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juna 1.2001
Anawim Community of gay men meets weekly for
Christian meditation and prayer. (7:30 pm Thursday.
503-281 0722.) (1 1 /0 0
Christ congregation, welcomes all people for traditional
liturgical worship. (9 and 11 am Sunday. 1315 SW Park
Ave. 503-227-2439.) (11/01)
Bridgeport Community Church (U C O is a
St. Philip Neri Catholic Church offers a gay-pos
growing community of progressive, political people
exploring and celebrating the Christian faith. We are
multicultural, lesbian, gay. bi and straight, and our chil
dren are valued members. (10:30 am Sunday. 621 NE
76th Ave. 503-258-0992.) (6/01)
itive community for Catholics and their friends. Mass at
7:30 pm Fridays followed by a social. (Paulist Center,
2408 SE 16th Ave. 503-231-4955.) ( 11/01)
Metro: Youth
Expression is a free art/expression support group for
GLBT youth between 13 and 18 years oid who live in
the Gresham area. Leam, grow and have fun!
Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (5-7pm Friday.
Jonathan 503-238-0780, ext. 244.) (6/01)
St. Stephen's Episcopal Church has been wel
coming all people since 1863. (12.1Opm Wednesday
and 7:45 and 10 am Sunday. Sunday school and child
care at 10 am. Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street.
503-223-6424.) ( 11/01)
Community of St. Andrew invites all to join a
diverse Catholic faith community for prayer and fellow
ship. (9:30 am Sunday. 806 NE Alberta St.
503281-4429.H U /01)
Outside In operates a clinic for anyone who can't
munity following Christ's teachings and celebrating
diversity and truth without trappings for 75 years.
Sunday school and child care available Potluck first
Sundays. (10 am Sunday. 4525 SE Stark St.
503-234-7441. unityprtlnd@wwdb.org.) (11/01)-
qualify for the Oregon Health Plan as well as a needle
exchange service. It also has some transitional housing
for youth 20 and younger as well as for youth who are
HIV-positive and younger than 23. It also plays host to
V O IC E S (Voices of Individual and Community
Empowerment from the Streets), a self-support group
for queer youth. (10 am-6 pm Monday-Friday. 1236 SW
Salmon St. 503-223-4121.) (6/01)
Unity Church of Portland is an all-inclusive com
Dignity Portland meets for Mass Sundays at 4 pm
at St. Stephens Episcopal Church followed by a social.
(Southwest 13th Avenue at Clay Street
dignitypdx@aol.com.) (6/01)
Directions Northwest (ECW R) supports GLBT
Chnstians integrate faith and sexuality through scripture
and fellowship. (PO Box 86383, Portland, OR
97286-0383. communities.msn.com/
directionnwportlandhomepage.) (6/01)
University Park United Methodist Church is a
Prids Project brings together Washington County
member of the network of reconciling congregations
and meets for worship at 10 am Sundays. (4775 N
Lombard St. 503-289-7843.)(11/01)
Eastrose Fellowship Unitarian Universalist. a
Zion United Church of Christ, an open and
lesbian, gay. bi. trans and questioning youth to plan and
attend monthly social events. Also information, referral,
support and advocacy services for Washington County.
(Molly 503-260-5792.) (6/01)
welcoming congregation, offers Sunday service and
children's religious education at 10:30 am. (1133 NE
181st Ave., Gresham. 503-665-2628.
eastrose@teleport.com.) (.11/01)
affirming congregation, is open to gay, lesbian, bisexual,
transgender and heterosexual people who wish to wor
ship in a Christ-centered, warm, caring,
m ultiage/race/cultural faith community. (11 am Sunday.
2025 NE 23rd Ave., Gresham. 503-665-8741.) (6/01)
Estacada United Methodist Church
Reconciling Congregation, where we really mean
everyone is welcome. Sunday worship at 10:30 am.
(204 SE Main St.. Estacada.) (6/01)
Washington: Spirituality
First Congregational United Church of Christ
East Vancouver United Methodist Church.
is an open and affirming congregation in the liberal
Chnstian tradition. Sunday worship is at 10:25 am, and
church school for children runs concurrently. (1126 SW
Park Ave. 503-228-7219.)(11/01)
Reconciling, welcoming. (10 am Sunday.
