metanoia Peace Community United
Methodist Church is a 'house church' that
bnngs gay and straight together Daily morning
prayer and Sunday evening worship (5 03-281-3697
www learsoup com/metanoia.) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church of
Portland holds ecum enical Sunday morning w or
ship services at 9 and 11 am Sunday school for
children is held dunng the 11 am service. (2400 NE
Broadway 503-281 8868 mfoGmccportland com
www mccportland com.) (7/04)
YOUTH
Metro: Youth
Flavors, a social support group for sexual minonty
youth of color 21 and younger, meets on weekends for
food and socializing Regular events and activities.
Flavors is a project of Love Makes a Family's MultiQueer
program and is supported ty Brother to Brother. (Jaye
503-2283892 or layeQImfamjyorg) (7/04)
The Gay. Lesbian and Straight Education
Network (GLSEN) lights to end anti-gay h as in K-12
schools (12700 SW North Dakota St. Suite 180.
»129. Tigard. OR 97223 503-525-1177.
g/seoOgkeooregon org. www g/senoceqonorg.) (7/04)
MultiQueer a program of Love M akes a Famty. pro
vides advocacy to sexual mnonty youth. O ffers
resources and support in the community and the
school system s, with a focus on sipport for LG BTQ
youth of color. (Jaye 503 2283892 or
p/eOknfamty org.) (7/04)
Outside In operates a cim c for anyone who can't
quaMy for the Oregon Health Plan as we* as neede
exchange services that ndude those who inject hor
mooes Can provide transitional housing for youth 20
and younger as w el as far those HfV+ and younger
than 23. Needs volunteers of s i ages (10 am 6 pm
MondayFnday 1132 SW 13th Ave. 903S358800.
- WWW outvdam org >(7/04)
Seventh-Day Adventist Kinship is a support
organization for LG B T people, their fam ilies and
fnends (PO Box 7320. Laguna Niguel. CA 92607-
7320 866-732-5677 ofhceQsdakmship org
www. sdakinship. org.) (7/04)
SisterSpirit offers women s spintuality celebra
tions, discussion groups, a drumming circle, work
shops and classes Schedule of events available All
women are welcome (Suite 102. 3430 SE Belmont
(10 am Sunday worship. II 15 am adult
education 1220 NE 68th St..
Vancouver 360-693-1476
vanuccQao! com ) (7/04)
Metropolitan Community Church
of the Gentle Shepherd m
Vancouver welcom es you (10 30 am
and 630 pm Sunday worship. 9 am Sunday Bible
study 2200 Broadway The Rev Harriet Barshofsky
360695-1480) (7/04)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship, a Welcoming Congregation, provides a
home for the liberal religious spint (9 30 and
11:15 am Sunday 4505 E 18th S t . Vancouver
360 695 1891) (7/04)
St Mailing address PO Box 9246. Portland. OR
97207 503 736-3297 sistersp&teleportcom.)
(7/04)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
Southminster Presbyterian Church is an
First Congregational Church United Church of
Chnst is an open and affirming congregation offenng
worship and church school Child care provided and
wheelchair accessible (9 30 am Sunday learning
active member of the Com m unity of W elcom ing
Congregations Sunday school and nursery care
C la ss e s, comm unity se rvice activities and events
for all ages and in terests (9 9 3 0 am Sunday
chapel service. 10 am Sunday community worship
Sexual Minority Youth Resource Center a
program of C a sca d e Behavioral H ealthCare. offers
support and recreation to gay. lesbian, bi and trans
youth 23 and younger O ffers drop-in com puter
a cce ss pool tables and an informal place to hang
out W eekty support m eetings includes Trans Youth
Group and the creative group Personal D eity Proxy.
(4 8 pm Monday and Wednesday. 4 pm midnight
Friday and Saturday 2100 S E Belmont St.
503872 9664 TTY 503-231 9286
www smyrc org) O ther program s include:
Clackam as County Sexual Minority Youth
Connection (C O SM YC ) provides opportunities
for queer and questioning youth ages 23 and
younger to get together for free, fun and support
ive social activities O ffers one-on-one support,
referrals and nform etion on HIV and S T D preven
tion and resources for adults who work with
LG B T Q youth (503-9690060
cosmycyouthOyahoo com ) Pride P reject brings
together W ashington County queer and question
ing youth to plan and attend monthly social events
A lso inform ation, referral and advocacy se rvices si
W ashington County. (Motty 503260-5792
moAyUpndeprofect org.) (7/04)
Eastern Oregon: Youth
Try a little guidance
before giving him the boot
St. James Lutheran Church a Reconciled m
Chnst congregation, welcom es all people for tradi
tional, liturgical worship where we experience God's
reconciling love that sets all people free (9 and
503 254 6380) (7/04)
center for worship, growth and leadership that
adheres to an all inclusive spintual philosophy similar
to 12-step. Unity and Religious Science
(503 777-0727. wwwportlandcenter org 7(7/04)
Bum lay
St. Andrew Catholic Church invites al to (om a
diverse faith community for prayer and fetowship
hour. 10 30 am worship 700 Manon St NE. Salem
503-363 3660 ) (7/04)
Living offers support and advocacy to gay. lesbian,
bi. trans and questioning youth in Eastern Oregon
(541 889-3119 or 8662488369 eoci^eoUorg.
www eoc4.org.) (7/04)
Washington: Youth
Triple Point o ffers education, support and advo
cacy to gay. lesbian, bl. trans and questioning
youth In Vancouver. W ash M eets 6-8 pm
Tuesdays in the basem ent of Youth House.
