november 17. 20ÛÛ ■ Ju s t M il 3 COMMENTARY by M a r t y D a v is The IN publication for the OUT population F ounded 1983 • J ay B rown and R enee L a C hance A rt D irector • R upert K innard Vol. 18 No. 2 November 17, 2 0 0 0 Good cop, bad cop Kroeker conflict provides potential for growth and understanding FEATURE ROUND TWO: Now that the mayor has come to the police chief’s defense, where do we go from here? P 23 NEWS NORTHWEST • It takes a village to raise a child PP 5 -1 5 NATIONAL • Campaign 2000 victories and victims; gay philanthropist pops the Quark pp 1 6 -2 0 W ORLD • European Union Council of Ministers makes history PP 2 1 -2 2 ENTERTAINMENT & CULTURE ROOKS • A literary legend lights up Portland pp 33 FILM • Best of the fest P 34 ART • Butchin’ it up at PNCA p 35 CULTURE • Signs of change in the Deaf community P 37 ROOKS • Edgy new books p 30 FILM • Boy toys p 39 DIVERSIONS • Behavin’ and cookin’ and dancin’ even acceptance, it seems to me we in turn owe this same tolerance to ate into election night— about midnight, as I recall— I walked those who hold views different from our own. away from my television in a stunned blur to e-mail the Just Out It’s not a one-way street, this tolerance, this understanding, this staff. In this message I repeated the horrific words that just had respect. We can’t demand people accept us while in turn condemning been broadcast: George W. Bush has been declared president­ them for holding views separate from our own. elect of the United States. People seldom agree with each other. There are more ways to dis­ 1 laid out the fact that we now had the onerous task of figuring out agree politically, philosophically, spiritually and culturally than there are the potential ramifications of this presidency and its impact upon gays stars in the sky. and lesbians for coverage in our Nov. 17 issue. The Nov. 17 issue is here As we demand tolerance, acceptance and respect, we also must now, and I have to say we haven’t made much progress with the follow­ strive to give it in return. U .S . citizens have belief systems rooted and up to that memo. based in generations o f family, history, religion, culture, ideology, tra­ The good news, of course, is that Bush is NOT, for the moment at least, dition and values. president-elect. The bad news, however, is that no one else is, either. The current struggle to accept, tolerate and understand homosexuality W hile the nation awaits the Florida finale, here in Portland the gay is hard for many, many people. Homosexuality goes against the very and lesbian community continues to struggle with our own vote of core of their beliefs. confidence in Police C hief Mark Kroeker. W hat we have We see it in our parents, our neighbors, our families and now is a situation with tremendous potential for increased now our police chief. Many good people are trying hard M any good people understanding and growth between the sexual minori­ to adapt their beliefs to a rapidly changing world and ties community and all levels of the police depart­ are trying hard environment. ment— from the neighborhood patrols right on up to I think Kroeker is one o f these people. I base the 15 th floor. to adapt their beliefs this statement on my own conversations and Since the Kroeker tapes became public, I have to a rapidly changing world interactions with him and my faith in my own noticed heavily increased usage— in conversation, in intuitive abilities. the media, in explanations, in speeches— of the word and environment. Others interested in making their own assessment “tolerance.” It seems to be an easily and frequently will have the opportunity to address their concerns used word. I think Kroeker is and questions to Kroeker in a community meeting Although this usually is regarded as progress, I’m not one o f these people. Dec. 11. (The specifics as to time and location will be that happy with the notion of being tolerated. To my mind, presented in the Dec. 1 issue of Just Out and will be posted people tolerate those things they actually dislike but are forced at www.justout.com as soon as they are available.) If you are to accept because they realize there’s nothing else they can do. attending this meeting and plan to bring your anger, frustration and pain, We tolerate mosquitoes while camping, rain in July, noisy neighbors I ask you to consider also the following scenario. and the Portland Trail Blazers. We don’t necessarily like or respect these U.S. Sen. Gordon Smith and his efforts to promote the anti-gay things; we just put up with them because there’s no other choice. Republican Party platform and to elect Bush as president posed serious Is this kind of tolerance we want from the straight community? threats to the well-being of the gay and lesbian community. The Human Wouldn’t it be better if tolerance was merely a step, or perhaps even just Rights Campaign gave him an award. a phase, on the way to higher levels of understanding and respect for At the same time, many are stepping forward to condemn a man for each other? 10-year-old words that have not once been reflected in his performance, And in order to achieve these higher levels of regard and respect, don’t behaviors and actions since becoming police chief. Let’s work together to we need to give credence to the notion that all these concepts are based turn this crisis in confidence into an opportunity for building respect and on mutual tolerance, mutual understanding and mutual respect? As the gay understanding. i n and lesbian community reaches new plateaus of public tolerance, perhaps pp 4 0-41 REFLECTIONS COLUMNS M S . BEHAVIOR • Playing footsie p 31 THE GOSPEL ACCORDING TO MARC Do you believe in fairies? p42 Ju st out ia published on Che first and third Friday of each month. 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