5701 MacArthur Blvd 360-693-4761
ourclarkcounty.columbian.com/273/.) (6/01)
Rainbow is a multicultural peer support and activity
group for gay. lesbian, bisexual, trans and questioning
youth. (4:30 pm Monday. Metropolitan Community
Church o f Portland, 2400 NE Broadway.
503-281 -8868.) (11/01)
Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Center
(SM Y R C ) offers drop-in computer access, pool tables
and an informal place to hang out and plays host to
weekly youth support groups including Windfire, Trans
Youth Group and Personal Deity Proxy (a creative
group). (4-8 pm Monday and Wednesday, 4 pm-
midnight Friday and Saturday. 2100 SE Belmont St.
503-872-9664. www.smyrc.org.)(\M01)
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ. Two Sunday services, traditional and ‘ less
First United Methodist Church of Portland, a
SM ILE is a free education/support group for GLBT
youth between 13 and 18. Leam, grow and have fun!
Sponsored by Roots and Branches. (5-6.30 pm
Thursday. Jonathan 503-238-0780, ext. 244.) (6/01)
traditional" in an open and affirming congregation.
(1220 NE 68th St.. Vancouver. 360-693-1476.) (6/01)
welcoming and reconciling congregation, believes no
one is left out in God's family. GLBT potlucks are held
monthly. (10:30 am Sunday. 1838 SW Jefferson St.
503-228-3195. www.fumcpdx.org.)(11 /0 1 )
Metropolitan Community Church of the
Gentle Shepherd. (10 am Sunday. 913 W. 13th St.,
Full Circle Temple is a place of worship for women
Youth H IV /ST D Prevention Project provides fun
and educational programs along with counseling and
testing to queer youth in a friendly, relaxed environ
ment. (503-872-9664.) (6/01)
Vancouver. 360-695-1480.) (6/01)
of all ages offering workshops, song and drum circles,
meditation rooms and altars o f celebration, incorporat
ing what you bring to share. (10 am-1 Opm Tuesday-
Sunday. 3125 E Burnside St. 503-238-0675.) (6/01)
Michael Servetus Unitarian Universalist
Fellowship a home fo r the liberal religious spirit.
YouthNet. a program of Love Makes a Family, offers
tutoring and mentoring for lesbian, gay. bi and trans
youth as well as for children of LGBT parents.
(503-227-1981.) (6/01)
(9:15 and 11 am Sunday. 4505 E 18th St.. Vancouver.
360-695-1891.)(6/01)
The God Connection Center for Worship,
Growth and Leadership invites you to celebrate
your spirituality with the Revs. Casey and Berdell
Moffett-Chaney. Liberal, practical: all are welcome.
(1 0 am Sunday 4828 N E33rd Ave 503-481-7591.)
Willamette Valley: Spirituality
First Congregational Church, United Church
of Christ, is an open and affirming congregation offer
( 11 / 01 )
ing worship and church school. Child care provided.
W heelchair accessible. (10 am Sunday. 700ManonSt.
NE, Salem. 503-363-3660.) (6/01)
Grace Space, a multidenominational spiritual center
led by the Rev. Stephanie Torres, holds Sunday evening
celebrations. (5 pm. Friends o f Multnomah. 4312 SE
Stark St. 503-287-3216.) ( 11/01)
The Gay-Straight Alliance of the Unitarian
Universalist Congregation of Salem meets for a
potluck on the third Sunday of each month. (6 pm.
5090 Center St. NE. 503-363-8716.) (6/01)
Integrity, the gay and lesbian ministry of the
Episcopal Church, meets on the second Friday of each
month in the Morrison Room at Trinity Cathedral.
Eucharist is celebrated at 6:45 pm followed by a
potluck and fellowship. (147 N W 19th Ave.
503-289-1687.) (1 1/01)
Interfaith Spiritual Community meets for inspira
tional messages, children's celebrations and joy every
Sunday at the Heart Center. We honor and celebrate all
sacred paths, recognizing each person’s divine gifts and
supporting spiritual growth, healing and enlightenment.
