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can get e-counseling. Here2Listen.com is an
online counseling service offering “therapy
from your couch.” Services include a gay
and lesbian room and message boards.
R esources
BOOKS
D ykes w ith B aggage
edited by Riggin Waugh. Alysson Publications, 2000; $12.95 softcover.
An anthology of essays on every aspect of lesbians in therapy imagin
able; both amusing and instructive, especially for anyone contemplat
ing seeking counseling.
B eyond A cceptance : P arents of L esbians & G ays T alk A bout
T heir E xperiences
by Griffin and Wirth. St. Ma rm ’s Press, 1997; $12.95 softcover.
W hen a parent or friend hears for the first time that someone they
love is gay, the feelings can range from bewilderment and confusion to
fear and anger. Based on discussions and interviews with parents of
gays and lesbians, Beyond Acceptance provides knowledge and infor
mation that will help parents come to understand their children and
build stronger relationships with them.
S traig ht P arents , G ay C hildren : I nspiring F amilies t o L ive
H onestly a n d with G reater U nderstanding
by Robert A . Bernstein. Thunder’s Mouth Press, 1999; $13.95 softcover.
The author is the former national vice president of Parents, Families
and Friends of Lesbians and Gays, and this is his personal account of
coming to terms with his daughter’s homosexuality and how coming
out not only liberated her but enriched his own life.
INTERNET SITES
www.virtualcity.com/youthsuicide/links 1 .htm
Despite the limiting words in the URL, this is a giant, compre
hensive site for all m anner of articles and links on every topic
imaginable having to do with counseling and therapy in the gay
and lesbian community. Some of the section headings are: Identity
Formation and Coming Out;
Homo-Negativity/Phobia;
Transgender/Transvestite/
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Transsexual; Religion and
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Male Suicide Problems; Cou-
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tion/ Spousal Violence; and
Counseling and Therapy Facts A bout Homosexuality and Mental Health: A Histo
ry. Plus information on pro-gay counseling programs in public high schools and the
opposition of them by right-wing political and conservative religious groups and
m uch more.
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www.ksu.edu/ucs/gay.html
T his is the full text o f a comprehensive brochure for college students, “Valuing a
Gay or Lesbian Self-Identity,” full of advice on considering counseling and an
interesting list of gay myths exploded, which could be useful when confronting
hom ophobic relatives.
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