1112 Colum bia S t. In Vancouver. (John
3606961325 7(7/04 )
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, B L '
Questioning Youtii Group forages 13 to 18
offers support, information and fun in Eugene Free,
confidential, adult fscitated . (Drop In 4-6 pm Fnday.
Amazon Community Center. 2700 Hilyard St
5416843466)0/04)
, Gey, Bisexuel. Ti
Group for ages 25 end younger meets every
(5 pm. Koinonta Cernir.
1414 Ùncmé St 541-346-1134)0/04)
Monday in Eugene
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My boyfriend, Eddie,
and I have an open
relationship that often
lands a third party right
between us in the
Last night, Eddies
long-distance friend
Joe, a cute young
twinkie he met a few
years ago and has long
since lusted for, plopped
down on our pillow and
said, “I'm horny!”
Needless to say, we happily hopped on
Joe and got down to it.
Here’s the problem: Eddie and 1 did
all the work, while little Joe laid hack
and enjoyed himself (and ultimately
climaxed on my boyfriends chest).
Neither Eddie nor I came.
Joe will be back for several visits this
year and undoubtedly expects the same
treatment, which would be fine if he
were to give a little back. I think we’d
be doing Joe and his future tricks a favor
by letting him know
that he’s selfish.
Eddie thinks we
shouldn’t hurst the
kid’s ballixin by
telling him he’s a
hum lay, hut, then
again, Eddie has
been so hot to get
even a glimpse of
Joe’s nakedness that
he couldn’t care less
about the mechan
ics of it. Me? I’m
less impressed with
skinny Joe’s white
ass, and I’d like to
tell the kid he
ought to at least
learn to he a little
concerned with the
needs of others.
What do you think?
mer girlfriend Louise
broke up five years ago.
Louise left Sara in a par
ticularly harsh and ugly
way. It was sad.
The two of them don’t
speak, and 1 ended up
sticking by Sara, who
went through a very diffi
cult time trying to pull
herself together. Finally,
Sara is feeling better, has a
new girlfriend and is hack
in her art studio.
Last week, I got a
phone call out of the blue from Louise,
who says she has several of Sara’s old
paintings at her parent’s house in
Florida and wants to know what she
should do with them. She says she has
tried writing to Sara to make arrange
ments, hut Sara won’t respond.
I’m not sure what to do. I’m afraid
to tell Sara, who can he paranoid
sometimes; she may think that I’m col
luding with Louise behind her hack.
The thing is, her artwork means every
thing to her, hut I
also know that Sara
wouldn’t want to
have anything to do
with Louise ever
again, so she’d proba-
hly just let the paint-
Eddie thinks
we shouldn't
burst the kid's
balloon by telling
hlm he's a bum
I don’t feel capa
ble of making that
lay, but..Eddie decision for her.
has been so hot Should I tell Sara
that Louise called?
to get even a Or
should 1 just call
hack and tell
glimpse of Joe's Louise
her to take a hike?
nakedness that
— Concerned Friend
he couldn't care
less about the
It’s hard to tell if
mechanics
Louise sincerely
— Unimpressed by Ordinary Joe
D e a r U n im p r e s s e d b y O r d in a r y J o e :
Your irritation sounds like it may
he more than just the chafing of a
night of sex with no release. Are you
hugged by your boyfriend’s erotic inter
est in the twinkie? If so, your expert
assessment of the lad’s performance
may be less than objective.
But perhaps you’re truly interested
in being a wise older “daddy" who can
give Joe tips on being a bet-ter lover—
either in the form of lectures or private
lessons. Your sexual guidance may
indeed improve Joe’s performance, ulti
mately transforming him into a mag
nificent lover; it may also inspire grati
tude from legions of Joe’s future tricks.
Ms. Behavior suspects that your
training in frottage and oral and anal
pleasure among young men is probably
legendary in your city—and perhaps
the entire region.
D e a r M s . B e h a v io r :
My best friend, Sara, and her for
D ear C oncerned
F r ie n d :
wants to give Sara
her paintings or if she just wants to stir
up stime drama.
Getting the paintings to Sara
should he simple if that’s what Louise
really wants to do. Suggest to Louise
that she insure the paintings and ship
them to Sara. This won’t require direct
contact, and receiving the artwork in
the mail won’t force Sara to make a
choice between recovering her paint
ings and maintaining her much-
needed distance from her ex.
If Louise refuses to pay to send them
and you’d like to help, you can offer to
spring for shipping. Any other action
would probably he a dive into the quag
mire of ex-girlfriend drama. JH
© Meryl Cohn 2003
M e r y l C o h n is the author of Do
W hat I Say: Ms. Behavior’s Guide to
Gay and Lesbian Etiquette
(Houghton Mifflin). Signed copies are
available direedy from the author. Send
questions or correspondence to
msbehavurr&aol com.' •
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