(6-7:30 pm. 1578 Commercial St. SE, Salem.
503-763-6030.) (6/01)
Interfaith Spiritual Center. Spiritual directors from
various world religious traditions are available for guid
ance. classes and retreats. (Second Floor, 3910 SE
l l t h Ave. 503-233-2026. ext. 3.
www.spintone.com/~isc. (11/01)
M om ingsids United Mothodist Church is a rec
onciling congregation where everyone is welcome to
participate in the full life of the congregation. (8:30 and
11 am Sunday. 3674 12th St. SE, Salem.
503-364-5013.) (6/01)
Com passionate Heart San g ha a lesbian and gay
meditation group, meets in the Buddhist Vipasana tradi
tion. (7:30-9 pm Wednesday. Flanders House, 2926 NE
Flanders St. Jon 503-239-5539.) (11/01)
Sw eat Spirit M etropolitan Community Church
(M C C ) holds worship at 11 am Sundays followed by
Lilith's Daughters is a place for goddesses, witches
and wisdom women. Beginning group to travel through
Starhawk s book Twelve Wild Swans. M eets second
and fourth Fridays in Beaverton. (Grace Young
503-643-3209.) (11/01)
coffee and fellowship as well as potluck lunches every
second Sunday. (American Legion Hall, 4774 _
Lilac Lane NE. Salem. Mailing address:
Pastor Ken Kerr. PO Box 12753,
Salem, OR 97309 503-31 5 - 7923)
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Lincoln Street United Methodist Church is an
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Meta no la Peace Community (United M ethodist) is
a ‘ house church," bringing gay and straight together.
(Daily prayer 720 am, Sunday gathering 6 pm.
2116 NE 18th Ave. 503-281-3697.
www.tearsoup.com/metanoia.) (11/01)
Metropolitan Community Church of Portland
holds ecumenical Sunday morning worship services at
9 and 11 am. Sunday school for children is held during
the 11 am worship seivice. (2400 NE Broadway
503-281 8868 info@mccportland.com.)(11 /01 )
Potter's House M inistries Life Center.
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Evangelical and charismatic Christian. (3830 SE 62nd
Ave 503-775-5024.)(6/01)
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SisterSpirit offers women's spirituality celebrations,
discussion groups, a drumming circle, workshops and
classes. Schedule of events available All women are
welcome (Suite 102, 3430 SE Belmont St. Mailing
address: PO Box 9246. Portland. OR 97207.
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503 736-3297. sistersp@teleport com.) (11/01)
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Southm instsr Presbyterian Church is a
challenging, supportive community that welcomes
all people It is the first More Light Presbytenan
Church in Oregon (10 am Sunday summer. 9 30
and 11 am Sunday winter 12250 SW Denney
Road. Beaverton 503-644-2073.) (6/01)
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open and accepting congregation of progressive
Christians. (9 am Sunday. 5145 SE Lincoln St.
503-231-1930 ) ( 1 1/01)
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Southern Oregon: Youth
The Sexual Minority Youth Recreation Group
of Klamath Falls provides support for gay. lesbian,
bi, trans and questioning youth and their allies.
(boytoy22@hotmail. com.) (6/01)
Southern Oregon Youth Outreach (SO YO ) a
group for gay, lesbian, and bi youth between 14 and 20,
meets on the first and Thursdays o f the month in
Ashland. (541-488-6990.) (6/01)
W ashington Youth
Teen to Teen Sexual Minority Youth Program
offers education, support and advocacy to gay, lesbian,
bi and trans and questioning youth in Vancouver, Wash.
Meets 6-8 pm Tuesdays and 3:30-5:30 pm Thursdays
in Suite M l00 at Cascade AIDS Project. 1104 Main St.
(Amanda 360-693-1188 ) (6/01 )
Willamette Valley: Youth
Gay, Lesbian, Bisexual, Transgender and
Questioning Youth Group for ages 13 to 18 offers
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support, information and fun. Free, confidential, drop-
in. (4 6 pm Friday. Amazon Community Center,
2700 Hilyard S t . Eugene. 541 -684 3466)
( 6 / 01 )
Lesbian, Gay, Bisexual, Transgender
Youth Group for ages 25 and younger
meets eveiy Monday (5 pm. Koinonia
Center, 1414 Kincaid S t . Eugene.
541-3461134 7(6/01)
Rainbow Youth is a support group for
gay, lesbian, bisexual, transgender and
questioning youth and their friends
between 13 and 17 years old in
the Salem-Keizer area.
(503-581 -5535 7(11/01)
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The outer limits
Overbearing mother has boundary problems
D ear M s . B ehavior :
My mother is driv
ing me crazy, and I
don’t mean in the
homophobic way you
might expect from a
woman with a flam
ing nellie of a son.
She recently outed
me to our family den
tist (moments before
a root canal). If some
one mentions plans to
redecorate, she says,
“Speaking of decora
tors, my son is gay.”
Every time she
meets a man she suspects might be
queer, she says: “You’re a homosexual,
aren’t you? Would you like to meet
my son?”
I know I should be grateful for her
support, and my friends all tell me
they’re envious, but I’m mortified.
How can I get her to stop?
—Motricidol Max
D ear M atricidal M ax :
Mommy has boundary problems
and needs a hobby. Tell her that you
appreciate her love
and support but
that you know of
others who need
it more.
The enthu
siasm you find
so humiliat
ing might
best be chan
neled into
charitable volun
teer work. For instance,
your mother could distrib
ute condoms and dental
dams at dance clubs or be
a planted gay-supportive
audience member on The
Jerry Springer Show.
You could encourage her to volun
teer at a gay and lesbian community
center, where she could hug young
queers who are rejected after coming
out to their own parents, or distribute
how-to brochures about tribadism to
baby dykes without a clue. The Boy
Scouts of America probably would
appreciate a heterosexual spokesper
son, or she could start her own
organization of Mothers Against
Stupid Homophobes.
She could become Ms. Behavior’s
personal assistant and sort through
thousands of missives from distressed
and perplexed gay men and lesbians
and bestow her blessing on their
anguished heads. Maybe she could start
a queer catering company and hire only
gay male waiters— an endless source of
dates for you— and specialize in huge,
flamboyant phallocentric desserts.
If she has other opportunities to be
seen and appreciated for her support,
perhaps she won’t inflict it all on you,
spilling details of your personal life in
inappropriate places and trying to find
you a husband. But you probably will
need to reassure her that you’re happy
about being a nellie
and that your wish
for privacy isn’t moti
vated by shame.
D ear M s . B ehavior :
Your recent letter
from Disillusioned
saying all gay rela
tionships are fake
and all about sex was
really sad.
My lover and I,
who have been
together for 28 years,
share a full and happy
life, and it’s not all
about sex. We have many friends who
are also happy lovers.
Believing that love is not possible
between two men sounds like brain
washing by moralists who will try to
demean any possibility of two men
living happily together. The poor guy
sounds like he has a strong case of
internalized homophobia.
If Disillusioned thinks he would be
immediately happy in a heterosexual
relationship, he is quite mistaken. He
would carry his baggage with him.
Perhaps Disillusioned expects too
much from a relationship— that it will
fulfill all his needs and be a bed of non
demanding roses. I know people who
run away after the first conflict with a
partner, when infatuation is punctured
by the sharp points of reality.
Any worthwhile relationship
requires honest self-examination and
real caring. If you are in a relationship
to be loved, it’s the wrong reason. It’s
more about loving another than self
ishly seeking an admirer.
I see a lot of guys who are seeking
acceptance and mistake it as love. They
would be far better off if they looked in
the honesty mirror and learned to
accept the human realities and frailties
in themselves and in their lovers.
— Gay, Happy and In Love
D ear G ay , H appy and I n L ove :
Thank you and dozens of other
happy homos who wrote in to
affirm that beautiful love exists
between men.
jn
Write your confused and conflicted
heart out to Ms. B ehavior at
MsBehavior@aol. com.